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Original poster

To send her home right now?

64 replies

ICallConnerie · 06/04/2015 22:37

DD had a friend over last night.

They were the usual giggly shrieking teenagers and kept me up until gone midnight. Fine because I had today off work.

This girl was supposed to go home today but her mother couldn't be contacted all day so I fed the girl and agreed to a second night after they promised to be silent and sleeping by 10 tonight. We have an early start tomorrow as I need to get the kids to a friends so she can watch them. And I have a very very hectic day catching up on the long weekend.

Needless to say, they are being noisy and frankly a bit cheeky when I've gone in to tell them to STFU go to sleep.

I've just had a look on her mums FB and alas, she had been sleeping off a major bender at a friends and is now home according to her hilarious updates for those wondering where the hell she was... she seems to have forgotten to get in touch to check her daughter is ok though

WIBU to pack her off home in a taxi this late at night? I really need to sleep!

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ahbollocks · 06/04/2015 22:38

Cheeky cow!message her right now!

FullOfChoc · 06/04/2015 22:39

I'd send her home for sure.

jeanmiguelfangio · 06/04/2015 22:41

That's really cheeky! I'd message the mother and send her home. Did her dd ask about her mum or seem worried- maybe she has done this before

AlternativeTentacles · 06/04/2015 22:41

Yes pack her off home.

Cluesue · 06/04/2015 22:41

Yep,get onto her straight away,cheeky cow

FenellaFellorick · 06/04/2015 22:41

How old is she? Can you phone the mum or fb message her to say her daughter is en route?
Could her daughter and yours cooked up a story to her mum?

DextersMistress · 06/04/2015 22:42

If it were me I would write a shaming comment on her status but then I'm childish like that.

Yadnbu. Pack her off immediately.

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ICallConnerie · 06/04/2015 22:42

I'm debating texting her. I'm assuming she has seen the missed calls and earlier texts by now Hmm

She will know her DD is here again as I manage to get hold of her lodger so she's probably passed the message on.

I would have liked some acknowledgement though!

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TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 06/04/2015 22:42

What a dickhead move.

sosix · 06/04/2015 22:42

No not in a taxi. I take it you dont drive?

Panzee · 06/04/2015 22:43

I'd be tempted to send your daughter too, especially if they're in a giggly mood. :o

QueenB14 · 06/04/2015 22:43

Yes but do it now before it gets any later

Her mum is a cheeky bitch Shock

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 06/04/2015 22:43

I wouldn't get a girl out of bed and send her home now (I know she's not sleeping, but she's presumably in PJs etc) but I would message her mum to say she had to pick up by, say, 6am and then tell the girls the same

queenofthepirates · 06/04/2015 22:44

Keep her with you but maybe give DD a dose of her own medicine tomorrow.

EustaciaBenson · 06/04/2015 22:44

I'm not sure I'd want to send her home in a taxi this late to a mother who clearly isnt concerned about her as you would have no way of knowing whether the mother was still there when she got home or that she would be awake to let the daughter in. Can the girl sleep in a different room to your daughter like the living room so they couldnt talk together?

Dieu · 06/04/2015 22:44

OMG, so cheeky! How old exactly is the girl? I think it would be okay to send her home, after checking that mum is compos mentis (as it's not the kid's fault). I do think that giggly teenagers are part of the territory when it comes to sleepovers though.

BlueBananas · 06/04/2015 22:44

I'd put a message on her Facebook wall (is that right? I don't do Facebook) telling her that the human she gave birth to but clearly has forgotten existed is on her way back in a taxi right now, so all her friends that she went on a bender with can see what a shit mum she is!

Pyjamaschocolateandwine · 06/04/2015 22:44

A user with form.

Cheeky cow.

Alisvolatpropiis · 06/04/2015 22:44

Never mind the girls being a bit cheeky! The girls mother is unbelievable! Shock

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ICallConnerie · 06/04/2015 22:44

Very tempted by the FB status idea but then I'm childish too!

The girl is not in the least bit bothered. She announced at lunchtime today that mum was "probably still drunk somewhere"

They were quite happy about it I think as it meant another night here.

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CycleChic · 06/04/2015 22:45

another option: let her stay but move one of the girls to a different room (dd to your floor, friend to the sofa, whatever)

maddening · 06/04/2015 22:45

How old is she?

Dieu · 06/04/2015 22:47

I would imagine the girl is more bothered than she lets on.

Topseyt · 06/04/2015 22:47

I would be sending the girl home.

I would also be tempted to tell the mother that I didn't appreciate being taken advantage of in any such way.

She sounds rather presumptuous and irresponsible.

CycleChic · 06/04/2015 22:47

For fb: I'd be tempted to say that something happened to the dd. I'd never mess withsomeone's mind like this really as I know that tragedies happen but the idea would be in mymind