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AIBU?

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To wonder what I'm doing wrong?

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ToddlerMayhemMummy · 09/04/2015 21:28

I keep seeing people say they only hoover once a week/month and big tidy monthly how on earth is this achievable?

I have a 2yr old and 1yr old and when they go to bed at 6pm, DH and I spend 2hrs cleaning all the toys away, tidying the kitchen, hoovering all the way through the downstairs, mopping the kitchen and polishing the dining table and all oak bits.

Then we proceed to bleach and anti bac wipe the bathrooms, hoover and mopping on the 2 upper floors is done by DH whilst I iron and hang away the clothes from the previous day, then we polish and generally straighten up everything.

It gets sooo crummy and messy during the day I'm not sure how I'll ever be able to relax of an evening.

Where am I going wrong, PS - Baba is due in 6 weeks, so I'm worrying where he

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MrsFlannel · 09/04/2015 21:31

Well I think you need to tidy through the day rather than save it all up for the evening.

but also don't worry too much! I pick up as I go...and you can do "Tidy Up Time" with the dc before bedtime...most kids of 2 will happily engage in that and it starts good habits.

NotallTravellersarebad · 09/04/2015 21:36

Don't do it for 2 hours!!! That's '4 between you, I cannot believe it needs it. I have 5 children and don't spend 4 hours everyday. No boast honest, my house is nearly always tidy and clean.

Polish everyday, really?

NotallTravellersarebad · 09/04/2015 21:39

Tidy as you go, never get more than a few toys at a time. Put some away before new ones come out.
Try not to stress about, are you a bit "nesty" or do you usually have this routine? I ask because near my due dates I was clearing away and cleaning all the time.

m0therofdragons · 09/04/2015 21:40

Dc help tidy toys away before going up to bed and I have a mini Dyson to get crumbs up through the day (my 3yo twins love using it too!)
too much bleaching will set your dc to be ill constantly - really not necessary to do that every day.

findingherfeet · 09/04/2015 21:41

I think you just have a cleaner house than most (myself included)

WorraLiberty · 09/04/2015 21:43

If you both spend 2hrs doing that every evening, are you sure you're not both finding reasons to avoid spending quality time together?

MrsNuckyThompson · 09/04/2015 21:44

I think your routine sounds nuts, sorry.

Why on earth would you have to polish your wood more than once per week. Also, assuming the family spends most of the day downstairs why would you need to vacuum and mop anything upstairs daily.

Give yourselves a shake, you're being ridiculous!

FatSwan · 09/04/2015 21:46

You do all that everyday?

Bleaching and anti-bac the bathroom everyday?

And polishing?

Maybe you're just far more meticulous, but I really don't think that's necessary every day.

And put the toys away throughout the day-have them help. No way should that take 2 hours a night.

How many toys do they have?

SolomanDaisy · 09/04/2015 21:54

Why on earth are you doing all that every day? When do you just relax?

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ToddlerMayhemMummy · 09/04/2015 21:56

Well me and DH like to look at the finished house and then we feel relaxed, then spend time together.

Its been this way since we had DD1 '

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cashewnutty · 09/04/2015 21:58

As i recall when mine were little, once they went to bed, i hoovered up the crumbs and did the dishes that was about it. You are doing a ridiculous amount of cleaning each evening. Just stop doing it and relax a bit.

fredfredgeorgejnr · 09/04/2015 21:59

Stop the bleach and anti-bac excessiveness, it's not doing your world good.

Stop the polishing, stop the ironing, stop the mopping, stop pretty much all of it, they're once a week jobs, not daily, your cleanliness is excessive, and it's a good job your children go to bed so early!

SolomanDaisy · 09/04/2015 22:06

Well it's an unnecessary waste of time, but if it makes both of you happy then carry on.

Kittymum03 · 09/04/2015 22:13

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MaidOfStars · 09/04/2015 22:16

You hoover upstairs while your toddlers are sleeping? Is this possible?

You need to unclench and deal with some mess. There is no dining table in the world that needs to be polished daily.

May I suggest an obvious way to relax? spend those two hours with a bottle of wine and some heavy petting

DPotter · 09/04/2015 22:22

I'm with Solomon on this one - it is up to you if you want to spend time cleaning. However I personally feel that life to way to short to be polishing the dining table 7 times a week. Put down the duster and the mop and go and have sex

DamselNotInHerDress · 09/04/2015 22:36

Well it sounds like you both want to spend the time doing it so not sure what the problem is really.

Im personally not bothered about daily dusting so wouldn't waste my time doing it, but it's a priority for you so fill your boots.

Either do it, or don't. That's how other people have lives aside from cleaning. They don't.

OwlinaTree · 09/04/2015 22:42

I can understand the hovering round downstairs and mopping and tidying, but I really can't believe you need to clean all your bathrooms and mop two upstairs floors and polish all your oak everyday?!! Are you joking??

BinaryBunny · 09/04/2015 22:44

It's not normal to bleach a bathroom etc EVERY DAY.

Just how much dirt/mess does this one child create in one day in the bathroom?

Unpolished a table EVERY DAY?

And also, if you do this every day, how can it possibly take 2 hours for both of you????? The house can't even be dirty!

Surely those jobs take about 5-10mins eaxh....maximum???

BinaryBunny · 09/04/2015 22:45

Sorry, two children

BinaryBunny · 09/04/2015 22:46

So.... YABU

987flowers · 09/04/2015 22:47

It does seem an awful lot, 4 hrs cleaning a day. Why/how do your bathrooms get so dirty that they need the floors bleaching each day? Can you make a rota and cut the days you do it?

Also polish is not good for furniture especially if you are doing it very day. On my oak dining table I have a table protector and oil cloth so just wipe that down!

HopeClearwater · 09/04/2015 22:48

You BOTH feel the need to do this?

Scary.

ItsADinosaur · 09/04/2015 22:52

You're making way too much work for yourselves. There is no need to bleach and anti-bac the bathroom everyday and polish all the oak. How much mess and dirt do you make in a day? Unless you like your home to permanently look like a show home then you are wasting your time!

PoppyField · 09/04/2015 22:52

I only polish my oak panelling every other week.

The tapestries and hangings do not respond well to the mini-Dyson, so I hang them over the ramparts and beat them once a month.

And our upper two floors haven't been used since Nanny died.

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