teen fucking dramas!!

[Mintyy]

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

I remember shouting at my mum for putting milk in the tea she brought me in bed before school.

I am astonished she didn't throw it at me.

"I left school at 16 had 2 jobs and still did stupid teenager stuff like dropping powder on my carpet or eye rolling and sighing at my mums nagging"

Of course - and still do the stupid things! I felt anger, frustration, the eye rolling, that I knew better etc. I think generally previous generations just weren't allowed some of the realy rude and more outrageous behaviour that some present day teenagers indulge in. It just wouldn't have been acceptable. Not saying the good old days were better at all but expectations and behaviour was different. Think it can be a cultural thing as well.

My 14 year old diary is full of entries as to the disgrace my SF was for making my evening cocoa with half milk half water. Pages and pages of hormonal ranting over this. The humanity!!
I was clearly a complete PITA and am astonished he still loves me.

I actually recently wrote an essay on 'Storm and Stress' in teens and the many cultural differences. It was found that in certain cultures teens experienced less storm and stress for various reasons. It was very eye opening. That said, there are many social and cultural differences in Western Society that makes our teens more likely to experience changes in behaviour like we see here, a lot of that is down to not being allowed as much independence as they like and well, a variety of things which I could go on about forever.

I think antumbra your posts come across as quite smug. I have mainly seen light hearted posts here from people with decent teenagers who obviously have parents who love and guide them. The majority of teens experience challenging behaviour to some extent and I don't think it is helpful to come on and tell people that their teens shouldn't turn into 'monsters'. I see no monster teens on this thread, just parents having a laugh about their behaviour.

It's great if your teens never had challenging behaviour but I don't really see why you felt the need to point that out if your aim wasn't to imply that those who have are doing something wrong.

Tbf i don't allow my teenagers to be rude and they are pulled up for it but sometimes it isn't worth sweating the small stuff and coming on here and ranting and sharing and having a bit of soladarity is a good thing. My parents never had much empathy for me it seemed foreign to them so it was a very much do as i say up bringing i didn't bring mine up like that and even though i wouldn't put up with a lot some i let go .

Agree that today's teenagers experience a lot more stress and a lot less control over their lives - from the age of 10, its one long run of exams and (SATS, school entrance/11 plus exams, GCSEs, A levels etc).

They are expected to stay in education for far longer than previous generations were. The pornification of society and the relentless pressures from the media means there is a lot of pressure on how they look and behave.

In many ways there is pressure for them to grow up too young and too quickly and yet are far more protected and cossetted compared with previous generations.

I think you have summed it up very well Neither

My orange one texted me from her bedroom to say she was cold and could I turn on the heating. The hearing controls are upstairs which I pointed out and she texted back yes but she was so cold she couldn't move due to incipient hypothermia.

She is also never just thirsty but dehydrated.

She has a sore throat it's severe tonsillitis. Her colds are flu and far worse than ours.

Mind she looks so orange/yellow she could be jaundiced.

U2TheEdge-not smug.

I have practiced AP. From the start. My mother was a surrended wife.
My adulthood has been turbulent. Homeless, abused, falsely imprisoned and raped.

I have given my children the greatest of respect from day one and I have been richly rewarded.

I don't actually have an orange one < ironic>

Whats AP ????

Blimey this thread was light hearted yesterday! What's happened?

Why do we have do dis our teens?

Antumbra - clearly you do not understand the sense of humour here. Instead of trolling, please just let this thread be please.

On a lighter note, I cringe looking back on my teenage years. As a mother of a 3mo DD, my DM reckons I'm going to get my just desserts :grin:

Way to fuck up a thread Antumbra

Don't be so ridiculous.

We all adore our teenagers as much as you do antumbra as mine would say chill.

"dis"
down wiv tha kids !
Mine would look at me like this and ask if I needed a cup of tea !

MrsDutchie You are right. My niece in her teens gave my sister the exact same hell which my sister had given my mother and I had no sympathy - she had it coming to her!

I've just remembered my brothers surpise years ago when I let DS off with a slight door slam. "Not like you" says he, judgy pants and eyebrow hoicked. He now has 13 year old twins and one 14 year old.......

Pyjamas. Teen threw up at school on Thursday and I had to go pick her up. Scarlet fever is doing the rounds in this area, by mid afternoon she was adamant that's what she had. Despite the only symptom being the vomit. She was fine the next day. Got to love a bit of drama!

I'm actually really sad that this thread has been dragged down with the inference that because we are on here comparing behaviours and traits that we don't love or support our teens. I'm actually pissed off that what's,been really fun and reassuring, knowing that the door slamming, stropping and attitude is not just our own kid but pretty normal has been misinterpreted to read as us dissing our kids and that's not the case.

For those bringing it down, why don't you go and start your own thread about perfect teens and leave us to it on here.

I've actually had a lovely afternoon with my teen, my 9 year old, my 19 yr old dsd and her bf. I treasure days like this, when everyone's had a giggle and spent time together. We are now watching happy feet. Although the 9 yr old has disappeared upstairs leaving us to it.

Autumbra, my whole life has been turbulent. And I have adored, loved and cherished my kids from day one. I don't have a teen that's pregnant, on drugs, smoking or drinking so I think I've done a good job. She doesn't stay out all night either. She's doing ok at school and has just landed a part time job. She's got two volunteer jobs, one at the youth club, one working with disabled kids and she's been doing both for three years.

She's also just made me a cup of coffee. But she's still a drama queen with attitude who would live in a pig dry if I didn't shout at her on a weekly basis.

I attended my masters graduation last weekend, I couldn't have done it without either of my kids so I thought we would make a night of it and celebrate by staying in a hotel.dd13 brought 6 possible outfits trying on each one, then returning to the first, saying they made her look fat(that would require fat) when I dared request her to make up her mind or we would be late for the ceremony. She said, Christ mum, you always make everything about you! Ehhhhh, my graduation, it is about me.

I like to say "like" every time 13yo DD1 says it, culminating in "I was SO LIKE! Completely LIKE! Everything LIKE!"
She ends up going "AAAGGHH SHUT UUP MUUUM!!"
And on the 10000th time of me shouting "DD please can you get up/bring your laundry down/come down for dinner before I die of old age" I will get the scathing, disgusted
"That's what I'm DOOIIINGGGGG!"

butterfly they are funny bless them.

I am ignoring the posters trying to de rail as anyone sensible can see this is primarily a humorous thread but at try same time allowing us all to see that this living with teens business is tricky for most and it's good to share stories and support each other. That's the whole purpose of mumsnet for goodness sake.

Loving the graduation daring to be about the person actually graduating.

My teens do the like thing and in our case with a distinct brummy accent that makes it worse. loike drives dh dotty.

Howling at "Loike"

Brummy boss