To take my DS out for the day whilst DH away?

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Going to keep this short.

DH is away with DSS and his football team in a foreign country. They do this for a few days every year, they always have a great time.

Our DS is 2 and I have been talking to DH about taking him to a particular wildlife park for over a year now. If we include before he was born and I wanted to take the DSChildren, I've been harping on about it for nigh on four years now. He always grumps about how much money we spend on ANY day out, and always found a reason why we couldn't go (some which were valid, others were quite ropey).

So today I took DS along with my mum and we had a lovely day. It was glorious sunshine and my DS had up close encounters with so many animals, he didn't stop smiling all day and not a tantrum in sight! (For a two year old that's amazing).

So I posted the pics on Facebook, and my DH posts saying 'Feel like crying. Gutted I missed out.'

And now I'm torn between feeling really guilty for making him feel bad when he's so far away, and feeling annoyed that all the times I've asked him to go, he said no!

AIBU for taking my DS?

Yanbu. Sounds like he had plenty of opportunity to go. You can't just sit at home with DS just because DH is away.

Of course YANBU for taking him.

Sounds like the miser would have kept putting it off anyway.

Bloody good for you.

And you are missing out on trios abroad...

So... he's away with one child and you're out with the other? Sounds fair.

Don't feel guilty, it sounds like you had a brilliant day and i'm sure your DS would love to go again with DH when hes back.

Is he always such a big baby?

Made you feel bad publicly on FB?

Why are you even asking? Your husband is a twat. Feels like crying? Really? Well grow up, stop fucking about with your mates on a jolly boys outing and take your child to the wildlife park. He doesn't seem so bothered about money when he's pissing it up the wall on his boys holiday.

So you were supposed to go on his terms. When and if he ever felt like it. Glad you, DS & your DM had a lovely day and it's a shame he begrudges you it especially when he's on a jolly himself

People write bull on FB anyway, they only write stuff to make themselves look good.
YANBU

Your dh is an idiot and a drama queen.

Publicly announces on facebook that he would have liked to go.

Privately turns down every opportunity to go.

Sounds like a dick.

Obviously YABU. There's a complete veto on fun while DH is away

Nonsense, OP. He's a miseryguts who had plenty of opportunities to go to this wildlife park. The weepy FB comments are pure dog in the manger stuff. Tell him to grow up.

You don't make passive agressive comments about your partner on FB.

Tough.

YANBU

"Awww...darling. You must feel nearly as gutted as I do whenever you're on your annual FOREIGN BLOODY HOLIDAY that I never get to go on. xxxxxxxxx Love, your adoring wifey".

YANBU but Facebook is the devils work!

Give him a passive aggressive FB answer back. "But whyyy hun? You've never wanted to go all the times I asked you before?"

I feel like crying? #twat

Nope, not unreasonable of you at all. I do loads of fun stuff with the DCs without DH, including a holiday abroad last year with friends. He works away a lot and takes golf breaks with friends, so fair is fair.

Your DH sounds a bit over dramatic posting that on Facebook though, big old baby.

Your dh is an idiot and a drama queen

This.

post back "Gutted you begrudge us our day out"

So he can afford to travel abroad to watch footy but not to have a day out in a wildlife park? I like Gatorrade's response, do it, do it!

Yabu to use fakebook. That aside tell dh to grow some.

I bet secretly the tight wad is secretly delighted as you've saved him a few pounds.