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To unlike the Unmumsy Mum (FB related)

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wibblypig1 · 04/05/2015 19:14

Are you aware of her work? She blogs on Facebook and Twitter about how crappy parenthood can be. Generally her posts are brutally honest and funny, but it's the sycophants that blow sunshine up her arse (but in an OTT stalkerish kind of way) and mostly the moms who wax lyrical (littered with SPAG errors) about how they're constantly covered in puke and shit from their kids, and other repulsiveness that make their lives as mums a constant round of disgusting situations.

I think for a new mother reading it, their stupid dramatic ramblings make it all sound more oppressive, terrifying and repugnant than it actually is. I am a mother of 2, and yes, sometimes IT CAN BE GROSS, but by no means is it gross every day. It's a shame, as the Unmumsy Mum's posts are helpful on the off days, so you don't feel like you're doing a shit job and not the only one that hates going to the park, but the divs that are only too keen to share their kids medical history in such a vulgar way have spoilt it for me... They're the same sort that cram Facebook with details of their poor kids ailments, as if we all really want to know (not to mention the lack of privacy for the poor kids) and how awful it is for the parents (but obvs the kids don't mind being poorly, and being slagged off by their parents to the whole world for creating extra washing and keeping them awake for a night or two).
RANT OVER.... Oh, I feel better getting that off my chest....

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PassMeTheFrazzlesPlease · 06/05/2015 21:22

Well, looking at her latest post, it seems very likely that she has seen this thread. A sensible response, in my opinion.

Buglife · 06/05/2015 21:37

I've read a few of her posts, it's ok, but I get annoyed by the parenting blogs that seem to think they are the first to feel this way. 'Hey mums! I'm not like you! I'm not mumsy!'. You can enjoy your baby (and I have enjoyed the baby stage with DS) without being some kind of 50's style perma happy mum. There isn't much in between the mummy craft dedicated SAHM blogs and the 'quirky, realistic, think they are the lone voice of not liking parenthood' blogs. Parenthood, in general, is like life in general, shit parts and good parts. I'm not too interested in extreme views either way.

Bluestocking · 06/05/2015 22:39

As far as I know, the original unmumsy mum and a very early example of a mommyblogger, if not the pioneering mommyblogger, is the mighty www.dooce.com

She's become a massive business enterprise now and is no longer interesting to me but for years her blogs were the real deal.

SwirlyThingAlert · 06/05/2015 23:35

Can't stand her. Why did she have kids? I'm not saying it's always a bed of roses but even her name, unmumsy is insulting. Feel sorry.for.her kids

You don't like, don't read. Simple. Bit harsh and OTT to say you feel sorry for her kids based on blog posts.
Some people blog the beautiful things, and Instagram the shit out of everything lovely and small people running through the meadows all rosy cheeked and sniffing flowers.
Other people have the exact same beautiful day out but choose to blog about the fact the lovely rosy cheeked flower girl was 5 minutes ago having a major tantrum because she wanted to eat said flower or sit down in the middle of a cow pat.
You need a happy balance of twee and raaargh OMG kids are doing my head in blogs.
Because life with kids ISN'T all buttercups and daisies, even though they're beautiful all the time. Some people like reading the less than perfect ones as it makes them realise that life isn't always covered in a pretty Instagram picture.
Her latest blog post sums it up better than me, well said UnMumsyMum (and NO I'm not her before anyone asks!)
theunmumsymum.blogspot.co.uk/2015/05/too-honest-you-say.html

WobblyHalo · 07/05/2015 06:46

I like it. I struggle with parenting and prefer her style. Maybe I just have the same sense of humour, I just can't get it out onto paper like she does.

workhouse · 07/05/2015 07:55

Other people have the exact same beautiful day out but choose to blog about the fact the lovely rosy cheeked flower girl was 5 minutes ago having a major tantrum because she wanted to eat said flower or sit down in the middle of a cow pat.

Exactly, but UnMumsyMum and the other "honest" mum bloggers are promoting themselves as more real than the glossy perfect Mums. Whereas they are all just writing to suit their own agenda.

No one is saying that she is too honest, no one believes that the perfect Mums are real. It would be refreshing and more honest to write about how it really is. A mixture of fun and awful.

StarlingMurmuration · 07/05/2015 08:41

I've to say, I have PND and her blog makes me feel less alone and less like the shittiest mother ever after a bad day. So if you're reading this, Unmumsy, thanks.

Calloh · 07/05/2015 08:59

YABU

I'd never seen the blog before but I think it's very amusing and perfectly captures the consternation/hysteria I felt at my young children's actions - especially when there was no one else around to share a WTF with.

I think she writes well, I don't see how anything she says can be seen to be trying to make other people feel shit - i don't think it is smug or self-congratulatory, it is just trying to find the amusing out of a fairly tough time.

Good on her

Nervypreg · 14/05/2015 17:08

oooohhhh, hit a nerve have we?! She doesn't like this post, does she?!
A little ironic really, she's allowed to moan about how crappy her life with kids is, but doesn't like someone saying how crappy they find her blog! Confused

Nervypreg · 14/05/2015 17:09

I hope we make it into the film BTW - I want someone really cool to play me.

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