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AIBU?

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Original poster

To ask how do I get DP to tone it down?

59 replies

brightasasunnyday · 03/04/2015 16:49

We went somewhere today and he fell a bit which would have been fine - just mildly embarrassing.

However he has to make such a fuss - yelled really loudly when he fell and then stayed down for ages making a massive fuss and moaning at the staff for leaving things in the way (DP wasn't looking where he was going.)

I am using this as an example, but it's embarrassing!

AIBU? And any advice?

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ImperialBlether · 03/04/2015 17:27

What's he like when you're ill? Does he expect you to be more robust?

sparklepopsicles · 03/04/2015 17:28

Oh dear what a plonker and no not secure at all. Have you been together long op has he always been like this? Good qualities?

sparklepopsicles · 03/04/2015 17:28

Doh autocorrect * sexy

chickenfuckingpox · 03/04/2015 17:28

He sounds like my 6 year old sorry i read your post twice thinking i made a mistake you meant to write ds right? Easter Hmm

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brightasasunnyday · 03/04/2015 17:30

Some of these replies have really made me giggle; I wish you could have heard his dismayed yell as he went down Blush

If I'm ill - gosh, I get every tablet known to mankind pushed on me Hmm

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drudgetrudy · 03/04/2015 17:31

Yeah can't stop laughing now-soft as a boiled turnip as they say in Lancashire. Not terribly attractive in a man and not very appealing in anyone.

MadamG · 03/04/2015 17:40

How long have you been together for? He sounds just like my 6 yo step daughter who crus and yells at anything. If you want to send him over for a play date I think they'd have loads in common.

UghReally · 03/04/2015 17:40

I think i'd be tempted to give him something to cry about if he was my DP Grin Grin

UghReally · 03/04/2015 17:41

MadamG that had me spitting my coffee out xD

LoveVintage · 03/04/2015 17:44

Tell him to feck off and try childbirth.

Topseyt · 03/04/2015 17:46

Just wait for when he starts to feel an injury coming on in the next few days and relates it to the fall!

You could adopt the carefully considered approach I always used with my children when whinged about finger ache, bum ache, leg ache, arm ache etc. when there was nothing wrong. I just used to reply "chop it off, then it can't hurt anymore". If it was a leg, arm, hand, foot they were complaining about then I would just say "well you have a spare one". It usually fixed them.

BigRedBall · 03/04/2015 17:50

What a twonk. I'd hate that. How embarrassing.

DH once managed to trip over something and fall backwards with the pushchair falling on top of him Grin. I still remember the bang of his head hitting the Tarmac and I also remember the split second he got up and carried on walking as if nothing had happened with people in cars and passers by making that "ouuucchh" face at us Grin.

WhereYouLeftIt · 03/04/2015 17:52

How do you get him to tone it down? I would stop being his audience. Just walk away and leave him to it. And when he undoubtedly whines about that, tell him that he is being a drama queen and you want no part of it.

I don't think I could stand watching this kind of behaviour Shock.

chickenfuckingpox · 03/04/2015 17:53

Show him the replies on here

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brightasasunnyday · 03/04/2015 17:53

Actually, I wasn't standing watching it sympathising. I was sat down in a restaurant and just carried on sitting there cringing it happened when he was coming back from the toilet.

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brightasasunnyday · 03/04/2015 17:54

He'd just say none of you understood the pain he was in Grin

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DuchessDisaster · 03/04/2015 17:57

It was a "man" fall!
However, it may have been very painful and he might have hurt himself.

GnomeDePlume · 03/04/2015 17:57

Topseyt "chop it off, then it can't hurt anymore"

we used to do that until the day DH accidentally cut the end off DS' finger!

AdoraBell · 03/04/2015 18:00

Erm, who old is he? Because he sounds lke a bloody toddler.

I could not put up with that.

Onetwothreeoops · 03/04/2015 18:01

Can you film it on your phone next time and play it back to him? Maybe he has no idea how he comes across it works with children

Joyfulleastersquad · 03/04/2015 18:03

Oh god run for the hills!

AcrossthePond55 · 03/04/2015 18:05

"Man fall" Grin My DH tends to magnify minor injuries and illnesses, too, but never in public. The only time he didn't was when he went into cardiomyopathy, played down the symptoms and didn't want to go to A&E, and nearly died! Idiot.

You've got one of two things: either someone who has to be the focus of attention or someone with a somatic symptom disorder.

If the former tell him not to be such a big baby, it's embarrassing when he makes a scene in public. Tell him he can do it at home, but not when he's out with you. If the latter, mental health counseling.

I suspect the former.

Kundry · 03/04/2015 18:15

Oh dear. I'd struggle to find such a man sexy.

Topseyt · 03/04/2015 18:16

Gnome, OUCH!! Your poor girl! Shock

Throwaway remark in our house, but of course it is something that can occasionally happen.

Was it stitched back into place for her?

Topseyt · 03/04/2015 18:18

Sorry, didn't read closely enough. Poor boy! Blush