To buy tracking devices for my kids?

[Lesausage]

I lost my first son over 13 yrs ago and I have two dc now 3 and 4. I'm terrified that anything can happen to them and they are always in mine or dh care/sight etc but they start going to nursery every day for 3 hours soon and I want to buy these

It would give me piece of mind and dh agrees a bit if only to make me less on a loon but I can't help thinking it's a bit OTT, has anyone ever used them?

Please be gentle

lonny ISWYS but my kids are 3 and 4, I have a longgg time till they are old enough to do things on their own.

As it stands they are not anxious kids, they explore, play and are very happy.

It has taken me all these years to get to the stage I am now, which is a million times better than what I was. Every time, even now, I talk about the past to people it's reliving it over and over and no amount of counselling is going to change that. Hence why I don't like counselling at all.

I no longer have panic attacks, I no longer fear crowds, I no longer associate sex as something to not enjoy.

I will get better anxiety wise with time, proof is in the pudding.

I'm glad to hear that things have improved for you Lesausage and sorry to hear that your experiences with talking therapy were unhelpful, there are lots of different types though so please don't rule out trying something in the future if you feel like things have plateaued. Counselling/therapy doesn't have to be focused on past experiences it can be all about helping you make the most of the present and the future.

Well, no, you don't have a long time until they're old enough to do things on their own.

They are old enough to start school and nursery on their own, aren't they?

But I won't keep labouring the point as I feel I'm picking your words apart and I genuinely wish you the very best

"lonny ISWYS but my kids are 3 and 4, I have a longgg time till they are old enough to do things on their own. "

You honestly don't, you know! Your 4 year old will be at school next year, and going on school trips. Soon he will be going to play at friends houses, and going to Beavers and so on.

Op I think as a short term measure they are a brilliant idea. Only you know your mind, before you pasted with insecure - dooming your dc to a life of petrified fear of everything.

I think its a great idea, it will give you peace of mind right now, and as they grow and you learn to trust them, and they start to do things like play dates., your own fears I am sure will ebb away.

so do it.

3 and 4 might be an age where they go to nursery however its also an age when they do still go wild.

I have sympathy for your situation, lesausage, it must be awful but I agree that this is potentially starting down a risky road. You may find peace of mind but how will being 'tracked' affect your children's emotional health wellbeing in the long term?

The older they get, the more independence they want/demand/need and that is hard to do. Will it be harder if you've been used to tracking them? Will you find yourself justifying the need to 'watch' their movements as they grow and spend more time away from home, alone, with friends, with other adults?

Maybe. Maybe not. However, it is important to consider.

op, I have two people I know acquaintances - not friends who have used a device to watch dc in busy places - like theme parks etc.

they are not paranoid or crazy, or anything its just a pair of eyes.

squeezy, you grow with your dc, I worry right now with young dc, how I will cope when they start to go out with friends, 15/16 but I do realise by then, we will have all grown together, and I will be able to let them go out....and not worry too much,

op has already said she has got lots better and she will grow with her DC.