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To be slightly sad that ds is so tall?

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Wideeyedcarrrot · 03/05/2015 23:11

Ds is 5 and 10 months and currently in age 8 trousers and age 8-9 tops. He's 134cm and has been tall since he was born. Shoe size is now a 1 and a half.
His dad is 6 foot 5 and his grandads are both over 6 foot. His uncles are all 6 foot 5 or 6 foot 4 so I guess he was ever likely to be tall which is nice but I wish he'd slow down a bit. Firstly because it's more expensive to buy larger clothes but secondly and mainly because we are now pushed into the older boys' sections and I've had no time at all in the cuter younger boys' sections! Most of the younger styles stop at 6. Ds was wearing age 6 when he was 4 so effectively he's been two years ahead for a while.

I know his growth will slow down and level out but in Next today I was looking at the nicer stuff he could have if he was in a 5-6 rather than an 8-9. Maybe not nicer, more she appropriate perhaps. Younger styles.

I cannot do much about it I appreciate but I still feel slightly disgruntled every time I go clothes shopping!

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TheMagnificientFour · 04/05/2015 20:46

I agree OP.
One of the issue I have is that people always assume that dc1 is older than he is so are expecting to behave 'older' iyswim.
Clothes don't reflect his age either.

BUT, if that helps, dc1 is now 12yo and switching between adult size Small and 14yo child. And things have settled down a lot as he prefers plain or stippy stuff which means he can wear bigger sizes wo looking out of place iyswim.

Never had an issue with the trousers. dc1 is swimming alot and now has a (well toned but) 'big' bottom so never had an issue with trousers dropping from his waist. the fact that most trousers have elasticated waist anyway now helps too!

Rowgtfc72 · 04/05/2015 21:00

Dd has just turned eight and is 137 cm tall. I've just had to buy size five school shoes and an age 13/14 summer dress that will maybe see her out this summer. God knows what I will do next year. I buy ladies size six for her, fine in length but she has nothing up top to fill tops and dresses. She's long of back so trousers are a no, everything is across her bum and when we do find pants that fit I have to cut loafs off the bottom.
She is treat very differently and always has been from the tutting on the bus when my three year olds having a tantrum but looks six, to people asking me how she will get to senior school in september on her own as I walk her at the minute. She's year three. Best one was the swimming instructor telling her off for being a big girl in the baby group and really pushing her to swim. Had to step in and point out she was the youngest.

SouthWestmom · 04/05/2015 21:01

Hey Hiwcanitbe no, the paed was overruled by the consultant (cost I suspect) and so we are waiting for another appointment . The deficiency is a fact, after a day in hospital having a test, and it's just unkind to use language like that - being tall, although tough, is transient whereas being a short man is still a permanent difficulty.

Howcanitbe · 04/05/2015 21:13

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SouthWestmom · 04/05/2015 22:07

I'm not sure what it was called - a day in hospital having regular blood tests? (Dh took him) - paed felt it was sensible but they have a consultant cone down to discuss the cases _ I'm still waiting to hear why from last summer as I had to chase up the outcome - I was waiting for it all to start and then rang only to get a call back saying it had been decided against.

slippermaiden · 04/05/2015 22:11

Wow that is tall! I have a tall boy, he is 7.5 years and 134cm, but wears age 7 clothes. Mini Bodens clothes range goes up to age 13, h and m has nice boys stuff too.

Bodyinpyjamas10 · 04/05/2015 22:16

Sorry noeuf I was using the term referring to me being 5'1''.

I certainly meant no offence and am very sorry if I caused you any.

Sincere apologies.

slippermaiden · 04/05/2015 22:21

Rowg - my daughter is 135 age 7 and a half, she wears age 8 dresses to school, why does your daughter need such big ones?! I find lots of people saying how much they have to size up on clothes for their tall kids but I don't seem to.

Momagain1 · 04/05/2015 22:24

I understand. My ds is not quite that far ahead of average, he is almost 8, but the last year has been hard because he wanted the characters and friendly animals of the littler boys clothing. He is almost 8 and still not keen on scary animals or superheroes (because they fight) nor sports stuff (not a fan yet) on his clothes, so I have had to hunt around for solids and stripes instead.

He still wants CARS stuff, which doesnt seem to exist for big boys, but M&S has some american route 66 retro themey stuff that I hope will do.

gobbin · 04/05/2015 22:36

tall is good! it's a sign of masculinity and strength!
fully grown, would you rather he was 6'5'' or 5'5''?

What a twatty thing to say! My DS is 5'5" at age 18 and is perfectly masculine and strong

One of his school friends was v tall while my DS always was tiny. At age 11 guess which one impressed others most - the lanky one who looked 15 and acted 11 or the mini one who looked 7 and acted 11!

slippermaiden · 04/05/2015 22:40

Gobbin I think the person who posted that was trying to make the OP feel better, that's all. I'm tall and ginger...

SouthWestmom · 04/05/2015 22:47

Thank you pyjamas. It's a bit of a touchy subject - he's lovely and cute now but that doesn't really work for you as you get older.

SingingSamosa · 04/05/2015 22:56

I can sympathise as my DS is also very tall. He's 3 now and already towers over all of the reception kids in DD's class. My issue isn't with the clothes - although it is a pain finding clothes that are long enough but don't swamp his waist - but with the fact that people look at him so disapprovingly when he's being a bit naughty, because they think he's so much older than he actually is. I feel so sorry for him having people think he's 5 or 6 years old and so should be talking/listening/acting much better than he is.

SecretNutellaFix · 04/05/2015 22:57

My nephew is 4 yrs 7 months. He currently fits size 6-7 clothes comfortably- he's 119cm tall and a size 13 shoe.

I like Pumpkin Patch for clothes for him as they aren't too teenagery. It's hard to find stuff he will like. He loves tractors and diggers- he is quite a young 4, doesn't really know a lot of the characters his friends do, so he isn't in to Spiderman or other superheroes yet, he doesn't have access to a games console. He does like Transformers, especially Bumblebee, but it's not easy to find character stuff for him.
This year I am struggling to find his favourite colour tops- yellow is obviously out this summer for small boys.

Keletubbie · 04/05/2015 23:01

My DD is 7. Size 3 feet. Wears age 12 clothes. Past my shoulder and I'm 5'7.

Clothes shopping is a nightmare.

sweetcheeks2014 · 05/05/2015 00:27

DH is 6 ft 9, DC both on 99th centile. DC1 in age 4-5 clothes at 2 years old. Constantly asked why I have not sent DC1 to nursery yet, why still sleeping in a cot etc etc. DH remembers his parents always going on about cost etc of clothing him and needing several pairs of shoes per year in additional to being very aware of how tall he is and how much he stood out. He felt that his parents felt his height was a real millstone in terms of choosing a car and as a child felt guilty that he was costing them so much money. (They always go on about the cost of everything i am not kidding- Xmas day opening gift- me I really like this so nice just what I wanted PIL well I am pleased it was very expensive- 5 mins later it was £XX you know). I can see that all the problems re. clothes PP have written will also affect us and I am concerned at the sexualised clothes early. Think it is commendable all the effort PP's are making to help their DC's feel confident about their height and their care to do their best to source age appropriate clothes for them.

MrTumblesBavarianFanbase · 05/05/2015 06:45

Tbh our main problem has been ds being told to get out of under 6 area at play centers (both times it happened he was 5 and gently trying to play with his rather wild then 2 year old brother), and worse him accepting being hit around the head with a large stick by a "little" boy (who was the same age as him but shoulder height) at Kindergarten and coming home with a black eye - he didn't know what to do as the boy was "only little" and other mums laughed - luckily the mum of the boy hit him was furious with her boy and thanked DS1 for not pummelling her son! They're actually friends now...

Final things we've had are compounded by living in Germany but visiting family in England and sounding English - at 5 DS1 hadn't started school and looked 7 or 8... He couldn't read (which is utterly standard for a 5 yo German child) but he joined in activities on trips out in the UK and was expected to read English text - in particular a behind the scenes theatre activity was awkward when he was put on the spot and asked to read a passage aloud - he's quite shy and burst into tears... The activity was for 4-8 year olds so I hadn't guessed they'd be asked to read...

Staying with him at parties was also awkward when he looked like the oldest guest but was the youngest and shyest. ..

I do think older boys have an advantage through being tall, but it's a disadvantage to a child.

Clothes here are sized by height, which I think is miles more logical "sizing up" or down makes the whole thing value laden - not sure why clothes in some countries are sized by age as there is such a vast range of height for age...

SoupDragon · 05/05/2015 07:08

tall is good! it's a sign of masculinity and strength!

I'm sure my DD, and my 6ft tall adult niece, will be delighted to know their height is a sign of masculinity and strength. :o

WyrdByrd · 05/05/2015 09:14

My DD is 10yo.

She's a couple of inches shorter than me (and taller than my auntie and two of my friends) and only one she size below mine.

We've had to resort to buying small ladies size clothes now as even teenage ones barely cover her backside .

Rowgtfc72 · 05/05/2015 16:30

Slipper,if she was just tall we could get away with a couple of sizes bigger but because she has a long back nothing begins and ends where it should do. Tops are too short but sleeves are too long, trousers graze her bum but too long in the leg. Her school dress has a waistline that is almost under her armpits when she stretches up. Dh has the same problem. He needs 3xl so his middle is covered but can then get me in there with him.

Minifingers · 05/05/2015 16:33

YABU - at least he sounds like he's in proportion.

My ds (9) is wearing 13+ clothes because he has such a big bottom.

groovejet · 05/05/2015 20:14

I think clothes shopping is very difficult at either end of the spectrum, both my dd's are smaller than the average which can be limiting especially for dd1 who will be 11 soon whilst not a massive issue atm but once she is in secondary and her friends are wanting to go clothes shopping together it could start being difficult for her.

It is a shame to see comments like "tall is good! it's a sign of masculinity and strength!" my youngest dd has been teased for her height and it does come from other parents, whether it is indirect like the above or more direct negative comments and it is difficult. Both my daughters accept that they are short and know to try not to let it bother them as is simply who they are but it is harder when they hear stuff from adults.

Howcanitbe · 05/05/2015 20:52

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comingintomyown · 05/05/2015 20:56

Agree my DS is 6ft 5 and it amazes me how check out staff think it's fine to ask if I put him in a grobag , they wouldn't do that if he was very overweight but somehow height is ok to comment on.

Plus be warned I hope by the time your tall DS s are his age things are changed but buying trousers is just horrendous !

TheWildRumpyPumpus · 05/05/2015 21:20

Ds1 is 7 and 150cm, size 4.5 feet.
DS2 is 4 and 122cm, size 1 feet.

The only downside I've found is that people expect a lot more of them than smaller children (unreasonably sometimes).

DS1 hates the fact that without fail, people say "wow aren't you tall", or "you've grown again".

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