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To think parents should take responsibility if children chase sheep on country walk?

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Firethorn · 26/03/2015 18:13

Recently went for a country walk (public right of way across farmland) with SIL, my 2 nieces, and another couple and their 3 kids. Crossing a sheep-field, the 5 kids started chasing sheep, trying to 'round them up' in a flock like they'd seen sheepdogs do on TV. I asked SIL if we should stop them, she said no they always do this it's not doing any harm. Other couple agreed and said the kids are having fun, let them play with the sheep. I was a bit concerned as one child was carrying a stick and waving it around, but respected the parents' decision.
Shortly afterwards an irate farmer marched towards us shouting and swearing! She was really aggressive and had a snarling dog (off the lead), dog was circling us but not approaching. For about 5 minutes mins she yelled and swore at the kids for chasing her sheep. All 3 parents then turned on their kids and told them off, lying that they'd been telling them to stop but they'd disobeyed! (They hadn't told them to stop at any point). My niece burst into tears and hid behind me and I lost my temper with farmer for swearing at kids, told her to back off and stop shouting, and to get dog under control. The dad of one of other kids then threatened to kick the dog if it came near his kids, and after some more shouting we decided to go back way we'd come. She shouted abuse after us until we were out of sight!

I'm annoyed with other parents for letting their kids chase sheep then lying about trying to stop them! Also with farmer for being so intimidating and rude. SIL says we should just have apologised and carried on walking. AIBU?

OP posts:
LaurieFairyCake · 26/03/2015 18:28

I don't think I've ever read such a mind numbingly stupid OP. 9 years, no ones been that stupid.

This thread has really angered me.

Koalafications · 26/03/2015 18:28

I'm with the farmer.

Your SIL and the adults behaved appallingly and should be ashamed of themselves. I'm am so Angry at their behaviour.

I feel very sorry for you those sheep. Scaring animals (especially ones who are probably pregnant) is completely unacceptable.

AlpacaLypse · 26/03/2015 18:29

The public right of way is the six foot width of the footpath. You and the rest of your party had no right to stray from that area. The farmer had every right to have her working dog off lead on her property.

YANBU at all about the other adults telling lies though, and in their children's presence too!

BreeVDKamp · 26/03/2015 18:29

What the hell!!!!! They could have miscarried their lambs if they got too stressed. I am AMAZED at the parents in this story! I'm assuming none of you live in the countryside?? Otherwise how could you not know that this behaviour is moronic?

Koalafications · 26/03/2015 18:30

*for those sheep

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 26/03/2015 18:30

I'm with the farmer. You were all out of order allowing the children to frighten the sheep like that, especially as they were very likely pregnant.

Just because the dog wasn't on a lead doesn't mean it wasn't under control.

YWBVVVVVU

silveroldie2 · 26/03/2015 18:30

YABU. If adults are too stupid to realise that you do not allow children to run riot trying to round up sheep, especially when they are probably pregnant, I suggest they stay out of fields with livestock.

The farmer was in the right and as has already been said had the children been dogs, they would quite rightly be dead by now.

NickNackNooToYou · 26/03/2015 18:30

You were completely out of order and ignorant too. It's lambing time & the ewes are heavily pregnant 'rounding them up' for fun is damn well irresponsible.

I'm a farmers daughter and have had many 'words' with people like you 'enjoying' the countryside. Remember it is a work place too, it remains as beautiful as it is thanks to the farmers who look after the land.

As an aside if you feel something is wrong don't be a sheep and say something. Life is a learning curve and we are always learning.

Koalafications · 26/03/2015 18:31

Bree I have lived in London my whole life and I know that it is completely unacceptable. Being a city dweller is no excuse!

monkeyfacegrace · 26/03/2015 18:31

The dog would have been under full control. It wouldn't have come near you.

You are quite obviously townies who have no idea about farming and the countryside.

ilovechristmas1 · 26/03/2015 18:31

you really need to ask

VivaLeBeaver · 26/03/2015 18:32

Stupid, stupid parents.

At least the kids probably won't chase sheep again. Shame it's taken a bollocking from a stranger to get the message over rather than decent parenting.

Iwantacampervan · 26/03/2015 18:32

At this time of year most fields containing sheep have signs regarding the actions of dogs worrying sheep - I would never have thought that anyone would think it was OK for children to chase the sheep.

I presume that the dog was a trained sheepdog and therefore likely to be far more under control than any of the adults or children.

paddlenorapaddle · 26/03/2015 18:32

You are bang out of order and I think you know that, as others have said you can cause spontaneous abortions in sheep if you frighten them like that
which i have to say would have traumatised the children more then a shouting swearing farmer.

I can't believe you all had the audacity to stand there and argue then shout about the dog who incidentally was only doing to you, what you had done to the sheep.

The minute you stepped off the right of way you were effectively trespassing

No wonder farmers make it difficult for people to access these PRW

HerRoyalNotness · 26/03/2015 18:33

You personally are NBU, but your SIL, the couple and the kids were.

You'll know next time, what is and isn't reasonable when accessing a walkway across farm land.

PrettyFeet · 26/03/2015 18:33

Not sure chasing sheep is actually "terrorising" them really Grin

SideOrderofChips · 26/03/2015 18:34

It is terrorising them. The same as if you let kids go into a field and chase horses or cattle around.

You were lucky there were no rams in the field.

LaurieFairyCake · 26/03/2015 18:35

Yes chasing sheep is terrorising them.

They are terrified when they are chased and will run off cliffs.

BreeVDKamp · 26/03/2015 18:35

koala I know that, but if someone is not from the countryside and knows nothing about farms etc then that's a tiny bit more of an excuse.

MildDrPepperAddiction · 26/03/2015 18:35

Wow. How horribly irresponsible and arrogant of all of you for not stopping the children.

You deserved the verbal abuse frankly.

Poor sheep. Hmm

StayingSamVimesGirl · 26/03/2015 18:37

The Countryside code says:

"Leave ...farm animals alone – don’t interfere with animals even if you think they’re in distress. Try to alert the farmer instead."

People treat the countryside like a big theme park, and I bet only a tiny minority bother to follow the countryside code.

SunshineAndShadows · 26/03/2015 18:37

Chasing a heavily pregnant prey species until it's likely to abort

What term would you use Prettyfeet as you find it so amusing?

woowoo22 · 26/03/2015 18:39

Your SIL WBVU.

Koalafications · 26/03/2015 18:39

Bree they should know enough to know that chasing animals is a pretty dangerous thing to do.
Let's hope they know not to chase Bulls or stags... Grin

lunar1 · 26/03/2015 18:39

I can't believe you had a go at the poor farmer who was trying to protect their animals.

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