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To think this is weird

62 replies

Sunflower1985 · 18/04/2015 21:53

Next door neighbours were round for lunch last weekend and said they were in need of a childminder for their 12yo the following weekend. They were off on a weekend break and their childminder fell through. We offered (it was no problem really - we have a 2yo ds who loves the attention).
In the end the mother didn't go on the holiday (hay fever attack) but the 12yo still came round and has been staying with us for two nights, while her mother is next door, perfectly recovered from hay fever.

We haven't said anything, as we're too polite and perplexed. So AIBU to think they should have stopped their daughter from coming over and the whole situation is weird?!?

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EquinoxEclipse · 18/04/2015 21:55

WTF?? Go round there and take the child back! What a fucking cheek.

And... not going on holiday because of hay fever Hmm

backtowork2015 · 18/04/2015 21:56

v wierd. what did they say about their change in plans at drop off? your 2 yr old may be entertained by this but i can't see how their 12yr old can be having much fun

ahbollocks · 18/04/2015 21:57

How fucking odd

IcecreamSkoda · 18/04/2015 21:57

Umm, it's weird that you haven't said anything Confused why on earth wouldn't you?

Coconutty · 18/04/2015 21:58

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cashewnutty · 18/04/2015 21:58

Maybe the 12yo was really looking forward to coming to stay with you so they just let her.

usualsuspect333 · 18/04/2015 21:59

Just send the child back home.

MyArksNotReady · 18/04/2015 22:00

Poor kid. Shock

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 18/04/2015 22:01

Is there any chance that you gave the impression that you were all looking forward to it so much, that they thought you might be devastated if she didn't turn up?

I'm grasping at straws, I know. It's actually just so completely weird and will taint your view of them as neighbours forever. You have to say something. 'We were surprised that you still needed a childminder since you didn't bloody go anywhere at the weekend.'

People are very weird sometimes.

Goldmandra · 18/04/2015 22:01

I wonder if this was a weekend away to try to save their relationship and it all fell to pieces before it could happen. The hay fever could be a good excuse for red eyes from crying.

I would keep the child and assume that they've done it because they need the child out of the way for a reason they don't feel able to share with you.

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Sunflower1985 · 18/04/2015 22:01

I think she was really looking forward to it.
We thought it was weird, but then we're not as social as they are, so wondered if we were being standoffish.

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SwingingBalls · 18/04/2015 22:03

Did her mother not come with her to see her off? Was has her daughter said about it?

Very odd Confused

TheoriginalLEM · 18/04/2015 22:08

id be inclined to go and ask if she is ok

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Sunflower1985 · 18/04/2015 22:08

The father did go on the holiday without the mother.
This evening the mother came round to give the 12yo a hug goodnight and then off the mother went back next door and the 12yo is still here with us.
No idea what, if anything, is going on.

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Changeitplease · 18/04/2015 22:11

It seems like (just a guess) that something could have happened or gone wrong between parents ... Maybe that's why the mum didn't go and it is just her way of letting her kid be with you and save the kid from getting anxious. It is ridiculous though to leave her for two days (few hours may make sense)

backtowork2015 · 18/04/2015 22:11

goldmandra, think you're spot on. explains the husband still going.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 18/04/2015 22:13

Yup, weird.

Cocolepew · 18/04/2015 22:13

You're just as weird for going along with it!
ShockGrin

Stratter5 · 18/04/2015 22:14

I think that Goldmandra may have it; it's odd cancelling a holiday because of hay fever, it's even more odd that the husband still went away.

Something's going on, and she can't cope with the DD as well :(

BobbyDazzler1 · 18/04/2015 22:20

I agree with Goldmandra. Something's gone wrong next door. Perhaps you could return the child early tomorrow and ask if mum is ok? It's very weird the whole situation, but then again there might be some big unhappiness going on Sad

Icimoi · 18/04/2015 22:23

Knock on the door and ask her what's going on?

DrankSangriaInThePark · 18/04/2015 22:41

What coco said.
Why on earth didn't you say anything when they brought the kid round?
Weirdy all round, the lot of you.

Sparklingbrook · 18/04/2015 22:44

YY everyone stop being weird and give her her DD back immediately.

DixieNormas · 18/04/2015 22:50

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TerryTheGreenHorse · 18/04/2015 22:51

You can get weekend childminders! Wow.

Yes it's weird. Very weird.