to be annoyed by a friends comment?

[PeachInGeorgia]

A friend said to me - you never go out.

Pretty much meaning I sit at home every weekend.

I definitely don't. This weekend I'm having drinks with a friend tomorrow, last week I went on a weekend trip.

I didn't want to justify myself to her but it really hurt .

She rarely seems to go out either and when she does she plasters it all over FB.

Meh. I would shrug it off.

I get it too op.

A friend of mine made the same comment to me once and and I took a bit of offence.

My friend was trying to point out how boring I was because I rarely went out on late nights clubbing with her and our other friend.

I pointed out that I go to other friend's houses or out for meals with DH occasionally but I suppose that doesn't count as 'out' so I'm boring.

Sorry you're upset OP. However, I don't see that saying 'you never go out' is a mean thing to say, to be honest. It's not insulting. She might be wrong about it, as you say - you do go out; but it's not particularly nasty.

I wouldn't give a shit if someone said it to me. In fact they have, now I think about it. Just checking feelings… Nope. Genuinely don't give a shit if someone thinks I don't go out much.

A picture does emerge though, that you might take things quite personally, and be a bit sensitive. That's not a bad thing, just something to think about maybe.

Also, if you post in AIBU. You'l find that more often than not, some people will think YABU. No-one is trying to hurt your feelings.

I don't see why this is a hurtful comment. Maybe we would understand more if you elaborated on the convo. I Would just say "so what. Your priorities are going out, mine aren't"

I'm not sensitive at all.

I dislike statements such as; "you always do this/you never do that" (dh does it!)

It's clearly not true - it's exaggerating to make a point. And what point do they want to make- Ime it's usually a negative one.

What else can you reply to 'you never go out' but 'oh yes I do'. I really think it's snipey and a put down. A friendly way of saying something would be 'have you been out lately...' Or 'you se to prefer staying in' etc etc.

It is a bit odd though, saying something like that to somebody else.

It can come across as a judgement on the OP, as though her friend finds the OP's life lacking in some way.

Although she could just be one of those people who thinks that if it's not on Facebook it hasn't happened.

Either way, without any context, it does seem an odd thing to say, and if it came out of the blue with no context it could seem like a weird little attack on the OP and her life. The random weirdness of it is probably more upsetting than the words themselves.