Aibu to be raging at hearing noisey eaters!!!arrhhhhh

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Crunchy fucking crisps
Munching poxy Boiled sweets
Slurpy drinks ffffffffs!!!!!

Dh is horribly noisy eater as he has a constantly blocked nose , big slurpy in breaths with each bite and a clacky jaw. I know he can't help it due to asthma but It drives me silently insane .

Please, people. Most of the people you are complaining about are perfectly normal and polite eaters. My dd has misophonia and it ruins family mealtimes. We all eat nicely, but I know the stabby feelings are real to her. . YANBU because you can't control how you feel, but please remember it might not be other people's bad habits which are causing the issue.

I don't mind normal eating habits, but it's unnecessary noise that irritates me, particularly people eating with their mouths open.

yanbu. My colleagues sound like wild animals when they eat. How hard is it to close your mouth when you chew and not slurp drinks.

YABU to be raging. MY mum's jaw is "clicking" when she is chewing. She can't help it. And it annoys me.
YANBU to hate it though.

I can tolerate normal, polite eating habits. It's eating with your mouth open, shoving too much in, slurping food from a spoon (my fil is particularly guilty of that, I have to make an excuse and leave the room while he finishes) and slapping your chops loudly that makes me feel so irrationally cross.
Dh likes food that crunches and will 'airate' his food, I.e. With his mouth open. I have 'a look' and he will either move to the other side of the lounge or I'll leave the room til he's done. It has a vibration that I feel within my ear that is irritating and almost painful. Similar to his snoring. It's a good job I love him!

I can't stand any eating noises at all. I really struggle to be in a room with people eating. I have found that background noise helps (but only slightly). I have to be right near the radio or something to try and drown it out.

I definitely get the fight or flight (although more fight to be honest). Nothing makes me rage more than chewing, swallowing, gulping, sipping or anything eating related.

Misophonia goes beyond a normal reaction to annoyance. Your body reacts the same way it would as if you were being attacked together with absolute white hot rage.

It's not limited to eating sounds, someone whistling has made me have a panic attack.

When triggered I've hurt myself because I can't escape the noise and the emotions are too much. The worst reaction I've had was punching a glass panel on a bedside table, it shattered and I ended up with stitches and scars on my knuckles. There is no amount of therapy, mindfulness, cbt that has helped. The only thing that helps is not hearing these noises. Earplugs really are a godsend ones used for hunting and gun shooting.

I'm sorry your dd has this mablebable it's an unfortunate club to be a part of. But the silver lining is that it is becoming more recognised, and there are many research projects happening here and in America which will hopefully shed some light on it and provide some ways of coping with it.

There's no clear reason why people react like this to hearing certain everyday normal noises. I am very much in the neurological camp and believe it's an evolutionary trait gone haywire.

Oh I'm another one who can't stand the plinky plunky sound of wine! Or a coke can being opened. Or milk being poured into cereal. Or rice crispies going 'snap crackle and pop'. Arrrrrgggghhhhh!

It's horrendous, isn't it? I only found out that it was an actual condition on here when I started a thread yonks ago about being worried how much I wanted to hurt people who were eating!

I feel actual rage. I have palpitations and feel murderous. It a horrible, horrible thing. I hate the person who is eating. It's a physical feeling in my chest.

custard. ice cream. trifle. why the feck does my OH clatter his teeth together really noisily when eating such foods???? doesn't happen with crunchy or chewy food, just the bloody mushy stuff .

DS has always had trouble eating around others if they eat noisily or slap their chops when chewing. if someone eats with their mouth open, i may as well remove his food and pass him a sick bucket.

LongDistanceLove - sorry you have suffered so much. We try to make it easier for dd, but sometimes we ALL end up raging!!

DH is a noisy eater and drinker.
We don't have a cup of tea in bed without other noise or I would be charged with battery - it drives me fucking doolally to hear him.
DS is noisy with certain foods - like cereal which is incompatible with me and mornings!!
DD1 gets 'the look' for eating with her mouth open - I am. Illy more forgiving during hay fever season as she is often bunged up but there's nothing to blow.

I mean, we usually have the radio on, and dd can leave the room if she needs to etc, but when she gets really angry with us all sometimes it gets too much. I feel really sorry for her, but there's not much else I can do.

Oh, and clanking down on cutlery can send me up the wall too. Use your lips, not your teeth

DH thinks I'm a bit mad because of my insistence that people's eating noises bother me. I manage not to stab anyone. But I could happily kick anyone who eats noisily right in their teeth. He says I do a "hens arse mouth" look that means I'm about to go batshit.

The DC's are fairly well-mannered at the table and haven't ever really eaten with mouths open but when their friends come to play some of them chew with mouths open and the DC's take no time in telling them "we eat with our mouths closed in this house". I'm secretly a little proud that they are such ass-kissy-eaters!

My dh has an uncle who needs to get his false teeth sorted as when he eats they click and clack with the added sound of the food getting pushed around them. Truly horrendous. Whenever we have him for a meal I either have the radio on in the kitchen or we pretend we're having a 'picnic' style meal and we eat in front of the tv which is on LOUD.
My dh actually had a meltdown a few years ago about Christmas saying he couldn't got to his folks as the eating noises were going to ruin his enjoyment of his favourite meal.
Whenever we all get together the extended family all rush to grab a seat furthest away from the clicky clacky teeth

I react like this to some things, though I think it's part of my Asperger's.

DH eating mushy foods. Yes, he keeps his mouth shut, and eats politely, but even so the sloshy noises give me the rage. I have to eat at the same time, my own eating noises in my head are the only thing I've found to satisfactorily drown it out.

My dad drinking tea in bed on holiday. Thankfully this didn't happen too often (I am fine with him drinking tea at other times, it's specifically bed tea that is the problem), else I really think I would have made him wear his tea at some point. He would do a big blow, so that you could hear the waves of tea lapping at the opposite side of the cup, then a slurpy little sip, then smack his lips 3 times before repeating.

Certain whingy noises that DD (age 2) makes. I've been explaining to her that noise makes mummy's head hurt, so can she use her big girl voice. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, depends what mood she's in. If she carries on whining I have to totally (mentally) block her out- this only works for a certain time, then if she hasn't stopped I need to get away before I explode.

I have Misophonia too, and I can cope with people who eat with their mouths closed mostly.

My OH on the other hand, and his whole family, clearly have never been taught table manners! He eats with his mouth open, chews non chewy food with that horrible teeth sound, makes slurping noises, and one of the most irritating sounds is him eating a magnum, I have to leave the room or put my headphones on.

It does genuinely set off my fight or flight response!

My dd has misophonia and it ruins family mealtimes.

I totally agree with this, the kids get annoyed with their dd as he constantly says stop making that noise, can you not eat without making that noise, stop eating like a pig etc. The kids are just eating normally.

Annoyed with their df

Another one here… since finding out it's an actual thing it has helped and actually I find things much more tolerable because I know I'm not just being horrible, selfish, intolerant. When there's background music or chatter it's largely ok, except when someone is inhaling their food - I hate crunching but can take the noise of crunching over breathy ingestion any day.

It's not just eating… loud yawns and huge great waaaaaachoooooos of sneezes…

Thankfully DH does not eat noisily in comparison to many, many people, always has his mouth closed when chewing, will put background music on for dinner as standard and will go into another room or warn me if he's about to eat an apple which I can still hear being eaten through closed doors but at least he tried

Normal eating noises don't bother me but I am currently sharing an office with a proper chomper. I just leave when lunch is happening.

Chomper also types every single letter with a banging flourish.

Oh, that reminds me, certain coughs. They feel like a hammer on my ear drums.

I agree with it helping once you know it's a 'thing'. I was proud of myself the other day, DH was clapping really loudly (pretending to be a crocodile or something to amuse the kids) and every clap was like a gunshot. By the time he had done it 3 or 4 times I was visibly wincing and my heart was pounding etc. I managed to calmly say 'stop, it's hurting my ears'. Whereas before I would have probably waited and put up with it, figuring it was just me being silly, till I was really wound up and shouting.

Nothing more annoying than someone masticating furiously with their mouth open like a cow chewing the cud.