To ask you to talk me out of doing something stupid ...

[UsedtobeFeckless]

I've had a miserable day.

Setback at work and messed up something I was working on at home. Final straw ... Just been on Facebook and seen a post tagging a friend who told me she was busy all week with this work assignment that she just had to finish and so couldn't come to the cinema and she's guess where ( Clue - watching the film I wanted to see ) with her BFF from work. I want to post something sarcastic along the lines of How's the essay going? You snake But I know I'll wish I'd gone for dignified silence when I calm down ... Help!

Step away from the keyboard

How about 'Have fun, I saw it at the weekend and it was CRAP!'

Seriously, step away from the screen. You know there's no point.

No help sorry,I usually go in guns blazing,or seeth for weeks then blow.
Maybe just post "how was the film ==snake==."at the least it should make her feel guilty.

That's pretty shitty.
Don't put anything on FB. I would mention it to her though.

i like Wyrd's suggestion of what to say.

I don't think I could help myself but say something tbh.

You could say you're a bit disappointed in her in a mock patronising manner; that would really make her feel crap and small!

Step away, if you need to vent do it on mn.

Strike through fail

If you want to say something to her have a proper conversation about it. Don't do it on FB.

Ahh tbh I have had weeks where I have declined invitations and not wanted to schedule anything for the evening because of work but then got to the end of the day and gone out for a meal or something because my brain has been jelly. Given that she hasn't tried to hide it at all I would give her the benefit of the doubt. It's not likely she's genuinely using film screenings to plot against you.

Thing is, if she'd been straight with me I wouldn't be pissed off!

Do you want to see XXX? Sorry, I'm going with Cowbag Work Chum ...

Why fucking lie about it! It's not that I won't get to see it, I can go with DP, I've known her for decades, we've been friends since school, why fucking lie!

I would presume that since she didn't say that she was going to see it with someone else then that wasn't her reason for declining. It's more likely to have been a spur of the moment thing?

It was Cowbag Work Chum who posted but she tagged C ( Friend ) so it showed up on my wall ...

I hate Facebook.

Sarcasm? Try soo pleased you got to have some down time. X. Walk away let her come to you.

Just 'like' the post with no further comment.

It'll shit her right up

What a meanie friend.

I'd comment. But then I'm petty and would say, 'Glad you finished that assignment. Heffer.'

maybe it's time to take a FB permanent holiday....

C has always been honest to a fault. It probably was a spur of the moment thing. I'll wait and see if she suggests we go next week ( What she suggested when she said she was busy ... ) Why am I so upset, though? I feel really hurt - it's only a poxy film, it's not worth having a row about, but I don't want to see her - I won't be able to look her in the eye ...

She should be embarased not you. She lied. She could have told you she had time, you could`ve gone too.

Op she probably didn't lie, and she probably genuinely was busy! I do shit like this all the time because I am a spur of the moment person and often find my best laid plans are waylaid. I could easily have done that- said no to a friend because I planned to work like a dog all week, the accepted an offer of a colleague who was working on same project to escape for a few hours at the last minute without thinking of the friend I had turned down to work... In fact I have probably done this!

Aaaargh.

She posted something about her phone and I asked how the film was ...

Shit.

Although I actually feel better. I'm really awful at pretending I'm fine when I'm not.

Its one thing to be spur of the moment, another to to be FB - think FB has a lot to answer for -

Honestly I'd just address it with her. Not in an angry way, because I seriously doubt she has lied or meant to hurt you, but it sounds like she's an important friend and that it might benefit the friendship to air your feelings. Yanbu for feeling this way but if she is an important friend Id try to let go of the anger and give her the opportunity to say what happened. Chances are it was something like she was panicking about work and intended to work ridiculously long hours, then caved in from the pressure and went off to do something in the evening. If she was keen to reschedule it is unlikely to be about you. But try to put it out of your mind - definitely not losing energy over. Sorry you had a crap day - hope the rest of the week is better.

dont blame facebook. The 'friend' must have known you would have seen the status at some point. Question is why would she do that unless she was a somewhat false friend. Sorry to say that OP she should have been more honest with you.

Step away. You know it's the right thing to do.

That said , I do still regret not saying anything when twatty ex-colleagues organised a team reunion and didn't invite me (and only me) I know it gives me the moral high-ground, but I really wish I'd said something.

Madly cheerful reply offering to go again next week with me.

Fuck that.