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AIBU?

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Want to tell children Santa isn't real when they annoy me

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Libby456 · 30/03/2015 00:41

95% of me wouldn't! but you know when you're so angry and upset and hormonal etc and the children just keep pushing you, you just want to explode?!
I would love to say it just to see their faces but I know I would almost instantly regret it!

Does anyone else feel like this when you're on the last straw?

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PuttingouthefirewithGasoline · 30/03/2015 09:46

really childish and vindictive if you want to know.

so mean how on earth could you be so cruel to your dc.

they will be on here in years to come lamenting how their immature bitch of a mother told them he wasnt true in fit of rage, to be spiteful and mean .

pull yourself together woman, dont do it.

PuttingouthefirewithGasoline · 30/03/2015 09:47

I think digging deep to cause them that much upset verbally is spiteful. You shouldn't be getting into 'arguments' with your children - point scoring i mean - in the way you might with an adult.

^ this, put much better than me. your the adult YOU need to show them how ot behave and rise above it.

meglet · 30/03/2015 09:50

no, never. that's really bloody mean.

AlternativeTentacles · 30/03/2015 09:55

Parenting classes or some serious therapy for you.

That 5% is actually quite worrying.

Floggingmolly · 30/03/2015 10:02

why would you want to steal that joy?
Christ only knows. The mum of one of ds2's friends (when they were 6) told him the truth about Santa. Naturally he spread this juicy titbit far and wide at school, to the horror of his classmates.
The amount of damage limitation going on that year was unbelievable... The mum was almost tarred and feathered in the playground (well, we thought about it, but the spirit of Christmas prevailed )

LadyGregory · 30/03/2015 10:08

No, it would be deeply unpleasant and spiteful to do this in anger, but could we please not start that tiresome, well-covered 'doing/not doing Santa' bunfight that happens several times a year on Mn?

The tremble-lipped, self-righteous 'why ROB the little children of their CHILDHOOD???' brigade seem perennially unable to accept that children who don't believe Santa is literally real don't grow up on bread and water in grim, fun-free households.

SockPinchingMonster · 30/03/2015 13:45

I can see from your other thread on Primary Education that you are a TA, hoping to become a teacher - I truly hope you are not teaching my children if that's your attitude.

mummymeister · 30/03/2015 15:12

sockpinching I don't think she should be thinking about teaching ANYBODYS children with that sort of attitude. No actually I have never wanted to explode when children have kept on "pushing me" because sweetie I am the adult and they are the children. it is my job to keep my emotions under control and not to be "pushed" by children. there is no such thing as the last straw when you are the adult and they are the children. so what, if they really irritate you and you have already told them about FC, the easter bunny and the tooth fairy what are you going to do to them next so that you can have the "pleasure" of seeing it on their little faces? what a thoroughly unpleasant person you are. Take out a mirror. have a really good long look in it.

DisappointedOne · 30/03/2015 15:53

"Santa is sacred and a vital part of childhood"

No, it absolutely fucking isn't.

"I've never told them these fictional characters are real. But having developed this fib you're rather stuck with it."

Agree. We've never told the fib either. At the moment DD (4) shows zero interest in any of it.

DisappointedOne · 30/03/2015 15:54

"The tremble-lipped, self-righteous 'why ROB the little children of their CHILDHOOD???' brigade seem perennially unable to accept that children who don't believe Santa is literally real don't grow up on bread and water in grim, fun-free households."

FarFromAnyRoad · 30/03/2015 15:57

I'm long past the toddler stage but I have to say this wouldn't have occurred to me in a month of rainy Sundays. I think you need to have a quiet word with yourself about what kind of mind you're operating there OP. Sounds to me like there might not be terribly much in it.

Gottagetmoving · 30/03/2015 18:02

YABU. Grow up and learn how to deal with your children's behaviour without thinking of resorting to being childish and spiteful.

TowerRavenSeven · 30/03/2015 20:04

Doesn't sound like a Santa thing to me at all. It could be anything they hold dear, true or not. The scary part was she would like to see the look on their faces. That sent a chill up my spine.

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Libby456 · 30/03/2015 20:14

wow haha I've upset a lot of people! Sorry guys.
There's really no need to call me a nasty person though. I don't have children, I work in a school and just to be clear I would never say it, but the urge has been tempting.
Maybe if I was a mother I would think differently.
I was told the truth out of spite so maybe that's where it came from!

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Libby456 · 30/03/2015 20:30

There's no need to call me a bitch either, I'm sorry for upsetting anyone on here. I am a good person and if you don't believe that then you really don't know the real me;
I cried when I took someone else's drink my mistake
I saved a child when she ran out on the road
I talked my friend out of committing suicide
I made my mum pots for daisies out of old rapping Paper when I was little
My boyfriend left me 4 days after I miscarried
I've been second best to a lot of my 'friends'. I'm lonely.
Little Miss Sunshine is my favourite film and I will always cry at it without fail.
I watch Sex in the City in the bath
My nanna has alzheimer's and I hear my mum cry at night because she's losing her mother
I speak fluent Welsh and British sign language.

None of you know this about me, and I don't know anything about you ladies either, you're allowed to have an opinion- tbh I deserved it with this question, but remember I am a human being who is reading this. Being called a bitch is not something I expected to happen today.

I may have been out of line for voicing a thought that is barely even a thought, I'm sorry.

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DarthVadersTailor · 30/03/2015 20:40

OP if you're gonna whine and get all sensitive about what you posted then my dear methinks MN, possibly the Internet, is not really for you....

FizzyNuts · 30/03/2015 20:41

I get you op, I'm a self confessed evil bitch though

That particular idea hasn't crossed my mind but I get the drift of what you're saying, I find when my children have really pissed me off beyond belief, it helps to mouth some swear words behind a closed door in their general direction!

Lots of ott responses on here but what else do you expect from mn?!

BastardGoDarkly · 30/03/2015 20:50

FarFromAnyRoad · 30/03/2015 20:51

OP I'm sure you're lovely really but it's no good posting such a weird thing that is open to so many different interpretations THEN telling us that actually you're quite normal and a nice person! Do you see that? The positives you've listed would all make good chat threads by themselves so why not drop the evil weird and try again?

EponasWildDaughter · 30/03/2015 20:59

''you know when you're so angry and upset and hormonal etc and the children just keep pushing you, you just want to explode? I would love to say it just to see their faces but I know I would almost instantly regret it!''

So you work in a school and these children are the ones you work with? Other peoples children?!

That's kind of even worse!

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 30/03/2015 20:59

Nice try to drip feed but not having your own children makes your OP more difficult to comprehend.

Your post is disturbing.

Bettercallsaul1 · 30/03/2015 21:07

"Santa is sacred and a vital part of childhood"

It certainly was for my children and many, many others.

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Libby456 · 30/03/2015 21:07

Look guys, I'm trying to say sorry here. It was stupid of me to put this up, I thought some of you might find it amusing. Obviously I was wrong. I'm really sorry.

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liveloveluggage · 30/03/2015 21:08

Op like you say we don't know much about you, but I would find it a bit worrying that someone wanting to work with kids had this attitude. Maybe you just said it as a joke, but as someone starting out in this career you really need a love of children and a huge concern for their welfare. Its not an easy job you need to be the right sort of person to do it and find it rewarding. I work in a school and spend time with the teaching staff and I have never heard anyone say something like this. They might moan a bit if having a bad day, but they would never make a mean joke about being cruel to a child.

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 30/03/2015 21:14

The OP has scaled back from her original post (of course you should never say anything, it's Santa), tried to explain and has apologised twice.

I think Mumsnet's work here is done. Move on people, there's inflammatory, petty and irritating threads out there that need you more

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