DH loves DIY. It seemed a good idea in the beginning ... saves us a fortune and everything is done just the way I we he wanted. Those wishing they had a handy other half, read on.
Any money saved on tradesmen has been spent on tools. None hired, ever: all bought ('cheaper in the long run'). Tools take up space. They require consumables: blades, belts, etc which he never has when one breaks. He can't work without spreading everything out, everywhere. Despite that, he still can't find anything when he needs it. The rest of us waste endless time running around looking for things which usually turn up in his trouser pocket.
DH works to an impossible schedule and is a perfectionist, and no criticism is allowed, ever, in any way, shape or form. At least if there was a 3rd party in the form of a tradesman there would be some solidarity in the two of you sighing together over his tardiness / mess / unreasonableness etc.
When things don't go to plan (which seems to be far too often) he gets stressed, he shouts, he swears, he blames everyone and everything except himself. Oh, except when he IS blaming himself, using even fruitier language. I'm getting tired of the drama.
He thinks he's doing us all a favour and that DIY is not in any way a self-indulgent hobby. The fact is, we have a choice about how to spend our time and money: he is choosing to do this, and as a result we never do anything else together.
Recently we have been doing up a house for our DS to move into. DH was getting frustrated at the slow progress - we could manage to go there only one day per week. Well, he was the one who insisted on papering every ceiling as well as the walls, painting everything with 3 coats, etc. The house was empty and I told him a painter would have it done inside a week at an affordable rate, but he just ignored me.
Having said that, the end result is always good. I'm just not sure the end justifies the means any more.
OP, I hope your new kitchen is usable very soon.