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To feel violated and so so angry with boyfriend.

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CherryFlavourPez · 29/03/2015 18:36

NC for this so I don't out myself.

My 'D'P and I have been together for 2 years, I have a DC from a previous relationship who is 3. We are both still young and I've made it clear I don't want any more DC for a long time, preferably when I'm married.

'D'P has always seemed to understand and respect this but has had thoughts of wanting a baby that he has expressed to me. My answer has always been 'not yet'.

Well last night we were about to have sex when I realised we were out of condoms. He said it would be alright, he'd pull out and he was sure it would be fine just this once. I obliged (I know, please don't judge me). When it got to that 'time' for him I could tell it was going to happen so went to move off of him and he held my arms so I couldn't and didn't pull out.

I was and still am really really angry. He says he couldn't help it but I just don't believe him. I tried to move and he wouldn't let me. I've been so upset all day, I'm so mad that he would purposely take that risk when it wasn't what we had agreed. He has no idea how difficult raising a child is so I don't think he understands how serious the situation is.

AIBU to be so upset and angry and be seriously rethinking our relationship?

DawnMumsnet · 29/03/2015 19:54

Evening all,

Thanks for all your reports about this thread.

We have deleted some victim-blaming posts and feel like now would be a good time to link to our We Believe You Campaign.

There's a list of the rape myths we're challenging here.

And here's one myth that a certain poster may need reminding about:

MYTH: It's not rape if a woman has consented to some sexual intimacy
REALITY: A woman can withdraw consent at any time during sexual activity.

Hope you're okay, OP. Flowers

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