To ask how do I get DP to tone it down?

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We went somewhere today and he fell a bit which would have been fine - just mildly embarrassing.

However he has to make such a fuss - yelled really loudly when he fell and then stayed down for ages making a massive fuss and moaning at the staff for leaving things in the way (DP wasn't looking where he was going.)

I am using this as an example, but it's embarrassing!

AIBU? And any advice?

Topseyt, yes, DS's finger end was stitched and super-glued back on. Many years ago now but he still has a slightly wonky finger.

Over-dramatising minor injuries is embarrassing and childish.

no worries!

I am working on a theory based on this, because of DH. Terrible drama llama about illness, headaches, colds, injuries. His DF is a narc and therefore never really gave love, affection, praise unless it was attached to something that DF valued. Or, if he was sick or injured. So, DH has learned that being sick and injured is a time when you can ask for love, care, sympathy and affection.

On a wider scale, men have been trained not to be 'weak'. They can't talk about their issues or feelings. So when they are sick or injured, that is a free pass to all the stuff they crave and women can ask for all the time. Doctorate anyone?

AcrossThePond, sorry about your husband, but do you think that was because he didn't recognise true pain?! Glad he's OK now.

Look at him, shake head, look at the nearest waiter/ess and raise your wine glass saying blandly 'I really need a big one of these please.'- regardless of the time of day!

Imperial, no, he'd had heart problems before. I think it was because he was camping with his friends & didn't want to leave. His best friend practically had to force him into a car and drive to the nearest hospital.

Thanks. It was a scary time. They'd given him a 15% chance of pulling through. The doctor told him if he didn't see the 'bright light' (as in 'go to the bright light' in near death experiences) it was because he 'must have had his eyes closed'.

I had this to deal with yesterday. They were convinced they had done something terrible to their ankle and couldn't stand.

5 minutes later (after I'd checked him over) he was off running across the playground... he is 5 years old.

Unless he is 5, he needs to have a think about his behaviour.

I would have looked at dh with a if I'd established that it wasn't that bad.

making a massive fuss and moaning at the staff for leaving things in the way I'd have been bloody unhappy at him having a go at staff when it was his fault.

I'm stoic and would never admit to pain or blaming someone else if I took a dive then cry later in private.

He sounds like a wimpy man child OP, perhaps think about trading him in for a grown up man.