AIBU to ask if anyone have 2 DC in full time nursery in London?

[PennyJennyPie]

...because we have just done the calculation ahead of DC2's arrival and essentially a 50K pa income will not cover it.

To clarify, the lowest paid of us is on 50K, and after calculating the nursery costs for the year when both DC1 and 2 will need a full time nursery, it is more than that.

Neither of us are keen on being a SAHP and we have no family to do any childcare. Arguably, we have also not chosen the cheapest nursery, but rather one where we feel comfortable with DS spending 5 days a week. We also very much prefer a nursery setting rather than childminder.

AIBU to feel punished because we both want to work and have children? How do other people do this?

Also do consider where you live too. We couldn't afford to live in the centre of London and everything out here (zone 5) has always been cheaper - flat, childcare, hair cuts, just about everything so do consider living in Watford, Wembley or wherever where childcare might be cheaper and your nanny comes to your flat or house each day than right in the centre of London with the most expensive nurseries in the country.