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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think we don't need to go overboard? (warning: contains ILs and fb and a pfb)

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manchestermummy · 28/03/2015 16:53

In other words, the perfect thread.

My dn started walking this week at a completely average, non spectacular age. We learned of this development via fb (natch) and I made some sort of appropriate comment. Dh doesn't really do fb so didn't comment.

The baby was taken for a celebratory lunch to mark the event.

Dh got a message from his mum along the lines of reminding us how pleased we were when our dc started walking, subtext: you should be making more of a fuss. And also how lovely it was that SIL took them all out to celebrate.

When dd1 started walking in 2008 'life events' didn't exist on fb. And I opted for a text to my friends - who had babies the same age and who I saw weekly - to say "finally!".

We are also in the doghouse for not buying dn an Easter Egg, I think. We don't buy for own dc, let alone anyone else's, and I really didn't like people buying masses of chocolate for my dc when they were babies. We might get a spring-related stuffed animal, maybe.

Had dn overcome some major physical difficulty I might have been more inclined to go all out with the likes and tagging into statuses but this was a normal baby walking at a normal time.

I think this is all too much pfb-ness really - AIBU to carry on with my lackadaisical approach to the timely achievement of milestones?

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timeaftertimeagain · 28/03/2015 16:55

Just ignore it. Don't get drawn into it.

SoonToBeSix · 28/03/2015 16:55

Yanbu mostly because she expects an a Easter Egg for a baby.

Joyfulldeathsquad · 28/03/2015 16:56

YANBU

Oh god the fanfare this child is going to receive through out her life Grin

VixxFace · 28/03/2015 16:57

yanbu. if someone messaged me to let me know their baby was walking it would be met with an 'ah'. Is anyone reallllly that interested apart from the parents?

Shallishanti · 28/03/2015 16:59

YANBU
tis v funny though
in X years we will all look back and wonder why we felt the need to document every little detail of our lives on fb
(and some of us, who resisted all the way, will feel smugGrin)

Iggi999 · 28/03/2015 16:59

Easter eggs are, of course, for the mummies not the babies.

LokiBear · 28/03/2015 16:59

Madness. My pfb got 12 easter eggs on her first Easter and mil and dm were outraged that I didn't give her any of the eggs. She was 9 months old!

SuperMumTum · 28/03/2015 17:01

YANBU. When DD started walking the only people who really cared were me and DP. It was vaguely noteworthy amongst my friends as she was quite young but the extended family weren't particularly excited and neither did I expect them to be. Again when my dn walked it was hardly expected that we throw a party. Also re easter eggs for little children YANBU. Totally unnecessary imo.

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manchestermummy · 28/03/2015 17:07

When dn started to sleep through the night, it was decided that they were now too advanced for daytime naps.

I literally cannot wait until dn starts school.

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formerbabe · 28/03/2015 17:42

The baby was taken for a celebratory lunch to mark the event

Confused
flora717 · 28/03/2015 17:45

Too advanced for day time naps. Brilliant. Surely such an advanced child wouldn't be interested in tacky sweets to mark a significant religious event anyway Wink

xvxvxvxvxvxvxvxv · 28/03/2015 17:49

YABU
You should of thrown the celebratory lunch yourself. Maybe hired out an entire restaurant. And presented him with an engraved gold cup.

Koalafications · 28/03/2015 17:54

Grin at the 'celebratory lunch'

LittleBairn · 28/03/2015 17:54

I would ignore otherwise you will have start celebrating every milestone this child has from now on. First haircut, first sentence, first day at school etc.

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manchestermummy · 28/03/2015 18:01

We weren't invited to the lunch. Presumably my cute and very articulate 4 yo might have detracted from the wonder that is the walking baby.

Now, I do have a problem. Dh and I are scheduled to be godparents. We haven't mentioned the fact this will be utterly impossible due to my upbringing - we would be branded awkward - but for reference, as dh will make the grade, what should we be doing? Is there a standard? What type of fb status updates are appropriate?

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Sparklingbrook · 28/03/2015 18:06

I am so glad I had my two before FB was invented. Grin

They sound v entertaining though. I hope the baby enjoyed her celebration lunch, hopefully they will post photos of their dinners as is tradition.

How come you can't be GM?

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manchestermummy · 28/03/2015 18:11

Well, I don't know about this particular vicar, but I was raised Jewish Grin. I know more about Christianity than my DH though, surely that counts.

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TheOldestCat · 28/03/2015 18:15

I'm not Christian and was married in a church - maybe it's one of those things where it's up to the vicar? (Disclaimer - no idea!)

On your amazing DN, wowzers. Good job you've got facebook to keep up with the amazing life events which must be celebrated. But YANBU!

Momagain1 · 28/03/2015 18:16

Please let the sis/sil have a second child. That poor dn really needs one.

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manchestermummy · 28/03/2015 18:18

I must say it keeps me entertained! She even photographs front covers of the books she reads to dn.

Re being gm, you might be right - my friend tried to ask if I could be gm to her dc but that vicar said no. I was incredibly touched by the gesture though, meant so much to me Smile as does being asked to be my dn's gm.

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Andylion · 28/03/2015 18:30

What type of fb status updates are appropriate?

If you do end up being her gm, you would be required to set up a fb profile page for her and possibly her own youtube channel. Wait, she probably has one of those already, with the video of her first poop.

FeckTheMagicDragon · 28/03/2015 18:33

Do they know you were raised jewish?

the Catholic Church requires two godparents: one must be Catholic, and the other must be either Catholic or a baptized non-Catholic Christian - not sure about any other christian based faith.

When you are asked to be godparents go totally over the top with joy. Invite them all to lunch to celebrate the honor of being a godmother. Then get up, do a toast to DN. Finish it with 'from your loving Jewish God mother'.

Then cue tears and hurt feelings when they retract the invitation. And a gracious, but sniffling offer of forgiveness :)

ladybirdsaidneveraword · 28/03/2015 18:37

We wanted a Jewish friend of my Dh to be our Ds's Godfather. Our vicar suggested we asked him to be a sponsor instead - he took part in the same bits of the service as the Godparents, and took the promises/vows he was happy to make, but not the specifically Christian ones. Maybe you could be a sponsor for your Dn?

Yarp · 28/03/2015 18:48

How strange. Will she throw a shin-dig when the first tooth falls out?

A party when the first poo plops into the toilet?

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manchestermummy · 28/03/2015 18:52

Feck they do and ladybird that sounds lovely.

"From your loving Jewish godmother" For some reason I am hearing that in David Schwimmer's voice a la 'The one with the Holiday Armadillo'...

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