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Original poster

I need loads of people to tell me I am being a loon, please.

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Hakluyt · 10/04/2015 00:39

I dropped my ds off at his friend's house tonight. He is going on holiday with them for a week.

I don't really know the parents. We have shared lifts to an extracurricular activity but that's it. The friend has been to ours lots and ds has been to theirs lots. They are lovely people and the friend is lovely. And he will have th best time ever. But he is my baby boy.He is 14!!They are going to sell him to white slavers, aren't they? He is 14!! He gets very homesick, and only started to do sleepovers without angst very recently He is 14!!

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LaurieFairyCake · 10/04/2015 00:42

At 14 he will be fine

You had the White slave trade convo right? Wink

LaurieFairyCake · 10/04/2015 00:42

Go out on the lash and have some fun!!

OinkBalloon · 10/04/2015 00:43

You are a loon. A loving loon. Smile

He will have an awesome time, get homesick, get over it, and grow from the experience.

He will also seem two foot taller and twice as hairy when he returns.

(Fellow parent of a 14yo PFB.)

thetroubleis · 10/04/2015 00:46

He will have a lovely time, I'm sure and will remember you being lovely and supportive and letting Him have a lovely time.

Holidays with friends are a great experience and he will know you'll be there crying and wailing at the thought of your little boy all growed up waiting for him to come home.

Original poster
Hakluyt · 10/04/2015 00:47

I don't even have the excuse of him being my PFB..............

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TinLizzie · 10/04/2015 01:02

Where is he going? Is this an abroad holiday or UK?

TinLizzie · 10/04/2015 01:06

Oh, and how old is he? Grin Grin Grin!!!!!

OP, he'll be fine. If anything, his friends' parents will probably be more anxious than you - I know I would be if I was taking another child on holiday and was responsible. I'd be doubly careful!

Smooshface · 10/04/2015 01:06

He will have a lovely time :D I would worry too, but sounds like you like the DS and will all be fun

ArcheryAnnie · 10/04/2015 01:32

He will have a ball! Also, if he left with seven clean pairs of underpants, be assured he will return with one dirty pair and six clean pairs.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 10/04/2015 02:00

I'm not going to tell you you're a loon because you're not. He's your baby. You're a protective mum. There's no shame in that, but I'm confident your ds will be having a ball

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 10/04/2015 02:02

Yy to going on the lash

Gibble1 · 10/04/2015 02:09

Aww, I am a cub leader so I deal with lots of loons caring parents. He will be fine. You, you need to drink! Go, chill. If you are feeling to fond of home, go in his room and start picking up his rubbish. You'll soon snap out of missing him!

my2centsis · 10/04/2015 09:13

He will be fine SmileWine

bananayellow · 10/04/2015 11:20

You are being a loon Grin

But an understandable loon.

ninetynineonehundred · 10/04/2015 11:41

If the white slavers get him he will learn a trade and eventually make his way back to you to keep you in luxury.

You have my sympathy. I was without my two for 3 hours the other week and barely survived.

Maybe follow them secretly so you can keep an eye on him Grin

Or alternatively have a drink, enjoy the peace and quiet and be confident that if there are any issues the parents will call you
Flowers

Original poster
Hakluyt · 10/04/2015 11:58
Grin

It's funny,I'm have several times been harangued on here for my neglectful parenting, and the unacceptable risks I allow my children to take- but sending him off with another family seemed very strange. It won't be up to me to make the final decision about surf and currents and tide and so on... And sunscreen! What if he doesn't put sunscreen on.......?????????

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LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 10/04/2015 12:08

I think you should put sunglasses and trench coat on and follow them. Make sure he's ok. Grin

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually · 10/04/2015 12:09

I remember your camping out overnight at the scary place thread, so this made me Smile

I think it's the lack of control isn't it, you're handing over responsibility for him for a whole week. It is hard, my DD did this a couple of years ago for the first time. She had a ball, but it was ten days and she was ready to come home halfway through really, so a week is probably a perfect amount.

Does he have a phone and are you expecting any communication? Dd texted sporadically saying she was having a good time, but DD's friend mum also texted me when they arrived and halfway through and I felt better hearing from an adult.

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually · 10/04/2015 12:11

I forgot to say I'm in awe of parents that take other people's DC on holidays with them, although I can see the attraction if their DC is an only child. DD has SN too so I was very grateful.

Idontseeanydragons · 10/04/2015 12:12

I remember the camping thread Grin
Thing is that was your decision to make but this week all decisions will be made by someone else and it's not a nice feeling.
Loon/caring parent - sometimes there isn't much of a difference...

Gruntfuttock · 10/04/2015 12:13

"I don't really know the parents."

Shock How irresponsible can you get?

It obviously hasn't occurred to you, but he'll definitely be sold to white slavers. You didn't mention his age, but there is apparently a very high demand for 14 year old boys.

Original poster
Hakluyt · 10/04/2015 12:19

Actually, I think its because I do let him do dangerous things that I'm worried. He's very sensible, but obviously he looks to the grown ups for the final say. Oh well, they have two older children as well as the friend and they're all still alive......

I know- about the talking other people's children on holiday thing. I'm not sure I would want to do it! Ds was asked quite last minute because an older sibling got a better offer.

Yes, he has his phone. And I'm sure he'll check in- he's good at chatty texts. But he does get homesick, so I'm leaving the getting in touch to him

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Original poster
Hakluyt · 10/04/2015 12:20

Oh, Lord- there's alien abduction to worry about too- I forgot about that!

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FrenchJunebug · 10/04/2015 12:29

he will have a blast, you loon!

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 10/04/2015 12:30

Alien abduction

Stop! GET WINE! Grin