AIBU to think I should keep engagement ring?

[moifem]

Divorced. I still wear my engagement ring. I find it beautiful and it has nice memories attached. ExH think I should give it back as I have broken the contract (typicult, refusal to acknowledge his share of responsibility...I have to carry all the guilt).
He says that's what usually happens in England. He says we should divide the money of the ring for the kids future. How very generous of him! I think it is one of my personal possession and that I should decide if at some stage I want to put it towards the kids future.
Feeling pissed off!

ZOMBIE

I think general etiquette suggests that if a marriage doesn't happen it comes down to who was at fault - if the man was abusive/unfaithful the woman shouldn't feel under any obligation to give him any of her possessions - and the ring is her possession unless she actually signed a contract declaring that it belonged to him except under certain circumstances. But if the woman was abusive/unfaithful or called it off simply because she didn't want him anymore giving the ring to him would be the classy move.

But you've been married, the ring is definitely yours. Perhaps you could end his complaints by telling him that when you are ready you will sell it and put the money in accounts for the children? If he isn't happy with that you know he wants the cash for himself!

Oh, never mind

Its a gift so therefore yours and if ex keeps harping on about it you can tell him that the resale value of secondhand rings is a pittance, you would get a quarter max if lucky of its original value and as such you have already put aside the resale value of the ring in savings accounts for your dc. Then tell him to fuck off!

I should imagine OP dealt with this TWO YEARS AGO

Do zombies wear rings, or do they drop off?

DirtyBlonde

My abusive, violent ex wanted my engagement ring back - fat fucking chance, I didn't want to keep the bloody thing but I was the one who'd paid for it!

Flogged it on eBay for a surprisingly decent price eventually - not bad for a bit of Lizzie Duke's finest