AIBU- pregnant teen comments

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AIBU to want to scream?
I'm probably just making a big fuss over nothing but im currently pregnant, not long started showing. I only had my first scan this week (Due to a cock up on the hospitals part leading to a 2 week delay) i'm 15 weeks today. I'm in my early 20's but look quite young (Frequently have to say "i'd like an adult ticket" at train and bus stations after they print out a child one, am always ID'd buying alcohol etc) I have a little bump now which is quite obvious unless i wear baggy hoodies as i'm 5ft and just over 100lbs.
Anyhow. I get the usual questions of strangers which i dont mind at all, most are kind older women who don't yet have GC of there own and get excited when they see young people are expecting as sweet as they are i feel sorry for their DIL's
a few times now i've had comments off people like "Oh you look so young"
"you dont look a day over 15"
"you're just a baby yourself!" one person was particularly rude and asked if the father was around and if i'd dropped out of school when i found out i was expecting! I'm 24 just before christmas this year. these comments make me feel extremely uncomfortable and uneasy and quite judged tbh.
Even if i tell people my age they sort of roll their eyes and go "Oh really"

I'm 25 but also look very young (I still on occasion get IDed for lottery tickets!) I've just had my second, and the number of people who would make comments about my age when they saw I was pregnant was insane, more so when I pointed out I already have a 2 year old. I took to treating it like a game, to see how many times I could cause wide eyed shock. "oh I'm 25 actually".. "and I have a 2 year old"... "and I'm married" ... "and a home owner" If I didn't get a straight 4 looks of shock or barely disguised gasps I feel quite disappointed...

I recently got ID'd for alcohol in a shop with my 11, 10 and 8 year olds with me. The woman thought I was their big sister. I'm nearly 35!

So I feel your pain OP I once got yelled at for being a single teenage mother with kids to half of the town dragging them up on benefits' when I was 24, married and on my way to work. And even if I HAD been those things, my kids are amazing, piss off.

I can definitely relate to this, both me and hubby are 26, I only just turned 26, I'm 12 weeks pregnant with our first. I'm 5"1 and hubby is 5"7 we both look young and always get id'd! One teenage shop assistant asked to see our id when we bought a set of knives the other day!

I have already had family members comment in how I will look when my bump gets bigger, one said ill look like a teenage mum to be!

We had a music teacher and on a upper 6th form evening out she was the only person to get id'd. and on a trip she was first off the bus to check the party in and they refused until a teacher got there. I got called as educational visit co ordinator to make sure she was ok.
She was less than amused.

I'm 20, had DD at 19 and apparently look younger (I think I look older personally but people disagree) - when I was heavily pregnant and buying alcohol as a gift for someone, I got simultaneously ID'd and death-glared at by the cashier. And I had people standing behind me in checkout queues, tutting as they looked at my bump. Comes with the territory, some people just can't grasp that younger people DON'T want to go travelling or whatever and can make perfectly good parents.

The amount of people who ask when I'm going back to uni, to then be stunned when I tell them I didn't take any time out and graduate this year, is hilarious

I have a very young looking friend who is about 6 years younger than me (I'm 36). I have been asked if I'm her mother, I'll admit that that did rankle.

I turned 24 just after I had my first. I'm same height as you. I know exactly what you mean as I also looked ridiculously young and people did pass comment.

Am now 35 and work in a school, I still occasionally get mistaken for being a 6th former

Ignore the nosy judgemental idiots! I had this - still do. I'm 26 I have a 3 year old and a 9 month old. I'm also really small in height and look quite young. When people make comments I have to hold myself back from shaking my car keys in their faces and mentioning I have a job and a mortgage and I'll do what the hell I want, seeing as I earn my own money to pay for my own kids.

I've never really had a problem. I'm 30, had DS at 17. Second DS at 28. I definitely look a lot longer than my years - not just in my opinion either! I work in a profession that you get asked on daily (sometimes several times daily!) how many children you have, how old they are, how old you are etc... have never had any response other than shock and the comment 'you don't look old enough to have a child of that age'.

In fact, anyone I have told my age to has always responded in the same way. Shock.

I just look young. I probably dress younger too. I'm not slim, but I am short. I dunno, my mum looks younger than her years too. Good genes maybe?

But I do think I have an excellent 'fuck off' face. Which means I've never felt judged or had comments made about my age/having a child at 17.

I'm also a single parent for the second time (first time was when DS1 was 7, this time DS2 is 2, and I am pregnant with DS3). Again, not felt judged. If anything quite the opposite. Have felt people have been nothing but lovely to me.

Maybe I'm just thick skinned (except I'm so not!) . I've posted about this before too, to say I've never felt judged. I'm not sure why I haven't - luck?!

Oh, and tobysmum, I work with women around my age, and they are the one's who usually ask how many children I have, how old they are etc. I've honestly never had a different reaction. It's always the same - shock, followed by 'you don't look old enough to have a child of that age'. I have a stock response to it, which has always been taken in the (nice) manner intended!

I must admit, DS1 is now 13, and I feel rather self conscious when out with him. He's 5ft 10. If people aren't looking closely, they may make rather harsh judgements about us! Especially as I have a 2 year old with me, and pregnant... I've not noticed anything though. Though to be fair, he doesn't usually like to come out with me these days!

I had my DD at 15, she is now 15, I'm 31.

I went to collect her the other day from the charity shop she volunteers in - the first time I've been in. The owner said "Oh hello are you one of (DD's) friends?" DD looked a bit incredulous and said "No! This is my mother!" To which the woman replied, "I did think you looked alike".

Eh?

You look alike, so I'll assume you're friends? I definitely don't look 15. I do still get asked for ID a lot though but I assume it's because I'm too short to be a grown up .

YANBU I was a teen mum and now pg with my 2nd at 22, still get comments, asking if it was planned, asking if it's the same father, assuming benefits etc you just have to brush it off all the young mums i know work very hard, not on benefits and still with the dad so it's just plain old bs stereotyping.

Sometimes it rankles at the other end too.

I had my first at 38. Not my choice but late husband developed cancer, became infertile due to treatment but died. Took me a few years to emotionally recover and meet someone else, so first born was later than I would have planned.

I remember taking my kids to the supermarket ( baby and toddler) and checkout assistant cheerily said " oh you have the grandchildren today- how nice!"

We can't win!