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To be slightly sad that ds is so tall?

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Wideeyedcarrrot · 03/05/2015 23:11

Ds is 5 and 10 months and currently in age 8 trousers and age 8-9 tops. He's 134cm and has been tall since he was born. Shoe size is now a 1 and a half.
His dad is 6 foot 5 and his grandads are both over 6 foot. His uncles are all 6 foot 5 or 6 foot 4 so I guess he was ever likely to be tall which is nice but I wish he'd slow down a bit. Firstly because it's more expensive to buy larger clothes but secondly and mainly because we are now pushed into the older boys' sections and I've had no time at all in the cuter younger boys' sections! Most of the younger styles stop at 6. Ds was wearing age 6 when he was 4 so effectively he's been two years ahead for a while.

I know his growth will slow down and level out but in Next today I was looking at the nicer stuff he could have if he was in a 5-6 rather than an 8-9. Maybe not nicer, more she appropriate perhaps. Younger styles.

I cannot do much about it I appreciate but I still feel slightly disgruntled every time I go clothes shopping!

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Mermaidhair · 04/05/2015 06:07

My son reached 175 cm at 11, he is a little bit taller than me. He loves his height, and is always showing me what he can reach. Clothes shopping is ok so far, it's the shoe shopping! I haven't been able to buy his shoes from the kids department in years, i recently bought him the largest size they have in men's shoes. From now on it will be at specialist shops. He is so tall and handsome and Iove his height

Princess28 · 04/05/2015 07:42

Reading with interest. My son is 4 and 4 months and he's 120 cm tall and size 13 feet. Everyone always assumes he's older and it's difficult when he acts like a 4 year old! My husband is 6'4" and I'm 5'7" so he's going to be tall. He's not brilliant with stiff trouser buttons but clothes seem to stop being elasticated at age 5 (he's in age 6-7).

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 04/05/2015 07:45

I hear ya. The younger girls ranges are full of the clothes I love on DD..leggings and dresses..but she is 8 and in age 10-11 (142cm tall). Luckily Fat Face do nice dresses up to age 13.

QueenofLouisiana · 04/05/2015 07:54

DS is 9 and in 11-12 clothes so I get what you mean. I used to get trousers in Primark for him as they were slimmer, but at his size they now don't do the pull on waists. H&M do, so I bulk buy there. If you go to France, the clothes for boys there tend to be slimmer cut- the supermarket jeans are good!

However, tall and slim turns out to be the perfect build for some sports- yay! DS finds sports events great as he can see other boys build just like him being successful.

BikeRunSki · 04/05/2015 07:55

I totally get you OP!
DS is 6.7 and 130 cm, also v skinny. It's not about getting clothes to fit, it's about getting age-appropriate clothes. He wears a lot of H&M stripey tops and coloured jeans. He's just growing out of age 6-8.

I was gutted when he was 4 and wanted fire engine wellies and he was already out of the biggest size I could find in any novelty wellies.

And as for school jumpers! He's only in Class 1 and is in the second to last size they make.

BikeRunSki · 04/05/2015 08:02

Everyone always assumes he's older and it's difficult when he acts like a 4 year old!

This . Particularly because dS had some behavioural issues arond 3-5. Mind of a 3 year old in the body of a 6 year old.

Even last weekend a lady at the Scouts St George's Day parade kept trying to get him to go with the Cubs, even though he was clearly wearing a Beaver uniform.

OinkBalloon · 04/05/2015 08:05

I know what you mean about 'cute' clothes - why can't a child in size 10 clothes, whether they're aged 8 or 10 or even 12, have Bob the Builder pjs?

However, the hunt for decent quality, well-fitting clothes that are age-appropriate or simply appealing (and don't cost the earth!) is merely an annoyance. YABU to find it a reason to wish your dc was different. You're setting yourself up for a worse struggle when they start choosing their own clothes, and you don't want to accept their tastes.

(I, too, have a dc who has always looked 2-3y older, plus another with sensory issues who is very particular about what they will wear.)

CharlesRyder · 04/05/2015 08:07

We have this with very tall 4.8yo DS. He is in 7-8 or 8 for everything, although at least they do fit perfectly as he is built like a tank as well as being tall.

It has cost gods own fortune as he has needed a whole new set of clothes every 'season' and now stuff really has to be from the more expensive places (Boden, Polarn) to be age appropriate. I will not dress a 4yo as though he is about to go out to a nightclub, sorry Next.

On balance I'd probably rather he was tall though, especially as he is August born (he is the tallest in his class though!).

mumofthemonsters808 · 04/05/2015 08:18

I have the same problem, my five year old is very tall but he is also very skinny, so things that fit him in the leg, are way too big on the waist. People think he is a lot older than he is and expect him to act older. He is also very shy and timid and his height seems to increase his ackwardness, but I'm glad he is tall because I think height is a wonderful thing, it's one of the few things I actually like about myself.

19lottie82 · 04/05/2015 08:21

tall is good! it's a sign of masculinity and strength!

fully grown, would you rather he was 6'5'' or 5'5''?

SouthWestmom · 04/05/2015 08:24

What a nasty post hiding

sourpotato · 04/05/2015 09:08

Wow, hiding. What a horrible thing to say.

Howcanitbe · 04/05/2015 09:13

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raviolig · 04/05/2015 09:16

My dd is 5 and in 7-8 or 8-9 clothes and is a shoe size 1. I am 5'11 so it is not unexpected but she used to be skinny as a rake and has now filled out, broad shoulders and is just generally very solid. People often think she is 7 or 8. I hate the sexualisation of the older girls tops. I like her to wear long tops as her trousers are always falling down at the waist, but it is a struggle to find any ATM. Crop tops everywhere! We have taken to long vests in different colours under all her clothes. But I do feel like she will have more options than I did. I was 5'11 at 11 and used to have to wear men's trousers for school because women's weren't long enough!

grannytomine · 04/05/2015 09:26

My son is in his 20s now, he was always tall and is 6ft 3in now. It has definitely got disadvantages, the thing I resented most was paying VAT on his shoes when he was still at primary as he was in adult sizes, this was despite the fact that his feet were so wide I had to have shoes made for him so definitely not for an adult.

I also hated that he was always expected to be the sensible one in a group of kids as he would look 2 or 3 years older than his friends even though he was one of the younger ones in his year.

As an adult he has just got a match on waist and leg length which he is really pleased about. He is also able to wear standard shoes as the width/length got into sync.

One thing that is difficult as they get older is they can be a bit of a target, you know if he is out with friends and some drunken fool starts throwing his weight about he will decide to go for the biggest target. For me this is the worst thing.

carabos · 04/05/2015 09:31

DS1 was on the 97th centile. He was head and shoulders taller than every other kid all through primary school. I got a lot of behind the hand comments from mums who didn't know him but saw him in the playground about how he must be developmentally delayed to be "held back" in primary school when he clearly should have been in secondary.

He remained tall until he was about 13 /14 when everyone else shot up around him and caught up. He's now 29 and a not-very-extraordinary 6ft 1in. They all grow at different rates, and in spite of genetics (I'm 5 ft 4 and his father 5ft 8). Don't fret over sonething you can't control.

ClaimedByMe · 04/05/2015 09:34

My dd is 12 and still at primary school, her legs are longer than mine, she wears a ladies size 10 leggings, she can still wear age 15/16 on top, she shows no signs of stopping growing either she's head and shoulders above her peers, it is hard to get her age appropriate tops.

The shoe thing bothers me too she has size 6 feet but at least she's stopped stealing my shoes now her feet are bigger than mine!!

Charlotte3333 · 04/05/2015 09:38

DS1 is enormous, height-wise. He's 9 and takes a size 7 shoe. His Dad is 6'4" and the men in my family are all 6'5" or taller so he's simply taking after them. We struggle with bottoms; his school trousers are age 13 and enormous around the waist but only just fit his leg length.

DS2 is just 4 and wears age 6/7 clothes for the leg length, so looks set to be equally tall but is broader-set than DS1 so looks like a teeny-tiny rugby player with his massive shoulders. It's difficult sometimes, but Next and Gap are high street heroes for tall children. And I love Joules tops as they seem to not swamp their slim frames.

StarsInTheNightSky · 04/05/2015 10:02

YANBU, ds is very nearly one year old and he was measured at just over 3 ft tall and 37 lbs by the doctor last week at his routine health check. We live in a country (not the UK) where people are pretty tall but ds still towers over his peers.
He grew out of his infant car seat at 3 months old (head was dangerously over the top no matter how I shuffled him about, and his shoulders were to broad even with all the extra padding taken out, he was in age 1 yr clothes at that point) and he's now growing out of his convertible car seat. He's still rear facing but his shoulders are getting too broad for it.
He's absolutely fine and in proportion but we get the comments about his behaviour and people saying that his speech is behind (is actually very advanced for his age) as people always think he's at least 2, he can walk and run unaided and he looks older facially too. Still, DH is extremely tall and I'm pretty tall so we though he would be quite big. It is v annoying when people stick their oar in though, and then start telling you that you should be worried that he's so big .

zoemaguire · 04/05/2015 10:06

Tall men do have it easier though. Ds at nearly 5 is on the 0.4th centile and nobody believes he is at school already. He is certainly cute, but when he is 15 I worry he will have it tough:(

Notstayingup · 04/05/2015 10:15

DD is 5yrs and 6 months and is 128cm and 30kg - she is wearing 8-9 summer dresses in reception. She wears a size 1 shoe, dances like her limbs aren't attached and flails around the swimming pool. im not worried, shes just a mini me - i do get a bit at the 'isnt she tall comments' i'm like no shit sherlock! AND woe betide anyone that passes any comments about typical 5 year old behaviour because they assume shes 8 - they will face the wrath of me!

Dont worry OP, he is perfect. please don't let him hear you make it a negative, embrace the lankiness!

AuditAngel · 04/05/2015 10:23

DS is 10 (11 in August) and until this term has always been the smallest in his year at school. DD1 by comparison is just 8 and about 1inch shorter than her brother.

I can see both the advantages and disadvantages of the height/lack of height issue.

I think height is a bigger issue for the girls clothes, as already mentioned, due to the sexualisation of the girls clothes.

daisyswirl · 04/05/2015 10:26

Dd is 11 and 166cm tall with size 6 feet. I find it very difficult finding age appropriate clothes for her as she already looks like a mini adult with a curvy figure. I like next clothes but i have to order online because its only up to age 12 in the shop. Otherwiae its size 10/12 from h and m or primark. She seems to grow so fast.

18yearstooold · 04/05/2015 10:29

Dd has just turned 11 and is 5ft 8 with size 7 feet

She could easily pass for 16 and its a nightmare buying clothes for her

dixiechick1975 · 04/05/2015 10:40

You would think high street would catch on. I have a very tall girl. From memory the next and m and s younger girls range stopped about age 6, so age 4 for dd. she still wanted to wear nice dresses like her friends when she was 5 not the older girls stuff. I used to buy American clothes like Gymboree, Boden, monsoon and tkmaxx. She is 9 now and 5ft ish wearing age 12. Mostly wears Kylie from m and co, h and m and m & s have been good this year t shirts jeggings and some shirt dresses.

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