Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

teen fucking dramas!!

829 replies

Mintyy · 25/03/2015 20:41

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

OP posts:
Pyjamasandwine · 02/04/2015 16:56

butterfly you sound great and so does your family dynamics and humour. Anyway ours are similar so stuff the critics. Grin

My orange one is having 17 friends round tonight to celebrate her 16th birthday. It seemed like a good idea and a cheap option last month but now I am a tad nervous. Wink

Bless dh he's just texted her to say he's sorry but he has to drop off his case and laptop to the house around 7.30, he works away, and the party starts at 7. Her reply was 'ohmygoddadserioudlywhy'

He patiently replied that as we had been banned from the house to the local pub Smile he didn't want to take a case etc with us.

Her reply,

'OhmygoddaddontlookortalktoanyOnethenokkkkkaaaayyy'

I think they are going to sit down and watch the debate actually not consume smuggled in vodka.

BalloonSlayer · 02/04/2015 17:23

butterfly I tell my teens that they need a shower quite frequently. They are both dreadful soap-dodgers. DS1 has faked having showers before (by running the towel under the shower but not getting in himself), that is how resistant he used to be.

I would be quite prepared to tell one of them they need to shower while they were doing a household chore, however, as them helping round the house voluntarily has never actually happened, I cannot give an example of this occurring.

antumbra · 02/04/2015 17:25

pyjamas- good luck tonight!!

Pyjamasandwine · 02/04/2015 17:49

Thanks antumbra she's had one before with far more teens and it was all fine. She's a sensible kid under the fake tan Grin and both she and a number of her girl friends are especially close following a horrific accident.

We thought for a few hours she and they had been killed so to be honest her 16 th birthday is a prayer answered. Smile

Yes Balloon I told my lads if they smelled. Rather I did than their peers did. Best to be upfront. Grin

Bogeyface · 02/04/2015 18:14

Re the shower issue, with DS he had to be told "YOU STINK!!!" and practically frogmarched into the shower, it was revolting. His room stank the house out so bad once I took all his clothes into the garden and threatened to set fire to them unless he washed them, the dirty ones had to stay in the garden until they could go into the machine. He improved slightly after that but not much.

As my DD put on his FB page once......

"THIS [picture of can of lynx] DOES NOT REPLACE THIS [picture of shower]" :o

antumbra · 02/04/2015 18:25

I don't take that approach at all.

If a teenager wants to smell then that's their lookout. I am not into micromanaging nearly adults.

If they smell then they take the consequences- being ribbed by friends and being given a wide berth by the opposite sex ( no bad thing).

I don't micromanage my teenagers doing their homework either. If they want to have a smelly bedroom then that's their space.

butterfly2015 · 02/04/2015 18:26

Pyjamas you are a very brave women. We are here for hand holding later if you get home to 490 teens and a police stand off. (I jest, I hope your dd has a great night)

Balloon and bogeyface thanks for the giggles. I was on the verge of leaving this thread today but the three of you have made me feel much better.

Would anyone like some cake made by my typhoid-infested child?

BalloonSlayer · 02/04/2015 18:32

The thing is that it only takes one child at school to point out loudly that they smell bad, and they are known as the "smelly one" for the next xx years. Like Pyjamas I'd rather it came from me, as kindly as possible, at home.

Bogeyface · 02/04/2015 18:36

If a teenager wants to smell then that's their lookout. I am not into micromanaging nearly adults.

Which is fine up to a point, the point being when the whole house starts to smell because of his disgusting BO stinking clothes in his room and his disgusting BO stinking body walking around the house.

He can smell if he wants to but I dont see why I and the rest of the family should put up with it.

antumbra · 02/04/2015 18:37

Oh I would point out- but not repeatedly.
My kids - like most are smart enough to work out that they smell.

I just don't micromanage situations like this. It's not my issue- it's theirs. I like them to be able to function as adults in many departments.

Pyjamasandwine · 02/04/2015 18:40

butterfly thanks I may post later Wink

antumbra no I disagree with you. Teenagers to me are a special breed. They, like toddlers, need firm fair no nonsense handling and no room or person in my house will be allowed to smell.

I would see it as a bit neglectful actually to nottackle this issue head on like bogey and butterfly whose methods I completely agree with.

You don't want them to settle into bad habits on into adulthood and when I do see adults with dirty clothes, bad teeth and who smell vile I wonder what on earth their parents instilled into them and allowed under their noses. Grin

Pyjamasandwine · 02/04/2015 18:41

Yes balloon exactly labels stick and high school is a tough place.

antumbra · 02/04/2015 18:44

Thankfully all that personal hygeine stuff was sorted out years ago.
Both my teens are in the shower by 6.30 every morning- without being reminded. DD will usually have a shower in the evening too as she does 18 hours of dance class a week.

Pyjamasandwine · 02/04/2015 18:55

Yes true some are far more soap dodgy than others.

3 of mine were good but the oldest needed a cattle prod to the bathroom. He loved his bath as a littly too. Grin

Pyjamasandwine · 02/04/2015 18:57

And cheeky add on so you never actually had to live with a soap dodging teen did you so it's difficult to judge how you would act. Shock

Bogeyface · 02/04/2015 19:05

DD isnt at all soap dodgy, neither are the other girls but DS2 is heading that way too and he will be pulled up on it.

Easy to say what is right and wrong about a situation you have never had to deal with. Rather like people giving parenting advice before they have had children......

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually · 02/04/2015 19:09

Antumbra, are you sure this thread is for you? Surely there is one for perfect teenagers (with perfect parents) on MN somewhere.

You seem to be wilfully misunderstanding the nature of this thread, of course anyone can post anywhere, but your comments aren't really in the spirit of support/sharing general teenage eye roll worthy behaviour, are they? I find them a touch patronising to be honest.

butterfly2015 · 02/04/2015 19:10

It's the underwear thing too. When it's easier to just wear the same set for several days. Teen went through this phase (thankfully not too long) when she was about 13. Dsd is 11 and we are noticing when she's here for two or three nights that absolutely no dirty washing comes down. We find stuff either back in drawers or on her bed. And normally only one pair of knickers.

Still, they grow out of it and eventually they become lovely functioning adults. Like us :o

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually · 02/04/2015 19:13

It's one or othe other isn't it? I have multiple DC who would spend all day, and night too, in the shower or the bath. They seem to have the full stock of a Lush shop each, plus every single can of Impulse or Lynx ever made.

Ds was styling his quiff with a huge tin can of Elnett hairspray the other day.

butterfly2015 · 02/04/2015 19:22

Do you need to make an appointment to get a bath? That's the thing, once teen goes in there, she's in there for ages.

She came in at half six tonight, wolfed down pasta and salad and has gone straight back out.

She is excited about going to our friends farm on Saturday though, loads of us going and she's great with the younger kids and loves the animals.

We got our fluffy chicks in the end. They are purple and green and their wings look like devil horns.

imsureineverdo · 02/04/2015 19:30

My ds1 (16) finished college last Friday and told me to expect a call from his tutor because he'd been late for class. I asked why he was late and he told me it was because his bus had been stuck behind a tractor and they'd also stopped at the train crossing. Did he tell his tutor this? No, he told him he was late because he's not allowed to skateboard down the college corridors!

However he is playing minecraft at the moment with dd (6) perched on his knee so all is forgiven! Smile

Ledkr · 02/04/2015 19:32

antandra pops up on threads to tell everyone how perfect her life is!
My dd does around the same hours dance as yours .ant but I still have to wrestle her minging self Into the shower!!

catzpyjamas · 02/04/2015 19:37

Is there any typhoid cake left? Is it chocolate?
I hid a chocolate cake in my car so DSS didn't eat it before my friend came over. Friend bailed (again) so I decided the cake was mineSmile but it was actually sunny here today and now its mush Sad

YouPooPooBumBum · 02/04/2015 20:35

antumbra will you be writing a book about your perfect parenting? Grin

butterfly2015 · 02/04/2015 20:39

Sorry, there is no typhoid cake as we've not made it yet. God knows how it will turn out. We have vague plans involving shredded wheat, melted chocolate, mini eggs (which came in a jar also containing jelly fried eggs - very Easter themed!) And the weird coloured chicks with devil horns.

Teen will basically make a,Victoria sponge cake and then Dd 2 and I will chuck ingredients at it in the hope it will resemble a nest. In reality it will probably look more like a big pile of poo with devil chicks on top.

If I work out how to do a photo upload I will put one up of the dog poo typhoid cake.