Hi everyone
Just wanted to get some insight into what I consider to be very petty on behalf of SIL but not sure if I am being petty for thinking it petty!
So my mum passed away this week after a long and tough battle with dementia. Funeral is next week and we decided it would be nice for the 4 older cousins (aged between 11-16) to read a verse each of her favourite poem, and all cousins (2 younger ones included) are going to say some of their favourite memories.
My DH sister and I have been emailing about the poem/memories just laying out who will say which part etc. In my email, I used the word "paragraph" instead of "verse" when talking about the poem. The response I get from SIL:
Hi J
Yes think that will all work nicely! DCs are just finishing up writing their memories- will send to you when done.
Cxx
p.s it's a verse not a paragraph!
Um..really? I'm not offended as such I just think it's unbelievably petty. The thing is SIL and I have never exactly seen eye to eye. We never had a big bust up or anything but we are SUCH different people and our personalities completely clash. I have a pretty dark, snarky sense of humour. She is fairly thin skinned and takes offence easily and is often mortified by darker humour. It's fine, not an issue, we're just very different. We hadn't seen each other since about 2001 but in 2012 my DB had a stroke (he's fine now) which forced us to spend more time together, and actually everything was fine. I think we were both pleasantly surprised at how easy things were between us. We haven't spoken/seen each other much since but I really feel like we're on fine terms we'll just never be BFFS.
She has always had a bit of a hang up academically though. Her family are all highly academic- (both parents doctorates, MSc herself and her brother doctorate also). DC2 is highly academic, DC1 not as much but still well above average.
My side of the family are not academic really at all. Both myself and my DB (Not her DH, other DB) are dyslexic and struggled a lot at school but I was always very arty and am now an illustrator. DB very dyslexic but has a great job working in IT. Other DB (her DH) by far the most academic out of all of us, but still "just" an undergrad in philosophy but from a RG. Neither of my parents went to uni. SIL has admitted before that her mum is an "academia snob" (Which she is) but it seems SIL has become like it too! I've always felt like she looked down on us all a bit.
It just felt like this was such an unnecessary dig and I have no idea whether to even mention it in my response. As I say I'm not offended I just think it's such a silly thing to even mention. I mean really WHY bother? Am I over thinking this? What would you all think/do in my shoes??