DH spending time with female neighbour

[jujo01]

Long story short. DH spending a lot of time with recently separated neighbour. All socialise together, but he stays on after I come home and once fell asleep on the sofa, came home 5am. Got fed up and said it's too much, must stop. He finally agreed. Then last week, when I was out, went over there and shared a bottle of wine. I came home and caught him coming out, after he had lied that he was home watching TV. Gave an ultimatum, which he accepted. When I asked what he had told DSS, said 'I've told him I'm not allowed to go there any more'. AIBU to expect more support than that, feel totally sick about the whole thing.

I don't get all this evil looks and threats to OW - if she thinks she has hooked your DH she won't give a monkey's toss how you feel or how scary you look. Sorry.

What's this colluding with DSS - that is v suspect.

I would see a solicitor and find how hard you can hit his pocket if you decide to leave. At the moment he is having fun and can see no down side.

ptumbi My point was that people usually embark upon relationships with people they find attractive and that everyone finds different people attractive, however more men are likely to find a slim, pretty 25 year old attractive than a morbidly obese 60 year old with missing teeth. I'm sure you can see that as the OP described this woman as attractive that there is more chance her DH fancies her than not. As for the personal insults, I could drop to your level but will just report your post instead.

rich

But what's the point to
Your point?

As a married woman I find other men apart from dh attractive and sexy.

I still don't shag them as I love dh.

As a married woman I find other men apart from dh attractive

My point is that you're probably more likely to have an affair with your neighbour if you're attracted to him.

The fact he was lying about where he was WHILST she was there, listening says it all really. If I was simply friends with my next door neighbour and he was lying about being at mine I'd feel incredibly uncomfortable, in fact I wouldn't have him round again!
She likes him, clearly. She knows you don't want him there and couldn't care less. It screams affair op.
I couldn't trust him now, if it's innocent you don't lie, if it's innocent you wouldn't have to insist he doesn't see her, he'd be uoset you thought he was up to no good and willingly not go round and he wouldn't tell your child "I'm not allowed round there" like a stroppy teenager.
This would be it for me, living next door to her and trusting him to never go round? Sorry, not a chance :(

No shit, rich? .

No you could live next door to anyone and fancy them but that's it. If you want to stray you will stray on your doorstep or away.

It's not distance it's mindset.

'I fell asleep on the sofa.' That one is as old as the hills.

I second the suggestion to keep quiet and try to get the facts yourself by checking phone and email. It would seem to me they are already having an affair and if so, you won't get the truth or any compassion from either of them.

Fuck spying on phone and emails. That way leads to madness and accusations of being a stalker.

Take your time figure out what you want and then tell him straight. If he loves you he'll back off her if he's havibg an affair only you know if you both can and even want to fix that damage. Don't let him suck you back with promises and lies, in my experience he'll break them all.

I think it's my first ever LTB (based on my own experiences and can therefore disregarded should you wish) but don't let him make a mug out of you OP

"Fell asleep on the sofa till 5am"? Yeah, he's fucking her. Throw him out.