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To think Maleficent is not suitable for a 3 year old?

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thinkfast · 03/04/2015 19:20

My MIL has shown ds (3 years old) Maleficent which I think is unsuitable. To my mind is too dark/scary/violent for that age, however ds keeps asking to watch it and doesn't appear to find it scary, although he does want to re-enact done of the violent scenes.

Not sure if Aibu or not so would welcome views to help me decide if I should bring it up with her.

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Sallystyle · 03/04/2015 19:24

I would have let mine watch it at that age but they didn't scare easy.

RiojaHaze · 03/04/2015 19:28

My 3yo was fine with it. I thought it was a great film!

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 03/04/2015 19:28

Definitely unsuitable. I rejected letting my 7 year old watch it. Friends with older kids feedback is 8/9 upwards.

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thinkfast · 03/04/2015 19:30

I can't tell if aibu because I'm quite sensitive to films but to me it's just too grown up for a 3 year old. Especially the scenes where she realised he's cut her wings off and when the king dies...

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Balanced12 · 03/04/2015 19:30

I was going to let my 4 yo watch it, glad I watched it first not suitable for little ones at all. It isn't rated as suitable either.

Welshmaenad · 03/04/2015 19:31

I would let a three year old watch it - my 4 year old loved it. I don't think it's particularly dark.

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thinkfast · 03/04/2015 19:33

Yes. I think I will have to speak to her Hmm

The conversation will not go well as I'm sure she won't appreciate my point of view.

Maybe I should get dh to speak to her although I know the conversation will go along the lines of "Thinkfast doesn't think its suitable for ds..."

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backinaminute · 03/04/2015 19:33

My 4yo has seen it advertised on sky and is constantly pestering to watch it. I guess I will have to check it out first.

MyLeftElbow · 03/04/2015 19:33

My 3 year old daughter watched it, cuddled up with me - she liked seeing Maleficent as a "goodie" rather than the cartoon evil fairy in Sleeping Beauty.

JohnCusacksWife · 03/04/2015 19:34

Don't think it's any darker than most fairy tales! I'm not sure a 3 yr old would be able to follow the story though...

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thinkfast · 03/04/2015 19:35

No I'm not sure he gets the story. Just likes all the flying and fighting...

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GertrudeBell · 03/04/2015 19:38

Hmm I count 5 "it's fine" to 2 "unsuitable" - so I don't think your MIL was necessarily in the wrong?

By all means express your personal preferences with her but it's just that. I would be pissed off if I were MIL and I was criticised for this, particularly when the DC had suffered no ill effects.

passthewineplz · 03/04/2015 19:39

It's a really good film, I took my DD to the cinema to watch it she would have been 3 1/2 when it was at the cinema and she loved it. The only bit in the film which is sensitive is when she gets her wings cut off. I just explained why it happened and she was fine with it

monkeyfacegrace · 03/04/2015 19:41

Malificent is a fantastic film. I think it should be watched by everybody.

My kids love it. Can't see the problem at all Confused

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thinkfast · 03/04/2015 19:43

Yes you're right Gertrude.

Maybe I should say something like I prefer ds doesn't watch tv when he comes to visit but if he is going to watch something would you mind checking with me beforehand unless it's cbeebies or something rated u

(But what I really want to say is I see no need to have the tv on CONSTANTLY when you're at home. We don't do that at home and sometimes it might be nice to do something else.)

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oneowlgirl · 03/04/2015 19:44

My 3 year old loved it - he did snuggle close at particularly scary parts but really enjoyed it & has watched it multiple times, so for that I think your MIL was fine to show it.

Welshmaenad · 03/04/2015 19:44

Ds on wing scene:

"Why is she crying?"
"The man man she thought was her friend cut her wings off"
"well, that was RUDE!"

(Resumes absorption)

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thinkfast · 03/04/2015 19:44

Just seen the latest posts so clearly iabu.

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oneowlgirl · 03/04/2015 19:45

Cross posted but from your latest update it sounds like you're desperate to have a reason to have a go at your MIL.

NeverHadHaveHas · 03/04/2015 19:46

Dd who is 4 loves it, found it less scary than the witch in Snow White. It's a great film!

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thinkfast · 03/04/2015 19:47

Not desperate to have a go at her as I hate confrontation and it would upset dh and never be forgotten all round. Just wish I got on with her more - we are opposites in every respect.

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ShipwreckedAndComatose · 03/04/2015 19:48

I don't see the need for you to discuss this with mil.

Iggly · 03/04/2015 19:48

I would be wary. As a kid I was very sensitive to certain films - wouldn't seem scary at first but would later have bad dreams. I put this down to not being given decent explanations so my head made stuff up (sesame street gave me nightmares!!)

My ds is similar - he's watched films then later on, he has nightmares and we need to spend time talking through particular scenes to him. He's got a wild imagination as I did as a kid.

So no way would I get him watch that film. He's 5.

ShipwreckedAndComatose · 03/04/2015 19:49

I loved the film and so did my kids (7 and 9)

I particularly liked the strong older good female character. Nice to see in a fairytale

margaritasbythesea · 03/04/2015 19:50

We saw the trailer in the cinema and my 4 yo was terrified. Having said that sometimes younger ones do better with scary thjngs as they just dont understand. Also, sometimes odd things really scare them that you cant predict.my dd has had repeated nightmares about the jellyfish in A Sharks Tale.

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