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Original poster

Klaxon: abscess in friend's mouth. AIBU? I'm bloody not...

53 replies

Alchemist · 22/04/2015 21:38

She complained several days ago about "a sore mouth". She came round today after being at A&E to have it lanced and drained. She said that the Doctor told her it was the biggest he had seen and commented on the extremely pungent odour of the pus.

I swear this thing, even after draining, was FUCKING HUGE.

AIBU to end our friendship?

It would have been such a lovely day out together. Sad.

Plus she would not allow me to take photographic evidence. So Sad.

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ImNameyChangey · 22/04/2015 21:39

YANBU to end the friendship purely because she refused photos! Shock
How rude! Did she not know about us?

honeysucklejasmine · 22/04/2015 21:39

I think you mean "ex-friend".

EeyoresTail · 22/04/2015 21:41

I don't say this often but LTB!
Appalling behaviour by a so called friend Shock Grin

TheCunnyFunt · 22/04/2015 21:41

Shock Atrocious behaviour on her part. How could she not know about a bunch of strangers on the internet would pay good money to see this!?!

End the friendship right away.

FenellaFellorick · 22/04/2015 21:42

she doesn't deserve you.

HootyMcTooty · 22/04/2015 21:42

You deserve better from this friendship and so do we Grin

ElizabethHoover · 22/04/2015 21:43

did her breath not HONK?

JohnnyDeppsfuturewife · 22/04/2015 21:47

YA definitely NBU. I would be devastated if I had been let down like that by a so-called friend.

Have some Flowers and an unmumsnetty hug.

Original poster
Alchemist · 22/04/2015 21:48

Okay, there's a tidbit more...

She said I can say it. Good lass, really.

She has two teeth on a bridge. When she woke up this morning and knew she had to attend A&E as her bridge had popped out overnight because the abscess WAS SO BIG.

Shock
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ElizabethHoover · 22/04/2015 21:48

she really sounds er... lovely

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/04/2015 21:51

Some of my friends wouldn't have understood. I think unless someone is willing to indulge your sporningness, they aren't a 'best' friend.

WizardOfToss · 22/04/2015 21:55

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Original poster
Alchemist · 22/04/2015 21:57

She is lovely.

However, she obviously did not learn to share. Even more Sad.

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BlacknWhitePanda · 22/04/2015 21:57

How dare she? Refusal to take photos is just!! She is no friend!!

Original poster
Alchemist · 22/04/2015 22:01

Truly, it is still magnificent but she is in pain and on AB.

Don't care. Feel as though I wasn't invited to the party.

I must find some new interests. Grin

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ThisFenceIsComfy · 22/04/2015 22:05

Tbh fuck just getting a bloody photo. I would want to know why I wasn't invited to A&E so I could see it being lanced.

RedCheckedTablecloth · 22/04/2015 22:06

Can I chip in?

My DH has a HUGE cyst on his eyebrow but is being a bit precious about it.

Can I whack it with a Bible or The Complete Works of Shakespeare?

I have both at hand.

His GP has told him to wait for six weeks before seeing a plastic surgeon.

[Twitches]

kennyp · 22/04/2015 22:06

i might be a bit odd but a friend of mine had her abcess on her finger lanced and i was desperate to see it being done, except i couldn't get time off work.

are you joking in saying you're not going to be friends with her anymore?!?!?

blacktreaclecat · 22/04/2015 22:07

I would have loved to drain that. I hardly ever get proper juicy abscesses to drain these days :(

ThisFenceIsComfy · 22/04/2015 22:10

You know what's really sad?

I've never had a boil.

RedCheckedTablecloth · 22/04/2015 22:12

My ex-dh let me once pop an ingrowing hair on his chin.

It was at least three inches long and pure white and curly and looked like a plait with loads of gunk. Left a nice clean hole.

That is the only thing I miss about him.

Original poster
Alchemist · 22/04/2015 22:18

kennyp I will probably still be her friend once I've recovered from my huff. Grin

blacktreaclecat Oh! No matter how infrequent, I imagine you would get great joy and memories from draining an abscess.

Bit jealous.

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mardyelsie · 22/04/2015 22:19

Years ago my Granny was in hospital, and she had a carbuncle on her hand. The doctor came in to drain it, and asked me to leave the room. Of course I refused! Now that was impressive.

catgirl1976 · 22/04/2015 22:23

YANBU

DH once had a gigantic in-growing hair thing on his shoulder. Wouldn't let me near it.

Then, I went to clean the shower, looked up and there was an impressive spray of blood and pus all over the ceiling of the en-suite shower. Fucker had popped it and not let me see. From the remains it was clearly a total explosion.

I've not felt the same way about him since. I made him clean up the mess, but I missed it :( He wouldn't even describe it. Just went all coy and stupid. Fucker.

Shockers · 22/04/2015 22:27

I have just decided to re-train as a lancer of boils.

Can you imagine a more satisfying career?