DP called his parents this morning to arrange meeting tomorrow to move our stuff out of one their garages. Mil was in the background asking what we were doing, what dp wanted and if we wanted to come round for a cup of tea. I saw mil 4 times this week, she took dd all day and night last Saturday (at her request) and dp saw his parents twice last week. We are seeing them tomorrow too but mil wasn't backing off- unfortunately for her we just genuinely had plans today to take dd swimming and to get my hair cut before we took dd to a play area,, we told mil that we will catch up tomorrow and thought that was that. She then proceeded to basically text dp saying she happened to decide she was spending the afternoon at the shopping centre (one she never visits and is pretty far from her house) that I get my hair done. Unfortunately for her we got this text after realising the swimming Pool next to the shopping centre was closed, so we had cancelled my apt to take dd swimming elsewhere. Mil now very upset she's driven all that way to meet us (without telling us until she got there) and saying that dp doesn't respect her or want to see her blah blah blah.
Were we wrong here? And is it not a bit odd to after being told we can't meet up to follow us to where we are basically giving us no option but to spend the day with her?
Fil also expressed to dp on the phone that he was much lookig forward to relaxing this afternoon as they've had his parents all week- so it's obvious to poor man wanted a break he's never got (he was happy to have some time without a crazy 2 year old running about and made it clear on the phone).