Naming a child I DON'T want in DD's class?

[flora717]

This probably is unreasonable. DD(7) had been friendly with a certain child in her class. It's a big school 2 classes per year. Every year children are asked to name some friends who they want to be with next year.
This child has taken to telling DD she hates her, she's stupid, she's ugly and kicking punching etc. They were friends. The last visit ended in this child breaking some toys and ornament because she didn't want to leave. Out of nerves my DD started laughing then crying (she was scared of this tantrum). WIBU to just say 'not this child please' to the teacher? They'd still be at the same school, same breaks, same trips etc. I know it wouldn't 'get rid' and I know she needs to learn to deal with this sort of behaviour and show the necessary detatchment. But she's 7. I have no idea if this girl is vindictive. She might get over (the distance DD is trying to create) it in a few weeks. But the lists are in tomorrow.
Go on MN. Give me both barrels.

I have. I had a problem with DD2 when a friend turned on her. The school felt that DD2 was a 'good influence' on the girl, but that meant the class teacher kept pairing them which meant DD2 didn't have an escape. So when the classes were being reshuffled I asked.

It's all very well teaching children how to resolve things, but my DD was growing to hate school because of this child and I could help stop that.

It's just as important that children know their parents will go in to bat for them when they can when te situation calls for it as it is that they learn to resolve things imo.

sorry box. i see you were referring to the child in OP. I misunderstood. am totally tired today.

Obviously by "resolving " things I meant the school should work hard to do this, not that the kids should have to resolve things themselves.

But, as i said, I am on the fence re the OP.

I have done when asked for friendship groups from playgroup for transfer to school. I said DS is a sociable boy and will make friends wherever he's put, but don't want him in the same class as the boy who repeatedly hurt and picked on him. Didn't want to come across as dictating too much by also giving a list of children who I did want him to be with and avoiding the bully was my priority.

I did it. The school were grateful for the input but didn't promise anything. I got the impression that I wasn't the only mum with a request. You have nothing to lose.

Good luck with managing the situation.

Do it.
The worst that can happen is them say no.
Def do it