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To unlike the Unmumsy Mum (FB related)

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wibblypig1 · 04/05/2015 19:14

Are you aware of her work? She blogs on Facebook and Twitter about how crappy parenthood can be. Generally her posts are brutally honest and funny, but it's the sycophants that blow sunshine up her arse (but in an OTT stalkerish kind of way) and mostly the moms who wax lyrical (littered with SPAG errors) about how they're constantly covered in puke and shit from their kids, and other repulsiveness that make their lives as mums a constant round of disgusting situations.

I think for a new mother reading it, their stupid dramatic ramblings make it all sound more oppressive, terrifying and repugnant than it actually is. I am a mother of 2, and yes, sometimes IT CAN BE GROSS, but by no means is it gross every day. It's a shame, as the Unmumsy Mum's posts are helpful on the off days, so you don't feel like you're doing a shit job and not the only one that hates going to the park, but the divs that are only too keen to share their kids medical history in such a vulgar way have spoilt it for me... They're the same sort that cram Facebook with details of their poor kids ailments, as if we all really want to know (not to mention the lack of privacy for the poor kids) and how awful it is for the parents (but obvs the kids don't mind being poorly, and being slagged off by their parents to the whole world for creating extra washing and keeping them awake for a night or two).
RANT OVER.... Oh, I feel better getting that off my chest....

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MoominKoalaAndMiniMoom · 04/05/2015 20:20

Much prefer Sanctimommy.

Worst parenting blogger for me has to be that bloody Alpha Parent. Never encountered a more smug, self-congratulatory, bitchy blogger.

Lime8 · 04/05/2015 20:28

I don't like those posts. Comes across as very Ungrateful and offensive to people with fertility problems. Just to warn you, I started a thread about this very topic a while back but it got deleted as people started fighting!

Szeli · 04/05/2015 20:29

had a look - never heard of her before. just a bit boring and creating drama out of non issues. i am in no way an earth mother, in fact my DH will tell you compared to him I'm fairly pants but she doesnt sound unmumsy she sounds fairly incapable Hmm ah well enough folk have bought in for it to pay off

Nervypreg · 04/05/2015 21:34

I find it funny in places, but other things have been done to death such as hating soft play. I like Toddlers are Arseholes - now that book is funny, and I relate to it big time (a 15lb urine soaked nappy made me howl).

Parenting is tough, but the smooth far outweighs the rough.

parsnipbob · 04/05/2015 21:37

Good god, her kids aren't going to grow up and be traumatised by it Hmm

parsnipbob · 04/05/2015 21:39

And to whoever said it's offensive to fertility problems, I'm sorry but no it isn't. It's very sad if you can't/ have trouble having children but it doesn't mean that others have to pretend parenting is great all the time.

And I say that as someone with ongoing fertility issues.

Ifyourawizardwhydouwearglasses · 04/05/2015 21:42

I think she's already posted on this thread.

disclaimer: the above is unfounded suspicion. I don't know for sure either way

I love Hurrah for Gin. The stick people drawings crack me up.

Flingmoo · 04/05/2015 21:57

Is it a bit like Scary Mommy? ( American I know) Followed that a while back and haven't got around to unfollowing/unliking/whatever.

In general I'm sick of blogs that follow this format:

10 things no-one told you about having a baby

1.You will literally never sleep, ever

  1. You'll still be fat for years afterwards
  2. Life as you know it will end
  3. You'll be changing nappies all day
  4. You won't bond with your baby immediately
  5. Childbirth will be the most torturous painful experience you can't even imagine 7. Your entire life will be ruined
  6. Breastfeeding will be completely awful, painful inconvenient and you'll soon give up
  7. Etc. Etc. Etc.

Whenever I read those kind of things I'm like Hmm because 50% of it I've been told a billion times before so not exactly "no-one warned you" material (e.g. everyone pissing on your bonfire when you're pregnant by droning on about how you'll get NO sleep once the baby arrives), and the other 50% is just untrue: shock horror, some of us actually enjoy our babies/children...

(I guess being mostly happy with my life makes me boring, uncool and unrelateable...?)

meglet · 04/05/2015 22:01

Yabu.

Her blog amuses me. I'm a permanent tired stress so it all sounds normal.

LimeFizz · 04/05/2015 22:04

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workhouse · 04/05/2015 22:10

Blimey these people seem to make awfully heavy weather out of being a parent, it's not that hard.

ForgotThatIWasFine · 04/05/2015 22:26

I like it Grin

Becoming a parent was nothing like I'd expected, there were no blogs like this when my eldest was little but if there had been I might not have felt like such a freak for finding it so bloody wearing.

Nearly 11 years in and I'm still driven crazy by the relentlessness of it all Hmm

Lime8 · 04/05/2015 22:50

Parsnip, I find it offensive. Great that you don't! I have kids but when I was going through fertility issues I would have done anything for one of those annoying kids that god forbid, likes soft play, parks and throwing tantrums in tesco! There is a fine line between telling a funny story and sounding ungrateful/resentful.

As I said in a previous thread. I prefer blogs that give advice, tips, shortcuts, reviews of products etc.

wibblypig1 · 04/05/2015 23:42

Oooh - do you think she is reading this...?! waves as I said, it's not actually her posts, it's the morons that comment on her posts on her blog. A PP said about Facebook putting you off people. Now that definitely is true in this case. It's good to hear others are struggling at times, but its the attention seeking catastrophising of situations that gets my goat, like they should get a medal. Some things are better not discussed in graphic detail in my opinion!

Well said Mamushka - I hate hearing no.7. And even though some people feel like that, you can't send the kids back for a refund if you decide that motherhood is not for you, can you?

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thehumanjam · 04/05/2015 23:48

I've read her blog and it's dull. Reading about parenting is dull whatever angle you are coming from. When will people stop with all this "look at me look at me" shit? It's really crap.

cococandyfloss · 04/05/2015 23:52

I think she is a mumsnet blogger isn't she? I found her posts quite amusing at first and it was a good variant to all the 'pinterest' super mums ..but now I am finding them a bit samey and want her to have a really fabby fun non messy day now and again! It is good to read if you are having a rough day and feel like you don't live up to the usual amazing facebook newsfeed of people enjoying their gorgeous babies..sometimes you need someone else to appreciate your crap mum days too!

VivienScott · 05/05/2015 00:51

Hang on a minute, I'm not the only person who hates the park! Thank f for that! I've been guilt tripped about parks for years.

Dieu · 05/05/2015 09:19

The park is only good when your kids are a bit older and you can sit on your arse and read a book. Before that, purgatory.

Coastingit · 06/05/2015 18:21

She's written a blog post today basically replying to this thread Grin or her perception of it at least.

She thinks she is very edgy and the first blogger ever to do a 'warts and all' style blog - she really isn't.

Here

Cadenza1818 · 06/05/2015 18:26

Can't stand her. Why did she have kids? I'm not saying it's always a bed of roses but even her name, unmumsy is insulting. Feel sorry.for.her kids

thehumanjam · 06/05/2015 19:45

It's not specifically her blog I dislike, it's all parenting blogs. Parenting is dull and tedious at times, I get that but reading about other peoples parenting is even more dull and tedious. I have zero interest in other peoples children and parenting styles.

If I'm going to read a blog it will be a travel blog or swanky interior blog. I
want escapism, I don't want to read a blog that sounds like a typical day in my house.

Bluestocking · 06/05/2015 21:02

Aw, poor old Unmumsy! Did someone not like her dreary drivellings? Boo hoo. She can wipe her tears on her book contract.

Ifyourawizardwhydouwearglasses · 06/05/2015 21:14

Hmmmm I think some of the comments here are a tad mean. If you don't like it then there's no need to be a twat about it.

AldiQ7 · 06/05/2015 21:17

Gosh people are mean! I did really like her, and some of her blog posts are so funny and really resonate to my very core! Although, I have to say recently I find them a little bit samey. And I know what ou mean about the replies - there was once a post about her baby doing a big poo or somejing, and in the comments someone posted a picture of their kid absolutely covered in a fuck tonne of shit, it was really disgusting and quite inappropriate really!

I always assumed she was a mumsnetter

Her blog is a refreshing change to another page I follow - a woman who makes lovely kids clothes and seems very lovely, but my god, mummy martyr doesn't come close!

pictish · 06/05/2015 21:17

It's rare the blogger/writer/journalist/random on the internet can write about parenting/motherhood in a genuinely interesting or humorous way. I'm going to check this Unmumsy person out. Never heard of her.

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