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WIBU to wear exactly the same outfit to two weddings?

36 replies

deliprancer · 16/04/2015 20:04

I went to a colleagues wedding last year and wore a quite distinctive ensemble which is a slightly more dressy version of my usual style (think hippy). I have another wedding this year... another colleague (who I spent most of the time with at the previous wedding) and am considering wearing the exact same thing as it fits really well with the ' 'theme' (nothing overtly costume like but the general idea).
Would this be a faux pas? Some of the guests will be exactly the same as last year and obviously there will be photos etc.
Needless to say, dh will wear the same suit and no one will notice/care.

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Esssss · 16/04/2015 20:08

I would wear the same thing personally, especially if you really love the outfit and don't get much chance to wear it.

geekymommy · 16/04/2015 20:08

Personally, I think anyone who even notices that you are wearing the same outfit seriously needs to get a life. Anyone who notices and thinks you're being unreasonable...

But then again, the first rule of fashion is to never take any fashion advice from me.

Bin50 · 16/04/2015 20:10

Wear it! In my opinion the only time it would be a faux pas is if you were the bride first time round!

MadamG · 16/04/2015 20:10

Might be a faux pad for sis but fine for me, and I know friends do the same. Depends a little on your social circle and how much you give a damn?

00100001 · 16/04/2015 20:14

YANBU

NO-one gives a shit.

unless you turn up in a white meringue, no-one is going to care if you wore the dress twice or five hundred times.

Runningupthathill82 · 16/04/2015 20:15

I've worn the same outfit to several weddings. Not an issue at all IMO - I can't afford to buy new dresses for every smart occasion and, if people care, frankly it's their problem.

HelenF350 · 16/04/2015 20:16

Yanbu, sod what anyone thinks. I doubt they would notice anyway. Wedding outfits are expensive and shopping is a pain in the backside. As you can tell I'm not a very girly girl! ??

YellowTulips · 16/04/2015 20:16

Personally I spent in the past enough on weddings to buy a new outfit for each one.

I'm not a "smart clothes" person so each wedding ensemble wasn't something I'd make use of in real life as it were.

If you have something nice then wear it. I'd rather see a friend in a lovely outfit seen before than something cheap and nasty bought for a one off, or have them throw away cash on an outfit they couldn't reuse.

Leeds2 · 16/04/2015 20:28

YANBU. Wear it!

AntiHop · 16/04/2015 20:59

I've worn the same outfit to quite a few weddings.

meandjulio · 16/04/2015 21:01

I wore the same outfit to nine weddings in a decade, and only stopped because I'd got absolutely sick of it and needed a break.

I like it when I recognise clothes that friends and family wear - my mum has a gorgeous olive suit she wears that she looks fab in, I love seeing her in it.

mynewpassion · 16/04/2015 21:22

I wear same dresses to weddings before but not to ones where the guests were the same as another.

Binkybix · 16/04/2015 21:24

I have worn about 4 different outfits for all (the many) weddings I've ever been to! No shame in it :)

Panzee · 16/04/2015 21:24

As long as the last wedding wasn't your wedding, you should be fine.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 16/04/2015 21:27

Arf @ Panzee

A unanimous AIBU. Cool.

(Wear it)

Offler · 16/04/2015 21:27

I've got 2 weddings to go to in 2 months later this year and I will be wearing the same outfit to both.

The only guests that will be the same though are DP and our children, my parents and my brother, his children and his partner!

Qwebec · 16/04/2015 21:29

do it. Who gives a hut what other people whear? If somebody notices it's bc they really likes or disliked your outfit. Crack a joke if someone is rude enough to comment.

BeaufortBelle · 16/04/2015 21:32

Fine

DilysMoon · 16/04/2015 21:33

I wore the same outfit to my brothers, bils and cousins wedding all in the same year. Only immediate family overlapped. I find it hard to find anything dressy that I like plus the expense of outfits for the whole family etc so we all wore the same, seemed daft to me to do otherwise.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 16/04/2015 21:33

Wear different shoes / bag / hat / jewelry to mix it up a bit?

Totality22 · 16/04/2015 21:50

Anyone else as intrigued as I am about this outfit?

PtolemysNeedle · 16/04/2015 22:28

Personally, I wouldn't when it's a wedding with the same colleagues. I'm the sort of person who would notice, but then my only thought would be 'oh, deli's wearing the same outfit' and that'd be it. It's not something you're going to be judged badly on, so you may as well wear the outfit.

DoTheDuckFace · 16/04/2015 22:32

I can't remember what I wore a year ago never mind anyone else. Just wear it, unless you were the bride last time no one will care.

Mrsstarlord · 16/04/2015 22:40

YANBU

But i would like you to post a link to the outfit as it sounds like the sort of thing id like and I'm terrible at buying clothes

splodgeses · 16/04/2015 22:45

I have worn the same dress to every wedding and funeral as it's black for the last few years.

I love it. And don't care what anyone else thinks!

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