To think a host should be mindful of children, even if they have none of their own?

[CupidStuntSurvivor]

Currently staying with relatives, far from home with no easy option to return home for a few days. The couple are child-free and my 1YO DD is with me.

Most nights, things are ok. We're all fairly casual, always have been, and while staying with each other we never feel the need to constantly be in the same room.

Some nights though the volume of the music is ridiculous. I've put DD to bed as she's really tired but my hosts are in the room beneath the spare room with music on very loud. DD is really struggling to sleep. I've been here nearly 2 weeks and about every third night I feel I have to nag at them to turn it down.

They invited me and DD. We've stayed before babies needing quiet isn't a shock.

Full disclosure...I am fairly noise sensitive so may be more irritated than is rational. But I hate having to choose to either nag my hosts or to let DD struggle.

Nah, that's not on - don't they have neighbours to consider, even before they start thinking about their guests?

Can you just have a quiet word and ask them to turn it down - they are adults, and most normal adults appreciate that loud music in a house with a toddler is not really on. They have 50 other weeks in the year to belt it out.

2-3 weeks may have been the norm in the past but you have a LO now. It isn't practical to be staying somewhere that long if you feel you need to nag for the sake of your LO. It's too long.

I wonder whether because you are sensitive to sound your dd is used to less noise than other visitors with children? I remember finding staying at my parents when my sister was also staying and all our children small a bit trying because her children could only sleep when it was very quiet whereas mine were used to music/TV noise etc. The reason for that mainly being that we lived in a flat and so our children just couldn't be that sound sensitive whereas she lived in a house where the children slept a fair way away from household noise.

DD is fairly oblivious to noise once she's asleep if I'm honest, always has been. She even managed to sleep through 10 or so football mad relatives screaming at the world cup when she was about 3 months old I practically had a nervous breakdown

But where actually getting to sleep is concerned, she does need relative quiet. Certainly not silence or close to it but things need to be fairly muffled. If that even makes sense? No idea how their neighbours cope!

Posters keep saying though we've been doing this many years, I've only had DD for 1 but I'm not the only relative with a child who stays with them. They really are used to having relatives with children stay for 2-3 week periods, as was I before having children.

I live in a flat too nooka. I have issues with particularly loud noise, but not all noise by any means.