Name changed regular.
Long story cut short, my brother was married to a lady with learning difficulties and they had a son. Son now 8. His wife could stay at home independently with the baby, but could not meet his needs long term on her own if that makes sense? She was always very paranoid and eventually left him due to her having suspicions that he was after a visa (we are not UK nationals, but settled in the UK for many years so visa certainly not an issue)
Her family were very much on board with her as they always had reservations about my forrin brother. They had a good relationship though, could see he looked after her and the baby well etc. Brother had every weekend access, she always made accusations of abuse that were always investigated and deemed to be untrue. Contact during these investigations was always stopped and/or supervised. Social worker report always stated that it was clear that the boy was being manipulated to say certain things etc.
My ex SIL is now in a relationship and is pregnant. (We didn't know this as the boy is always picked up/dropped off with his maternal uncle, so no contact with the mother) My brother got weekend contact again several months ago after an abuse investigation (which again was proved untrue) and got a phone call from social services calling him for a child protection meeting. We were all really shocked, went along for the meeting where his ex wife was with her advocates, 17 other professionals in the room ranging from nephews school teacher to paediatrician to police officer.
We were allowed access to the report half an hour before the meeting started and we were totally horrified at what we read. It was something out of your worst nightmare. How nephew frequently masterbates, encourages classmates to do the same, tries to touch adults genitals etc. Also according to school teacher is emotionally disturbed, has constant anxiety outbursts in class. This is not the loving, friendly boy we know at the weekends!!!
All of this came about as mother claimed that nephew is sexually abusing her boyfriend (!) and claims that my brother instructed him how to etc. There is something we are not being told, a few times my ex SIL went to say things and a police officer said "I advise you not to say that" etc. Her boyfriend is supposedly banned from her home (due to these allegations) but nephews social worker wrote in his report that nephew is frequently sent outside so that boyfriend can enter the house as she cannot cope on her own.
Sorry this is so long, basically the chairperson (?) concluded that ex SIL is not aware of the importance of keeping nephew safe and he is now on child protection list/register. It was stated that nephew is emotionally abused (confirmed) and at likely risk of sexual abuse and neglect. We are completely devastated, can't believe that we haven't been told this before and obviously we are distraught for nephew. My brother has now applied for full custody, all of previous SS reports were positive about how he has a great bond with DN etc.
My question is, if one child is on child protection will the unborn baby automatically be? We are so keen to get DN out of this situation. I can't believe that this has gone on for so long (report states concerns about DN's sexualised behavior/emotional disturbance several years ago) and no one has raised it, let alone a child being allowed to stay in this situation. Court date in 8 weeks so DB has supervise contact until then.
Many thanks if you have read this far!