To reuse my engagement ring?

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I've been widowed for over 5 years and have been seeing a guy for the last 3 years. We're very happy together and have decided we want to get married. I have a beautiful diamond solitaire engagement ring from my husband which I currently don't wear but if I were to choose a ring today, it would be identical. Would it be wierd to reuse it?

I'd wear it on the other hand.
I don't like the idea of selling it or remodelling it, it seems somehow disrespectful to your late dh.

Up to you though obviously! And congratulations

How about getting it redesigned, i.e. using the metal and stone from the original ring?

It's sort of a symbol of the promises made between your husband and you. Therefore, I would find it very odd to simply "re-use" it with a new partner, and - apologies - disrespectful

Agree completely.

OP, if you'd have a very similar ring now, then get a new very similar ring, one that symbolises a new partnership.

If my eine yo be suggested that I think I'd feel like I was a consolation prize and a mere replacement for the first husband rather than my fiance valuing the new relationship.

I am sure this isn't the op's intention but if I were on the receiving end I may well feel unwanted.

How would your first husband feel about this? If I died I wouldn't want my husband to reuse the wedding ring I gave him - it's a symbol of our relationship.

I would wear it on my right hand and get a new ring. I'm sure you could find something different that you like, so you don't feel you are replacing the ring with another just like it.

perhaps your new partner could buy you a couple of diamonds which could then be added to your existing ring? I've seen it done and it looks really lovely.

This post resonates with me as I am currently wearing my twice married mum's single engagement ring. She was widowed at 27, and later married a friend of her late husband's. She wanted to continue wearing her engagement ring from hubby No. 1 as both a memorial and because it is a stunning piece of jewellery: instead of an engagement ring, her second husband (my dad) bought her a beautiful heavy gold bracelet which she wore every day of their marriage until her death.

I guess the difference here in this scenario might be that husband no 1 and husband no 2 were friends, which may have made my mum continuing to wear the ring acceptable to my dad....it represented someone they had both lost.

I have and wear both these pieces and I love that they represent two important people/loves in her life. They are priceless to me but if anything, the bracelet has more monetary value.

of course you can reuse it as your engagement ring!
That is lovely . how odd for some. to disapprove