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To not give my neighbour our trampoline because I don't like her children?

74 replies

OneMagnumisneverenough · 18/04/2015 23:08

I like my neighbours, they are nice, friendly and helpful (but a bit nosy).

Their children are polite enough, but they lie, act like they think they are better than other kids, constantly batter their ball on the fence when I've asked them not to, are a bit grabby and can generally be quite nasty to other kids in the street. My two are older (14 and 13), Neighbours kids range from 2-12.

Anyway, we have been neighbours for about 8 years and get along fine, we have passed on loads of my kids stuff to them over the years, everything from clothes & toys to larger things such as bikes and climbing frames. Neighbours are very grateful.

Anyway, some years back they bought a trampoline for one of the DCs birthdays. It was made very clear (by the children) that my children weren't welcome to over to have a go, they were told they were too big etc even though they were only about 9 or 10 at the time. I am not sure how much of this my neighbour knows, my children (now teens) are very quiet and would never ask the adult if they could come over, they would wait to be asked which they never were. That christmas, I used some Tesco points and their Christmas money from my mum to buy one for our garden.

Next door managed to break theirs and haven't had one for a couple of years, my two don't use ours anymore. Veiled hints have been dropped by next door about them maybe getting a new one, she is well aware that ours doesn't get used. My generous spirit feels I should pass it on, but I don't want to as I don't like the children - then I feel quite mean. :(

OP posts:
laughingcow13 · 19/04/2015 03:38

I bought a second hand sixteen foot one off eBay for a tenner recently. I think you are being a bit precious about your old tat

CheerfulYank · 19/04/2015 03:46

I don't think you're being precious; you don't like them. Do the tent thing or sell it to someone else :)

CallMeExhausted · 19/04/2015 05:21

Our trampoline isn't used for bouncing much anymore. DS and his friends hang out on it chatting and staring at the sky. DD and I have used it for garden campouts.

With regard to your neighbours - no way are you on any way obligated to give it to them, and frankly... perhaps their children might figure out their behaviour has an impact long term...

musicalendorphins2 · 19/04/2015 05:47

There is no way I would give it to them, anyone that is mean to my kid gets no favours from me. I would probably be blunt if she ever asked and say you sold it. If she says she would have bought it, just say you thought she was buying a new one and looked a bit confused, then if you have your phone on you, say excuse me, and turn away as you text someone, then say you need to go, and leave.

musicalendorphins2 · 19/04/2015 05:47

*look, not looked.

WilburIsSomePig · 19/04/2015 06:38

Hell no, I wouldn't give it to them. Love the tent thing, it looks amazing.

BigRedBall · 19/04/2015 06:51

I want that trampoline tent! Brilliant idea!

VeryVeryDarkGrey · 19/04/2015 06:52

Absolutely dont give it to them

londonrach · 19/04/2015 06:55

Just sell it. Dont give to neighbour

Justusemyname · 19/04/2015 07:00

YANBU

You are going to dislike watching them on it and you can't ask for it back. Say nothing, don't give them the guns and leave it at that. She can't make you. I'd resent someone wrecking something I had given them when I had looked after it so well.

Justusemyname · 19/04/2015 07:01

Laughingcow! How rude. The OP has clearly said she has looked after the trampoline and is it not "old tat."

PesoPenguin · 19/04/2015 07:04

You don't have to give them the trampoline. It's yours to do what you want with. I wouldn't give them it just because of the hunting, the fact that the children are rude to yours would make my mind up completely.

NickiFury · 19/04/2015 07:12

"Trampolines are awful" Confused

Why? What's awful about something that provides great exercise and keeps your kids happy for hours?

laughingcow13 · 19/04/2015 07:49

...and keeps am a&e department in business

NickiFury · 19/04/2015 07:51

As do scooters and falling off climbing frames and being hit by swings and so on.

MythicalKings · 19/04/2015 07:55

Why? What's awful about something that provides great exercise and keeps your kids happy for hours?

The endless headache inducing shrieking from dawn till dusk inflicted on innocent neighbours.

Superexcited · 19/04/2015 07:58

We have a trampoline tent, we put it on the trampoline in the summer. Ours is a lot taller than the one in the picture so the children can bounce around for ages without too much sun exposure, but that one in the picture looks great to create a teenage chill out tent.
You have now found a use for your trampoline and therefore have no reason to feel guilty about not giving it away to neighbours who wouldn't let your children have a go on their trampoline.

bimandbam · 19/04/2015 08:03

I would ask your dcs what they want to happen to it.

Its fine not to like your neighbours dcs. But if you like the parents and they are kind to you I would be kind back. Dcs are sometimes horrible to each other. It doesn't mean that adults should do the same.

Justusemyname · 19/04/2015 08:11

Mine have had several trips to A&E. None because of the trampoline.

NickiFury · 19/04/2015 08:11

I've a number of neighbors with children and trampolines and I can't say I have noticed excessive shrieking though I suppose it must happen. I guess it's possible to be grumpy about anything if you want to be isn't it? Where and how are all these shrieky children supposed to play then?

Tizwailor · 19/04/2015 08:18

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Littlef00t · 19/04/2015 08:20

Love the trampoline tent. Do you think your kids would use it?

MythicalKings · 19/04/2015 08:26

Where and how are all these shrieky children supposed to play then?

It's perfectly possible to teach DCs not to shriek.

NickiFury · 19/04/2015 08:30

Well yes. Obviously Confused

TerryTheGreenHorse · 19/04/2015 08:34

I'd mention that your DC paid for it with present money so your going to sell it and let them pick something else with the money.

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