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to be furious with DD's nursery?

48 replies

StepfauxWife · 01/05/2015 23:04

My 20 month DD goes to nursery full time and I'm very happy with it. But this evening, I took her nappy off before her bath and noticed it was the same brand as the one we use at home. Nursery uses a different brand. The nappy was very heavy and smelly - several wees worth.

I'm starting to think they didn't change her nappy ALL DAY, so she probably had the same nappy on for almost 12 hours. The thought makes me so sad Sad

I've emailed the nursery asking for a discussion. We're on holiday now so I won't see any of the staff for a while. Surely I am not BU and this doesn't happen anywhere else? I'm satisfied with every other aspect of the nursery but this has made me unbelievably angry Angry

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CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 01/05/2015 23:06

No, that's not right. I hope the nursery engage properly with you and can reassure you that it wouldn't happen again

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StepfauxWife · 01/05/2015 23:08

I hope it was just an oversight but I can't understand how it happened. They have set nappy change times and a chart to monitor wees and poos. So I don't get how it was missed. There might be a reasonable explanation (they might have switched to the same brand as we have at home) but it was seriously heavy. Poor little thing Hmm

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ragged · 01/05/2015 23:09

It's unacceptable but don't let it spoil your holiday. Your DD is fine, it was an oversight but had has no real impact. You can speak to them when you get back, put it out of your mind until then.

CountingThePennies · 01/05/2015 23:13

If it was the same nappy from this morning then her clothes would of been soaked

Lj8893 · 01/05/2015 23:15

If my dad (18 months) was in the same nappy for 12 hours her clothes would be sopping!

Lj8893 · 01/05/2015 23:15

My dd, not my dad!

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StepfauxWife · 01/05/2015 23:19

I don't think her clothes were wet. She was probably in that nappy from 7:30am until around 7pm. They usually have a nappy change at nursery at 4pm.

I'll wait to raise it with them, sure it was just a one-off error but still not great.

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littlejohnnydory · 01/05/2015 23:19

I only ever change nappies if they poo or if the nappy is exceptionally heavy. Wouldn't you have noticed sooner if it was a very heavy nappy? It is definitely normal for nursery to have scheduled nappy changes but I don't think it's the end of the world.

AuntyMag10 · 01/05/2015 23:20

I would wait to speak to them first before assuming she was left in it the whole day. Her clothing would be sopping wet if so. Also maybe the nursery ran out and used another brand.

Permanentlyexhausted · 01/05/2015 23:33

YABU to be furious with them before you've spoken to them to find out what's happened. Do you think this is something that happens regularly? (I guess not since it sounds as though your DD has been there for a while.) Was your DD upset about it at all? Surely if she'd been in the same nappy all day you would have noticed the moment you picked her up, not just when you undressed her for her bath.

Speak to the nursery and hopefully they can allay your concerns.

AmateurSeamstress · 01/05/2015 23:39

Talk to them first, get their side. They might have just switched brands.

If they did leave her all day, that's unacceptable, but she is none the worse for it so just crack on with enjoying your holiday now and sort it out by phone orin person (not by email) when you get back.

I would expect a nappy to be heavy and smelly after 4 hours. If she has really lasted 12 hours I would want to be checking whether she is drinking enough - I know they last 12 hours at night but not with 3 meals plus drinks in between! But there are other explanations, wait to hear what they say first.

AmateurSeamstress · 01/05/2015 23:42

PS you were doing well to bath her between bringing her home at 7pm and getting to your holiday!

BigRedBall · 01/05/2015 23:48

If my ds's nappy had been left 12 hours at 18m he would've had all the absorbing crystals seeping out and wet clothes. Same with dd.

I'd also talk about how much water she's drinking there all day. Also, that means she didn't poo either. My dd is 18m and still poos twice a day at least. Is this odd for your dd?

Bowerby · 01/05/2015 23:53

I'd. be asking questions. They'll either have a response or you'll be able to tell they're lying

OutragedFromLeeds · 01/05/2015 23:54

She probably did have the same nappy on all day. Her clothes wouldn't necessarily be wet.

It's just human error though. It happens.

It's not good obviously and you should raise it with them, but I wouldn't be furious unless you're the one person on earth to have never, ever made a mistake or dropped the ball (in which case it must be difficult for you to understand human error so fair enough).

SistersofPercy · 01/05/2015 23:56

So on a typical day she'd go from say 7.30am to 4pm in the same nappy?
My kids are old now and I'm guessing nappies have improved but even that seems a very very long time to be wearing the same nappy let alone to 7pm.

laughingcow13 · 02/05/2015 00:15

Mark the nappy you send her in

laughingcow13 · 02/05/2015 00:17

I very much doubt it was the same nappy

rebelfor · 02/05/2015 00:43

I only ever change nappies if they poo or if the nappy is exceptionally heavy.

Seriously?

PeppermintCrayon · 02/05/2015 01:08

littlejohnny what the hell?

Supersoft · 02/05/2015 02:17

I agree with little Johnny. Why change a nappy unless it is poo or very heavy? I doubt very much the nursery let your dc go 12 hours without a change of nappy. Talk to them before accusing. they have probably changed brands. Worse case is your child is severely dehydrated, in which case you have every right to kick up a major fuss.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 02/05/2015 02:20

God my DS wouldn't have stayed dry for that long - he'd have soaked through to his clothes after about 6h.

It is shocking though - I hope her bum isn't too sore? Do have a word - at least check first if they've changed brand though - and say that you are disappointed that she was left so long in the same nappy.

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StepfauxWife · 02/05/2015 07:57

Thanks for the responses - I've calmed down now! You're all right, there may will be an adequate explanation for it. They usually buy nappies in bulk so doubt they ran out but they may have done. It's a lovely family run nursery so I imagine they'd be mortified if they had forgotten.

DD usually poos once in the morning so not unusual for her to only have wet nappies during the day. Nappies are usually changed at around 10,2 and 4. She has just moved rooms so perhaps her key worker isn't quite as diligent.

DD said her bum was a bit sore. She's otherwise fine so no harm done but I will talk to them when we're back from hols.

Thanks for the responses.

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Fairy13 · 02/05/2015 07:59

12 hours in the same nappy in a childcare setting is not an 'oversight'. It is neglect.

My nursery give out sheets with times that DS was changed. Did they do this? They should be recording this.

Nappy should be changed minimum 4 hourly.

That said, I think the most likely scenario is that they changed brand and she did a big wee... I just cannot believe that a nursery setting would 'forget' to change her all day.

Christelle2207 · 02/05/2015 08:07

We almost have the opposite problem. Our nursery are a bit over diligent and change bums several times a day at set times- DS is usually in his fifth nappy of the day when I pick him up which I think is wasteful and unnecessary especially as he rarely poos there. However I can see how the best system is to change all bums at set times. Find it hard to believe that a nursery could not change a child at all all day but if it happened I'm sure it was a one-off.
Do speak to them about it when you get back but don't let it spoil your holsSmile