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Want to tell children Santa isn't real when they annoy me

51 replies

Libby456 · 30/03/2015 00:41

95% of me wouldn't! but you know when you're so angry and upset and hormonal etc and the children just keep pushing you, you just want to explode?!
I would love to say it just to see their faces but I know I would almost instantly regret it!

Does anyone else feel like this when you're on the last straw?

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DarthVadersTailor · 30/03/2015 00:54

My SIL did this with their 10yr old girl, after being harassed about how much the tooth fairy (obviously she'd lost a tooth that night) she snapped at her and told her the tooth fairy didn't exist, and then on top of that told her that Santa was also fictitious. When I heard about it I couldn't believe it and was livid on the poor child's behalf, couldn't believe someone would be so spiteful. Then she told her little cousin, my SS, that Santa didn't exist and as he was very much a believer he was naturally devastated!!! Needless to say my opinion of her changed completely, couldn't believe what an utter c**t she was.

Sure we all can feel just a tiny bit like that when a child is pushing all your buttons, and I know you're not talking about actually acting like that OP, but some folks actually do it crazily enough and it's quite twisted!!!

BastardGoDarkly · 30/03/2015 01:01

No, that's never even occurred to me I have to say.

TowerRavenSeven · 30/03/2015 01:20

Yabu. Bordering on cruel by the way you said you'd love to see the look on their faces. Is this for real? If so you need counseling.

53Dragon · 30/03/2015 01:23

YABU
And vindictive
And nasty
And immature

Time to grow up and finish your homework

Olbersparadox · 30/03/2015 01:29

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 30/03/2015 01:30

Fgs. Let her keep her innocence for as possible, because once it's gone. I guarantee. It will never come back.
I believed in father Christmas till I was 13

skinoncustard · 30/03/2015 01:58

You get annoyed with your kids in March and telling them Santa isn't real is the punishment that comes to mind !!!!!!
Yes YABU and doubly so for mentioning the 'S' word in March !

EstRusMum · 30/03/2015 02:07

Don't be such a Grinch. Take a Brew
My sister told her DD that Santa is not real. Now I have to keep my niece away from my DS as far as possible. Children talk and my child have a right to childhood. I hope he will keep it for longer.

yumyumpoppycat · 30/03/2015 02:17

Not reeaaaly, a smidge to tell my 7 yo dd who doesn't really believe anyway, but not at all to tell my 9yo son who does believe. How old is your dc. Is it general ingratitude getting to you?

yumyumpoppycat · 30/03/2015 02:19

Oh sorry I mis read, I don't think I have been tempted to do this when my dd annoys me, but its march so I cant really remember if this idea ever occurred to me in dec!

chinstrappenguin · 30/03/2015 02:25

No it doesn't occur to me to say something I know will hurt my children just cos they are annoying me Shock

Bettercallsaul1 · 30/03/2015 02:26

No no no - that must never happen! Santa is sacred and a vital part of childhood and must never be sacrificed in a temporary fit of anger. He'll be gone not just for that year, but forever! No no no!

EatShitDerek · 30/03/2015 02:48

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Ericaequites · 30/03/2015 03:14

I am childless, but found out Santa is not real quite young. I would give your children the truth, but in November. Encourage them to tell all their friends.

westcoastnortherneragain · 30/03/2015 03:26
Biscuit
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chickenfuckingpox · 30/03/2015 08:01

i tell mine to fetch a glass to go with all that whine i thought that was bad enough not to confess in real life to be honest Blush take now he has a small upset stomach emphasis on "small" he is howling like a dog he has had the maximum amount of painkillers and if i will just say he doesn't have to finish breakfast and can go on his DS he will miraculously get better stop howling and stop whining instead ive told him no DS and no mine craft later he is rolling on the floor in a dramatic fashion (to be blunt in a way you wouldn't be able to if you really did have stomach ache that hurt that bad)

he is now feeling better now ive told him ive put his illness on mumsnet Grin

i think i know where your coming from still don't think you would actually do it though

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 30/03/2015 08:07

No, I have never been tempted to do that. What a weird impulse.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 30/03/2015 08:15

No I would never have done that.

An urge to do it implies that you want to really upset your children and stop them in their tracks.

Not good parenting is it.

flora717 · 30/03/2015 08:15

I've never told them these fictional characters are real. But having developed this fib you're rather stuck with it.

liveloveluggage · 30/03/2015 08:30

I always try to be careful what I say or do in anger, you can't take it back. Also my dd has an amazing memory for these things and still remembers things from arguments years ago! I once called her a freak, about 5 years ago and she remembers that. She has quite a temper herself and will push at you. I have got better at not taking the bait over time. It does sound mean to say you would love to see their faces, I would never want to see that, even if they were playing up.

AmysTiara · 30/03/2015 08:32

Why would you want to see them looking upset?

It sounds really spiteful

calmexterior · 30/03/2015 09:02

Maybe try a parenting course in case the 5% hurts your children?

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Charlotte3333 · 30/03/2015 09:14

Mine annoy me at times but I'd never take it out on them by telling them that Santa wasn't real. The 9 year old asked last Christmas if Santa was real and I did the whole polar express thing where if you don't believe in magic, you won't see it. I think we managed to eke it out for one last year but it's a hideous feeling, looking at your child and knowing that they won't be believing in magic much longer.

Why would you want to steal that joy?

Flora do you celebrate christmas traditionally just without Santa, or not at all (no judgement, am genuinely interested)?

EponasWildDaughter · 30/03/2015 09:20

No, my last straw is putting a bit of distance between me and them. Time out upstairs for 5 minutes to calm down. (Me or them).

I think digging deep to cause them that much upset verbally is spiteful. You shouldn't be getting into 'arguments' with your children - point scoring i mean - in the way you might with an adult.