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AIBU?

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To think someone who constantly talks about their weight is extremely boring.

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amazegumball · 05/04/2015 20:59

I have a friend who is of average weight but would of course like to be slimmer .
Whenever we talk or go out anywhere it is constant talk of

'Do I look fat ?'.
Constant talks of new diet , exercise etc.
It bores me to death.
We all have insecurities but the drown on and on about them to me is just really self absorbed.
Aibu?

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Pantone363 · 06/04/2015 18:53

This x 100

I have a friend who's sole topic of conversation/FB posting and life consists of exercise, leg day, arm day, sports massages and diet.

She was normal at one point. I literally want to chew my own arm off sometimes when I'm talking to her.

To think someone who constantly talks about their weight is extremely boring.

iklboo · 06/04/2015 19:00

I'll take this & raise you DH losing weight AND entering a body building contest later this year.

All I get is he can't eat this can't eat that, protein this, carb loading the other. He cooks his own food but can't spontaneously go out to eat, it's costing us a fortune in extra food & supplements and it's ALL he goes on about morning noon & night.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll · 06/04/2015 19:06

I have BIWI to that relative in my first post. I pointed out that I'm twice her size and couldn't she just shut up Fuck up for once about her bloody weight.

She wasn't /isn't fat. Not even close. Mention any form of exercise that might help her get rid of her perceived weight gain and it's dismissed. No, she'll just cut down which lasts for a few days then she'll stuff herself with junk food cos she reckons she deserves it. It goes on and on and on. So yeah, I've told her but it falls on deaf ears.

I don't waste my breath anymore.

RedCrayons · 06/04/2015 19:17

I lost two stone last year and friends still go on about it now. I don't mind answering a few questions, but honestly its boring talking about it now.

I was in a meeting with a woman who Id never met before who asked me how I kept so slim. An actual proper business meeting. 'errr, I don't eat much'. She'd brought pastries and donuts so I said that I would take them to the kitchen to share with the team. And she asked me if I low carb. This wasn't the chit chat part of the meeting either.

I'm size 12 , and mid forties, so not exactly Cara del-whatshername.

Dontunderstand01 · 06/04/2015 20:06

I sat next to a colleague for 5 years, who has done every diet known to man. She is a very attractive, size 10 lady in her 50's, she believes being a size 8 is the holygrail.
She has 3 kids and 5 grandkids... but she can't possibly see them because she is running/lo carbing/ at a fitness class.
I used to empathise but ran out of patience very quickly.
If you want to salvage your friendship I think a frank chat is in order. Otheriwse it will slowly chip away atyou. I no longer sit near my colleague, or talk very much. I understand from a mutual friend that she thinks I am smug because I lost my baby weight with very little effort. The reality is I have never dieted as I am a recovering bulimic and have worked extremely hard to have a healthy attitude towards food. I never, ever weigh myself or diet.
Good luck.

Bogeyface · 06/04/2015 20:10

H works with someone who goes on and on about her diet. I think she is on the Cambridge. She goes on and on about how hungry she is, how its crap because she hasnt lost any weight........and then sits there eating 4 donuts at a time, chocolate by the box and all manner of crap. H says he wouldnt care how much she ate, or even notice, if it werent for the fact that when she isnt chewing, she is talking about her diet!

PunkrockerGirl · 07/04/2015 09:50

They bang on about diets all the time at work

What I don't get is that none of them ever look any different

Nonie241419 · 07/04/2015 10:10

I find it a bit upsetting that people I like spend so much of their time not liking themselves. A friend of mine posted on FB this morning about the shame of having eaten chocolate over the Easter weekend. Another friend joins Weightwatchers regularly and posts about her losses, but she obviously regains in between. I wish she could see that she's stuck in this yoyo cycle that does her no good (I never say anything or comment on her weight loss posts though).

Pocketsfullofpoobags · 07/04/2015 12:45

This drives me mad too - my DM has always been able to eat what she likes and not put weight on.

She loves this fact and her number 1 FAVE thing to do is question interrogate people about why they aren't eating this or that or why they won't eat the seventh biscuit she's trying to force on them and, when they mention that they will get fat if they eat it, she says 'Oh I eat them!' and leaves a lovely pause for people to really let it sink in that she's a) not fat and b) beyond awesome for not getting fat whilst stuffing her face.

She literally brings up diets/my eating/her eating/how much weight have I got to lose every single time I see her.

Every single time I tell her I'm not on a diet or trying to lose weight, but I am not trying to put on weight either, which is what I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE would happen if I ate a wagon wheel and then fish and chips and ice cream.

The really sad thing is that, whilst this is infuriating, this seems to be a complete obsession with her - if you can get her talking about something anything else, she is a lovely woman!

We have had to have rows before about her trying to force junk food on us

SunnyBaudelaire · 07/04/2015 12:50

yeh it is boring.
Also those people who think it is suitable to make comments about other peoples bodyshapes or sizes?

As in 'hi Sunny - gosh don't you look SLIM?'
The more I think about this, the more oppressive I realise it is. Usually it is my brother who cast me in the role of 'fatty' many years ago.
Now he is older and paunchy I would love to make comments!

specialsubject · 07/04/2015 13:29

fortunately I don't know anyone this dull, although I've no patience with diet talk anyway.

BTW there's a whole other thread on why eating less and moving more doesn't work, so of course all of you who are losing weight doing it are imagining it and are (I quote) 'totally ignorant of biochemistry'.

TedAndLola · 07/04/2015 14:21

I really hate this. I'm biting my tongue right now with one person who has lost and regained three stone THREE TIMES on Slimming World. Each time she gets utterly obsessed with losing weight and all you ever hear about is how amazing her low-fat food is, how Slimming World is the best thing ever and how much she loves exercise. Then you hear nothing while it all creeps back on, then it starts again.

Well obviously the food, exercise and Slimming World are NOT that amazing if you can't keep it up so stop preaching

Honestly she loses her personality along with her weight, and she isn't the only woman I've known that happen to. I'm sure it happens to men too, I just don't know that many men.

SunnyBaudelaire · 07/04/2015 14:34

I dont think it happens to men in the same way tbh.
Women are raised to think they should take up as little space as possible IMO.

iklboo · 07/04/2015 17:00

There's also a colleague who counts her calories but believes it doesn't matter WHAT you eat, as long as you only eat 1200 calories. So she'll have 2 doughnuts, crisps, chocolate etc then cheese & beans on toast for her tea because she scoffed all her other calories for the day.

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