To be peeved that friend has another good sleeper

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First child slept through at 4 months old and new DS is now doing 11 hours at night at 4 months!!

Meanwhile my DS (nearly 2) woke at 1:30am thirsty then insisted on lying on top of me then drank so much water he peed through his nappy!

Obviously I'm happy for her not really, I'm incredibly bitter

Wouldn't change DS for the world but did secretly hope she would get a rubbish sleeper just so she could understand my pain.

Please flame away - I'm obviously a horrid person!

DD was an excellent sleeper until 9m. And even in her worst sleep regressions we've got at least 7hrs out of her. DS is a good sleeper so far too, though 2.5 weeks is early to tell. I know mums who hate me for this though I've never once boasted about it (or even mentioned it unless directly asked!), and always stress that I know it's pure fluke!

What you may not see is that DD has SN and dietary issues and has spent her first 3yrs clinging desperately to me in a scary, unpredictable world and I've had a lot of worries about her. And very few people seem to get how hard DS's projectile vomiting is to deal with.

There's always something. I don't know any mum who doesn't have problems.

If you're judged as unreasonable, then so what? You're entitled to be if sleep deprived!
By the way, it is swings and roundabouts. My middle son wouldnt feed properly or sleep v well for the first year. I was beside myself with anxiety. He's now a strapping, muscly, sporty, v intelligent boy. Still hard work at times, but he has me in stitches with laughter every day without fail! There will be a silver lining. Chin up OP. You'll get there. Wish you all the best

My eldest ds and youngest ds slept through from roughly 3 mths with a dream feed at 10pm. I agree that routines are the way to go, BUT all kids are different

DD did and does the 12 HR stretch even ebf at 2 months old. Now she's over 1 and still does 11/12 hrs plus naps.

But the first two were blighters! Woke up pretty much every hour for at least two years.

I am still luxuriating in sleep

I have good sleepers - I'm still exhausted. By the time I've got the two toddlers into bed and the baby asleep, it's around about now. I'm just procrastinating on mumsnet before I go put some washing in, do the washing up, tidy up the toys, consider dinner, forget about dinner and finish the work I didn't manage before I left at 5.30 to get home in time to feed the kids and put them to bed. Then it's midnight, so I sneak upstairs to brush my teeth and change for bed, then take baby to bed, feed her for an hour or so, go to sleep at one am, wake at five am to feed the baby for an hour, go back to sleep for an hour, wake up at seven, take baby into bathroom while I shower, get older two out of bed, into uniform, give them breakfast, shove a rice cake in the baby's face and leave at 8am to get to work if I'm lucky.

I am starting to struggle to use words in every day conversation. I feel like I'm a bit pissed, all the time. I also want to punch my husband when he says he's tired.

8 year age gap here but had 2 amazing sleepers, from literally a couple of weeks old.
Now, 12 yr old struggles to settle, has AS and never seems tired.
4 yr old no sen but like her brother, never seems tired.

If someone would have given me the choice I would much rather have had babies awake at night rather than older children.
I was once smug over my great sleeping babies, now I keep quiet:)

My ds1 and ds2 were great sleepers as babies and right the way through to adulthood
DD hasn't slept through the night from being 2ish but was great as a baby, she is 11 now.
It gets easier as they get older and they can't all be the same.
There are plenty of adults who aren't good sleepers, but probably not what you want to hear.
I know its hard and frustrating when they are little.

YANBU. Take heart though - DD1 was an absolute delight at sleeping through from birth, I had to wake her for feeds from them start. She's 10 now, can move and talk and is far too big for me to just plonk her in a cot and hope she settles down. DD2 was a different story as she had reflux of The Exorcist variety, but I often feel cheated I was lulled into a false of security .

I've had six good sleepers, most of them slept through the night before they were two months old and the latest was six months

'Tis nothing but luck

If it makes you feel better my earliest sleeper (11 or 12 hours a night from six weeks) is now a teenager and a complete pita who gives me the odd sleepless night and drives me round the bend, so swings and roundabouts really

My DS has always been a great sleeper. I panicked when he was 16 days old, as he slept through from 10pm to 7am and as I woke up before he did, I ended up poking him to make sure he was still alive!

He slept through from 7pm to 7am at about 3 -4 months.

What I found annoying was being asked about his sleep habits by other parents and then being accused of showing off! Don't bloody ask me then lol. I was asked by one Mum 'how I did it'. I said I wasn't sure, but routine may have played a part, black-out blinds and not letting him sleep too much in the day. She then proceeded to tell me I was talking crap. Then don't bloody ask me, just to slag me off.

I learnt very quickly to never tell anyone I had a good sleeper for fear of the green eyed monsters wanting to attack me. It was a conversation I would completely avoid.

You have every right to be peeved. Remember thought that kids can cause you trouble at ANY age...maybe your poor sleeper will go through school, adolescence etc. like a dream whereas your "lucky" friend has it all ahead of her.

i have had 3 DD's who were all great sleepers. My friends were all insanely jealous. My eldest DD was killed when she was 5. No-one was jealous of me after that.

cashew. I am so sorry.