to think we don't need to go overboard? (warning: contains ILs and fb and a pfb)

[manchestermummy]

In other words, the perfect thread.

My dn started walking this week at a completely average, non spectacular age. We learned of this development via fb (natch) and I made some sort of appropriate comment. Dh doesn't really do fb so didn't comment.

The baby was taken for a celebratory lunch to mark the event.

Dh got a message from his mum along the lines of reminding us how pleased we were when our dc started walking, subtext: you should be making more of a fuss. And also how lovely it was that SIL took them all out to celebrate.

When dd1 started walking in 2008 'life events' didn't exist on fb. And I opted for a text to my friends - who had babies the same age and who I saw weekly - to say "finally!".

We are also in the doghouse for not buying dn an Easter Egg, I think. We don't buy for own dc, let alone anyone else's, and I really didn't like people buying masses of chocolate for my dc when they were babies. We might get a spring-related stuffed animal, maybe.

Had dn overcome some major physical difficulty I might have been more inclined to go all out with the likes and tagging into statuses but this was a normal baby walking at a normal time.

I think this is all too much pfb-ness really - AIBU to carry on with my lackadaisical approach to the timely achievement of milestones?

Madness, this kind of thing. Celebratory lunch for walking? Never heard of su…

Shit, sorry. Got to go. My nephew just put on his own socks. We're got 200 people coming for a low-key clambake. Fucking Amazing will be written across the sky in fireworks at 10.00 p.m. If anyone doesn't show, we'll assume they just don't give a shit about my nephew's feet. Fuckers.

My pfb has cerebral palsy and didn't walk till she was over two, and it was the most incredible feat of walking ever to be performed by any child, OBVIOUSLY, and I still didn't expect anyone else to make a fuss.

There was no lunch but we did buy her a welshcake.

They sound unhinged.

welsh I'd have been cheering very loudly for you and your dd in that case!

My 7yo saw an open team-mate and passed him the ball today, at footie practice. Only his 2nd time there and he never watches footie on telly. I reckon this feat was amazing & much more worthy of FB update than when he walked at 9 months old.

Aw, bless you, thanks.

Obviously people were delighted for her but we didn't, yunno, ring round and demand praise or owt.

Maybe you need to anticipate here, and investigate the cost of bronzing the little treasure's first crap on a potty and a proud aunt memento.

Yes as previous poster said you can be a sponsor even if you haven't been christened (even the highest/most illiberal of Anglican churches will accept that I believe). They get to stand up and do most things with the GPs.

Don't the parents see the irony of making their newly walking toddler sit through a celebratory lunch?! When my ds first learnt to walk he wanted to walk everywhere, maybe dn is just not that committed to the whole walking thing...

Yarp i love the idea of a poo in the toilet party.
Imagine the bunting!
Could be a string of potties.
A toilet shaped cake!
Poo shaped chocolate cupcakes?
Oh yes the initial event would need to be photographed and put on facebook...

Going against the grain here - is it possible the celebratory lunch was just an excuse to, well, go out to lunch? Was it slightly tongue in cheek? While yes it's completely PFB, it's a nice thing to do. There are lots of negative things in this world, the parents sound like they are being positive about something good. Where's the harm?

As for the Easter egg, perhaps they just felt their child should be recognised and included as part of the family. If their family is an Easter egg giving/receiving type.

While both of these things are PFB behaviour, they really are not awful.

I wouldn't have done either though.

Oh god, this!
BIL and his partner have 4 children. With each one, we have had the 'we're expecting' phone call - always a call in person as mil does not deem this suitable news to be delivered by text despite the fact that they live miles away and we don't talk to them at any other time. No fallouts - just DH isn't particularly close to his brother, there's a large age gap.

The first three were boys. We said congratulations. Didn't send a card, not our style.
The fourth time - 'we're having another baby!' So we say congratulations. Then we get a second call. 'We've had a scan, it's a girl!' Okay, well, still congratulations.
Not good enough, apparantly. We must send a card. Because this one is a girl. And therefore special unlike the previous boy babies

You may have seen her picture in the newsletter that gets sent to every household. She's the only baby girl ever to have been born. Everything is super special - look here's a picture of her eating some toast from a pink plate look here's a picture of her in a Halloween baby witch dress that was pink look here she is watching her brothers play football in her pink buggy

I like the children, they are pretty nice kids when we've met them. The oldest one can be a bit of a sod but he's a teenager. The younger boys are funny and little tearaways. But babygirl is the total focus of the fb updates. Everything is about her.

Oops, sorry. Didn't mean to go off on a long rant there.
As you were.

I love the warning on this thread! Yes she is being very pfb about it. Maybe there should be a name, Mummyzilla. Imagine what she will be like at Christmas.

That's so sad, Alpaca! Her brothers are going to feel like nonentities if they find out about it.

Yabu- you should have sent a starting to walk hamper.

If they want Easter marking perhaps you could give DN the Book of Common Prayer or a children's bible?

That's how I feel, thumb. As if the boys they had (after the first one) somehow weren't good enough. That they should have been girls. My mil is just as bad as the parents and she already has a grand daughter from my other BIL...

Love the clambake First.

My aunt was very similar with my cousin. He 35 now so did all the PFB back in the days before FB. This meant that we would get phone calls about everything he did. Walking, first words, starting school, a 7am call to say the school he had got into, exam results.
Now he has honestly achieved something brilliant, proper brilliant. The kind of thing that if he was my child I would have a banner across the house painted with 6 ft high letters and I would tell every living person I met. As a family we now get frequent emails updating us. The problem is that although we are all very proud of him it is almost like background noise now.

I've never been christened and not religious (although did go to CofE primary if that counts?) but I'm godmother to two of my friends kids - nobody at either church asked me anything, it might seem hypocritical because I don't believe and had to stand up in church and nod/agree in the right places but shrug life's too short for me to care, I agreed because it was important to my mates