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Original poster

To ignore the Dr and to keep feeding DS like I am?

198 replies

startrek90 · 31/03/2015 14:54

I have just got back from DS weighing in. He is 6 months old and according to the Dr is underwieght and needs more food.

I feed on demand atm. I thought my baby was getting enough. Some days he eats more and some days he eats less. On average his feeds go like this;

6am: 230ml milk
8am: 230ml milk and baby porridge
12 noon: Jar of baby food and 150ml milk
2:30pm: half jar baby food and 150ml milk
5pm: fruit pot and 150 ml milk
8pm: 230ml milk

he eats during the night if he wants and i give him more or less if he wants.

The dr said to force him to eat more and give him more solids but DS won't have it. Aside from the first and last feed I offer food everytime before I offer milk.

AIBU in ignoring the dr and continuing. I feel a bit crap now tbh.... I thought I was managing for once and now I feel rubbish....

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MrsFlannel · 31/03/2015 14:57

I think you should stop feeding him jarred food and baby porridge. I also think you should listen to the doctor and offer him more....cook something with a bit more fat in it. Pasta, cheese, some sweet potato has good oils too.

Only1scoop · 31/03/2015 15:00

Agree Mrs Flannell

FromMeToYou · 31/03/2015 15:01

Well what is his weight now,

what was it when he was born,

are you and his dad big or small (ie small adults will have small children generally).

SpringtimeForShatner · 31/03/2015 15:03

Why do you think the GP is wrong? Why don't you trust their opinion?

CunfuddledAlways · 31/03/2015 15:03

I was very overwhelmed when I had my first child but didn't have the money for jarred food, instead looked at what they where e.g. chicken and mushroom (or whatever) and made that for me and blitzed a portion of that for baby...what is baby's weight/ what centilen

CultureSucksDownWords · 31/03/2015 15:03

I wouldn't just ignore the doctor, tbh. Is there a specific reason you had a weigh in with a doctor rather than a HV?

Has your DS been falling down the centiles?

Micah · 31/03/2015 15:04

Don't weigh him :). You can't, and shouldn't, force a child to eat. Just keep an eye on his general health.

I agree with pp though, jars and milk aren't the best balance. Try giving him some of what you eat too do he gets a range of textures and tastes.

Gileswithachainsaw · 31/03/2015 15:05

At six months they can have proper food. jarred food are meant to be used out and about for convenience not as a sole diet.

you can give some fish and mash and cheese sauce with steamed carrot sticks and broccoli. higher fat and more nutritious than jars which are basically apple and not really what they say they are at all.

nottheOP · 31/03/2015 15:05

He has quite a lot of formula which is fairly calorific but I presume your doctor would like you to move onto more solid food. IIRC DS was on 4 bottles at that age at 7am, 11am, 3pm and 7pm. He then had breakfast, lunch and dinner.

I used to offer porridge or Weetabix at breakfast with some banana.
Jar food at lunch and then some of what we were having for dinner, just chopped up so spag bol, meat and veg or similar.

Yoghurts or cheese are good to snack on - your DS might eat more food if you lessen the milk.

The only things I'd have in mind are how active is your baby? If he's crawling and pulling up to stand/cruise, he's going to be burning off quite a lot. Meeting milestones and being alert are quite a good measure of how they are.

I would be cautious of ignoring your GP. He won't have any ill intentions.

monkeysaymoo · 31/03/2015 15:05

If you are ignoring the Dr because his advice makes you feel like you have got it wrong YABU. If you genuinely think your ds is not underweight and is eating plenty then get a second opinion.

Don't ignored advice based on feeling like it would somehow confirm you haven't been coping that would be silly

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 31/03/2015 15:05

I agree with Mrs Flannel.

6LittleOnes · 31/03/2015 15:05

I disagree with a pp. At 6 months that is more than enough solid food, his main source of food should still be milk. If he is growing, sleeping, pooling and seeing then he is probably fine. Some baby's are meant to be smaller than others

Original poster
startrek90 · 31/03/2015 15:06

he is 6.750 kg.... he was 5 weeks early and weighed 2.460kg when he was born.

52kg and i am 71kg....so my husband is underweight and i am dead on. so both quite slim..... whats wong with jarred food? he can't chew pasta etc.... the dr was fine with jarred food???? she said to add oil???

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6LittleOnes · 31/03/2015 15:06

pooing and weeing

6LittleOnes · 31/03/2015 15:07

There is nothing wrong with jars of food, some people like them some don't.

CultureSucksDownWords · 31/03/2015 15:07

Are you not in the UK?

Original poster
startrek90 · 31/03/2015 15:07

sorry 6.570kg....stupid phone :/

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Original poster
startrek90 · 31/03/2015 15:08

no i don't live in the uk

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loveareadingthanks · 31/03/2015 15:08

They are so obsessed with babies being overweight now, that if he is saying yours is underweight, he probably is.

6 months old - move on to proper food instead of jarred baby slop and porridge. Finger foods? Baby-led weaning as it's called now. Fingers of toast. Pieces of veggies. A bit more protein and fat. Cheese? Fish finger? Spag bol? Banana.

Try giving half the milk to sort out any thirst, then food, then the rest of milk.

Gileswithachainsaw · 31/03/2015 15:09

jarred food is really sweet and tastes all teh same it doesn't provide the natural variations in texture and taste and can lead to trouble later on getting them to eat normal food.

A beef and vegetable pot for instance would be very little beef and veg and just made up of other stuff. not a problem when used sparingly but not ideal to live off.

why add oil to a jar when you can make some mash with butter and have some salmon and cheese sauce mixed in.and get far through the food rather than added to it

Micah · 31/03/2015 15:09

Have you ever tried jarred food? It all tastes the same and has the same slimy consistency.

Nothing wrong with it as such, but the key at this age it's lots of flavours and textures, teaching him about food in general as much as nutrition. Jars will teach him one texture and limited flavour.

The old saying "food until one is just for fun"

Hakluyt · 31/03/2015 15:10

It depends. Is he going down the centiles? I reckon if he is gaining weight steadily even if it's slow, that's fine, but if he has plateaued or is losing you might need to do something about it.

Original poster
startrek90 · 31/03/2015 15:10

I haven't seen the midwife since he was 6 wks and here there is no HV you see the GP for check ups....

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MammaTJ · 31/03/2015 15:10

Whats wrong with jarred food?

Do you and your husband eat processed shit all the time?

If not, why would it be so hard to cook a little extra for baby?

Also, pasta does not really take a lot of chewing, so a bit of a gumming would suffice.

When I had DD1, my DP was a fussy sod and would only eat a roast dinner on a Sunday and rubbish through the week. I would cook enough to make up meals for DD and freeze them. Easy peasy.

toots111 · 31/03/2015 15:11

My LO was always deemed as being underweight and it caused me no manner of stress until I saw a doctor who told me to look at the baby and not at the chart. If he's happy, smiley, sleeping, pooing, meeting development milestones and not crying all the time, he's probably OK although of course I am not a doctor and the doctor may have a real reason to be concerned. At 6 months he's early to eating so he'll probably start to eat more and more in the coming weeks.