teen fucking dramas!!

[Mintyy]

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

Oh a mum messaged dd and her friends saying her dd was feeling left out of the group they had all fallen out the girl had been nasty according to dd and they were not talking imo you don't get involved and you certainly don't approach 14 yr old about it. 1 of the other mums got her told she didn't miss her.

Oh that must be a relief dd got hers but it hasn't arrived she is hyperventilating it's not till June

Funny, I was just going to ask about girls friendship dramas.
When does it get better?
Dd is 13 and seems to be constantly embroiled in some nastiness.
I blame the internet, they know too much of each other's lives.
She posted a selfie the other day and got bitchy comments from the girls who spend their lives posting selfies it got so nasty that an older friend had stepped in to stop it.
A group of girls at school are friends with one of dds oldest friends and the friend gets awful stick if she spends any time with dd.
On girl is the dd of a friend of mine and actually TURNED HER BACK on me and dd when we were speaking to the mum the other day!!!
My friend did nothing, I'm pretty sure I would have if it had been my dd
Don't remember this with my boys.

When I say turned her back, I mean very definitely and rudely with a sneer.
I was really shocked.

Ledkr we have had that a lot with DD. I can't wait for her to have friends that are more reliable and less bitchy. She currently is friends with more boys than girls. Although at 14/15 I think some of these boys want more than a platonic friendship and DD isn't interested in any of them.

Urm dd is in 6th yr and 17 and they can still be bitchy so till they leave school it sort of peaks at 14 then gets slightly better after that dd is in a mixed friendship group so there is less storming off

God, I am dreading all this. DS is 11 and still quite sweet and cuddly but definitely seeing changes that suggest he will be a beast in a couple of years. DD is 8 and still completely delightful. For now...

Formal dresses do my head in, DD's year have a Facebook page for her year group, just to upload the dress your wearing to the formal so no one wears the same dress. DD ordered her's back in beginning of March, the Formal isn't till June.

Friend dramas are alway driving me up the wall, there is always some drama or another.

Well, I have just been told under no terms at all should I come to the free end of season lifeguards dinner (Both DD and I are lifeguards) for our club. FFS, everyone knows who I am!

Yy there is a Facebook page for the dress 1 of dds friends has the same as somebody else the friend is scared to post it to the page just in case the girl batters her

YY to friendship dramas. It drives me nuts. They're so nasty to each other. Mine used to be good at avoiding the drama and staying neutral but she gets sucked in all the time these days. Most of us parents stay out of it, a lot of us are friends, but one mum gets involved with the dramas all the time, and refuses to accept that her daughter is in anyway at fault

This girl had accused DD and one of her friends of bullying her. The mum had put all over FB that she was going to teach my daughter a lesson, DD was scum, etc, etc. This woman is not a friend of mine and I knew nothing I knew nothing about any bullying, another friend sent me a screenshot. I will not allow my DD to bully anyone, ever, so I got school involved, spoke to a couple of DD's friend's mum, etc. I confiscated DD's phone, changed all her passwords on FB/Instagram/Snapchat, grounded her, took her to/picked her up from school

Another FB post appeared accusing DD of again bullying her DD at school, but DD had been off for a week with tonsillitis, then DD had bullied her DD on her way home from school (I was picking her up) then DD had been sending horrible FB messages (she was locked out of FB).

To start with, the girls had had a bit of an argument (which they both admitted to), the other girl had gone home and had a bit of a moan to her Mum, who then plastered it all over Facebook. The Mum fed the drama so the girl started bullshitting

It was just awful.

peaks at 14fuckity fuck I thought this was the peak.

Even her closest friend has another "horse riding" friend out of school who seems to detest my dd particularly when she and the friend do something.

The thing is, unless you are very blinkered you have to accept that's our own child is probably acting in the same way.

The other week was pretty hard and there were several of these girls being really vile.
I later found out that the two main instigators were having some extremely difficult times at home.

Another girl who dd thinks is some kind of celebrity and has all the designer clothes and latest apple products is the dd of a "kept woman" and spends all her time at her grans whilst her mum is entertaining her much older married boyfriend

Obviously I don't tell dd any of this but it just shows some insight into some kids behaviours.

Oh and don't even get me started in the competitive self harming that is going on (not dd)

I can't remember my friends falling out like they do these days yes you got crap from others but your friends stuck by you there was no inbitching they are just so nasty

I do love the little flashes of little girl though.

A friend owns a farm and we're going to cuddle lambs this afternoon.

We go every year, and I had thought she wouldn't want to come this year, but she's beyond excited

The VP said to me yesterday that FB was the biggest cause of trouble, especially amongst girls. DD isnt allowed it and she has taken Snapchat and Whats App outfof her phone.
All of the teachers said she is on the edge of the trouble but is getting sucked in trying to defend her friend who seems to be bullied horribly. Dd has always been easily led which the teachers all said, but the way I see it she knows shes in school to learn and should wise up.
The teachers were more sympathetic to her than I was tbh. I know its hard if you want to be popular and not singled out at 13, but she can be very bolshy and stand up for herself.
Her friends mum came over to speak and we both said to our dds that they have to just walk away. The friendship group is far too big IMO.
I was very shocked athow much it gad affected her grades in a short space of time.
We had ATalk a few weeks ago and a couple of teachers said they had noticed a change in the last few weeks for the better, so fingers crossed.

The last few years we have been to a farm campsite dd loves it they have alpacas and usually a few babies are born the farmer let dd feed 1 as it was being part hand reared dd was like a little girl skipping and grinning from ear to ear was lovely enjoy your lamb hugging i wanna hug lambs

I was in a friendship group of 3 so very difficult at times. The one girl was pretty rough powerful so it was never her left out, always one of us.
I danced and was often in local papers or shows so was picked on for that.
Dd does the same so I think evokes some jealousy or irritation.
She can be a bit of a show off/attention seeker but can't they all at this age?

I did speak to my friend the other day as I was concerned about her dd getting flak for seeing my dd iyswim?
We got them together and it seems to have helped them stand up for themselves and their friendship.

Dd1 had a terrible time at that age it got so bad a few of them had council ing it was god awful

I have two teens - both at the 'muuuuuum' stage.

And I'm only posting here to grovel in awe at the wonder that is TinkerTailorSoldierSpy - and ask whether she's involved with the Chalet School (vast quantities of children, several multiple births, and boarding school)?

Dds school is rough I have to admit, we're in NI and still have a lot of grammar school and the entrance (11+) test. Its still seen as the good pupils go to the grammars.
DD 1 went to the same school and did brilliantly, she was the golden girl and Im at pains to make sure sure DD2 isnt thinking shes being compared to her.

The parents getting involved is really bizarre isnt it? The VP said they can go so far then hit a brick wall because the parents are refusing to help or acknowledge that their child is in the wrong.
I know a couple of the girls have fathers who have Paramilitary connections and a bit of a fractured homelife.

I'm dreading teenage years with DD. With DSS it was all very Kevin & Perry but I think a girl will be more emotional.
I can already guess at which of DDs classmates are going to be difficult to deal with as teens and I would guess that DD will be the one who tries to be part of things but will always be kept on the edge. They will all be at school together for another 8 years at least and there are already so many dramas.

Dd1 has formal in october and I said she could wear the dress that she wore to her fifth year formal. She had to change schools to do her A levels because their high school doesn't have a sixth form, so nobody would have seen her dress.

She was horrified because she put pictures on FB of her formal so all her new friends would have all ready seen it

jeee I always wanted to go to the Chalet School.

I imagine DD will get another formal dress next year as we're abroad so schools carry on as normal till year 13 but she will have to pay for it (she payed for this one). She orders online too, and we're in NZ so postage bill is massive. Oh well thats her problem..

Fucking hell, she has just got up, fried an egg then demanded the keys to the camper van. I couldn't find them so asked her to call out Dh number, she was cocky so I told her she could wait now, cue hysterical crying and sobbing and stomping off upstairs.
Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeze

Dd1s first formal dress only cost £35 from an old lady shop . It was white with big black flowers on it and a full skirt. I got a big puffy petticoat, from ebay, to go with it and it looked very vintage

She has a pixie cut and isnt very big, and folls off anything that isn't Converse, so the vintage look is quite good for her.
My brother is getting married in October so I'll get a dress that will do both.