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The breakfast debate in our home.

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justbatteringon · 26/03/2015 07:53

When dp gets up he makes himself and our ds eggs and porridge every morning. I consider this their thing they do together.

I'm not a big fan of eggs and porridge I think it's a faff to make so when I get up with DS who's 2 btw I give him formula and toast maybe some cereal. Usually his dad is up about an hour later and they have their breakfast anyway.

But dear mners dp thinks I should also make eggs and porridge on my mornings aibu not to do this ? (It usually causes a few shouty words when I haven't)

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Discopanda · 26/03/2015 09:00

One of the common misconceptions in the Western world is that we need masses and masses of protein. A child between 1-3 needs around 13g of protein a day, which happens to be the same amount as there is in an egg. Unless your DS is just eating fruit and white carbs the rest of the day, he doesn't need eggs every day.

lornathewizzard · 26/03/2015 09:05

45 eggs a week?? Are too many eggs not bad for you?

Gileswithachainsaw · 26/03/2015 09:06

Well he doesn't need eggs and porridge any more than he needs 2 breakfasts.

Instead of shouting your dp could help try and get him til half six/seven so he only has one breakfast which you can vary between you.

It's toast not arsenic what's the problem. your dp is an arse

Seriouslyffs · 26/03/2015 09:06

45 eggs?

MissPenelopeLumawoo2 · 26/03/2015 09:14

Why are eggs and porridge healthier than toast? I thought too many eggs were bad for you too.

seriouslypeedoff · 26/03/2015 09:16

45 eggs?? I am a body builder and only go through about a dozen a week. For me and the rest of the family??

seriouslypeedoff · 26/03/2015 09:20

Don't know why the question marks on my last post. Ignore them! Blush

madreloco · 26/03/2015 09:25

You can eat as many eggs as you like, there is no reason why lots of them is any worse than lots of anything else.
She didn't ask for comments on her families diet, but about the arguments. Typical aibu...not only are yabu, but here's some more things you are doing wrong that you didn't even ask about....

OP, you do what you do, he can do what he does. Thats totally normal for parenting. If your kid likes eggs and porridge, or toast and cereal, who cares what anyone here thnks?

Fairy13 · 26/03/2015 09:27

My ex was like this, so ridged about ridiculous things. For example, he always had pasta for lunch. Every day. Because he was once (during his GCSE exams 15 years ago) told that it would be a good carby way to set his brain up for the exams.

His family also have eggs every single morning for breakfast.

IMO it is important that children learn about variety. Toast is fine for a day. Eggs are fine a couple of times a week... Nothing is good for you if consumed in huge quantities.

It is absolutely not ok that he gets 'shouty' at what you chose to feed your son. Smacks of control to me.

Gileswithachainsaw · 26/03/2015 09:30

She didn't ask for comments on her families diet, but about the arguments. Typical aibu...not only are yabu, but here's some more things you are doing wrong that you didn't even ask about

but it's relevant here. When the op is getting shouted at fir giving something else when he comes down and gives his ds more than he needs making the whole thing no better fir him than the toast and cereal he's yelling about. being better fir you doesn't count if it's resulted in the kid being over fed or not having a varierty

madreloco · 26/03/2015 09:41

You don't know that its more than he needs. Some kids eat a LOT more than others, and it does not mean they are over fed. It's none of your business what her kid eats. She asked if she's unreasonable to not do the same as her co-parent.

ShoutyMom · 26/03/2015 09:41

Guessing if he's a feeder, that the shouting comes from perceived lack of effort. He probably thinks OP is taking lazy way out, and leaving it to be his job to cook what he considers a proper breakfast - even on his morning off.

I agree with everyone re variety and nutrition. However I do sympathise with OP's DH with respect to not really getting a morning off from cooking. Shouting is still unacceptable. Perhaps they could take turns doing a cooked breakfast?

JigsawsAreAllLittlePieces · 26/03/2015 09:42

If I had eggs and porridge every day I would be very sleepy until around lunchtime and be unable to do much as I had overeaten!

It's nice to ring the changes and have little routines such as "Daddy makes eggs, Mummy gives me Weetabix and banana" (for example).

It shouldn't be a case of shouting as something different had been served.

45 eggs a week! We buy 15 and sometimes have eggs left at the end of the week and there's 3 adults living here.

NoseyBuggerMummy · 26/03/2015 09:43

If DP is worried the cereal and toast is not healthy enough why not make it granary seeded bread and add some protein in (cream cheese and smoked mackerel, peanut butter, bit of left over chicken on the side etc) and ditch the cereal.

If DP insists that your DS has porridge and eggs every single day even as opposed to equally healthy alternatives then yes he is BU and strange. Variety is a good thing.

NoseyBuggerMummy · 26/03/2015 09:44

And shouting over it is VU anyway.

Maliceaforethought · 26/03/2015 09:51

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seriouslypeedoff · 26/03/2015 09:58

I am not judging the op for eating 45 eggs a week. Its up to her. I am just shocked at the number.

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat · 26/03/2015 10:16

I'm not shocked at all by 45 eggs per week for a family. We use at least 30 a week between 2 people as 2 each per person most mornings plus baking and other meals.

Maybe your DP and DS like eggs and porridge and want a bigger breakfast. I know I do. Who'se to say what's too much for breakfast?

They say you should breakfast like a king, lunch like a lord and dine like a pauper and that's how I try to eat because that's when I'm hungry. If I have something like toast or cereal for breakfast, I'm hungry before I get to work.

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justbatteringon · 26/03/2015 10:54

Bestzebbie and shoutymum have it on the button I think.
Seriouslypeedoff he thinks himself a bit of a strongman and prefers to get his proteins and such from food rather than supplements or that's his excuse anyway.
If you think though dp has 3 eggs and ds 1every morning and dp will usually have more for supper so 45 isn't that ridiculous tbh not sure why I brought it up was very sleep deprived this morning.
I'll ask him if he'd like to have a morning off cooking and that's why he's rather I make them but I honestly don't think it I'd because he'd make this for himself anyway.

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justbatteringon · 26/03/2015 11:00

Malice I don't think he was underfed but I think he was raised on convenience foods.

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pbwer · 26/03/2015 12:19

Why are you giving a 2yr old formula - genuinely interested as we've just been giving our pfb fullfat cow since she was about 1

PlumpingIsQuiteUpForThud · 26/03/2015 12:33

45 eggs per week = 6.5 per day (ish)

If your DP eats 3 eggs for breakfast and at least 2 for dinner, then I can see how you get to 45 with your DS's intake added in.

Doesn't your DP get bored of eggs though?

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justbatteringon · 26/03/2015 12:39

Pbwer ds is not a fan of fruit and veg as hard as I try to sneak them in, I just prefer to know that he's getting some of the nutrients he needs.
Plumping apparently not I don't get it either I very rarely eat eggs.

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justbatteringon · 26/03/2015 12:44

I asked dp if he would prefer not to have to make a cooked breakfast and if that's what annoys him he said no because he's making his own anyway but that I "should at least of gotten some porridge into him" him being ds.
I'm just going to stop getting up with DS dp does it most mornings anyway.

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TwoOddSocks · 26/03/2015 12:48

I don't really understand what your DP's problem is. Is it that he thinks your breakfast isn't healthy enough or does he literally insist that DS MUST have porridge and eggs every single morning?

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