teen fucking dramas!!

[Mintyy]

I mean really and truly, aibu?

If you've never trod on eggshells before, you certainly will when you become owner of a teen.

That is all.

"I love the teenage years- the best yet. It is easy compared to toddlers."

You must have an easy teenager. I found the toddler years much easier than dealing with a 14 year old girl - boyfriend issues, friendship issues, bullying, GCEs. I have lost far more sleep worrying over DD this year than 10 years ago.

I have two teenagers- I haven't encountered any of the difficulties you describe. My oldest is nearly 18.

Maybe my teenagers are easy then.

Two teenage girls here, it is hell.

Lara2, I like your hotel texts. I may leave a leather bound tariff in DSs room with meal and laundry prices and a "Guest Rules" framed poster on the back of his door but I'm not sure if he would ever see them for the mess.

catzpyjamas - go for it! If I'd really thought about it (had the time) I would have gone the whole hog hotel wise - it would have been such sweet revenge! I also called him 'chick', (as in my PFB chick) in front of his friends.

"I have two teenagers- I haven't encountered any of the difficulties you describe."

You have been very lucky then. You only need to look at the teen boards on here and any other parenting forum to understand that it isn't that easy for a great many parents - as this thread has also clearly demonstrated.

It doesn't mean you are necessarily a better parent either.

bun I have never claimed to be a better parent. I do understand that some teenagers can be hard. I must be just lucky.

I was warned about the teenage years when my kids were young, and I spent years dreading it.

Well the gloomcasters were wrong. I just love having my teenagers around.

Antumbra - agree the screeching was louder when she was a toddler and the temper even more uncontrollable, but at least I could pick her up and put her out the way.

Lara I love the hotel management texts!! Brilliant idea.

Autumbra, this thread is very light hearted and just a place where we compare the daily unreasonable behaviour inflicted upon us. We get that your kids are perfect which is great but you've posted it about five times now. We get it. Stop rubbing it in.

Screaming, shouting or "OMG dont look at me or you are so embarrassing " - ok you can walk ,get bus, cycle then!

No uniform brought down = no clean clothes.
Huffing, eyerolling or rudeness = come back when you are prepared to speak to me properly or ill dock your cash supply

Mine eat me out of house and home and are untidy but I don't put up with rudeness from anyone.

I love having my teens around doesn't mean they don't come with dramas and strops bunbaker mentioned 14 being hard and it is even if there is no major problems there is still stuff going on this teenager has been a doddle compared to the last 1 I had was exhausting doesn't mean I didn't like her or didn't want to be with her.

Agreed. I love DD to bits and wouldn't be without her, even with the difficult moments.

13 year old triplets!
You deserve a medal

"Teens get such a bad press. Why do these years have to be angst ridden?"

According to Charlie Taylor, the author of Divas and Doorslammers, during adolesence, teenagers' brains actually change and restructure, and during that time they can often lose some abilities - like empathy, impulse/temper control and the ability to see the world and their relationship to it in perspective. Once the restructuring is over, these abilities generally return, but it does mean that there is a genuine, biological reason for these years being angst-ridden, antumbra.

Haha thanks for all the sympathy guys!

I actually have ten children in total.........

19 DS, 17 DS & DD, 15 DS, 13 DS, DS, DD, 9 DS, 7 DD and 4 DS.

A selection adopted, a selection vaginally expelled

oh and I ship them all off to boarding school at 13 which helps

Oh my good grief TEN?!

Is that 17 yr old twins too ? Boarding school genius

DD and DS have sib friends who are one of ten.
Never have I admired a mother so much. Without exception, every one of her brood are charming, well mannered, able to share and a pleasure to be around. I have witnessed this for 18 years now.
In my darker parenting fail years I used to imagine her having magical powers and hoped one day she would let me into the secret.
She is a really nice woman too.

During human history most of what we now call teenagers have been part of the adult world and been treated as such. I don't buy into Charlie Taylor's line.

Andrew- I agree.
Teenagers do go though hormonal changes, but all humans have changes, whether it is a surge of testosterone at age 5, puberty, monthly hormonal changes for women, post natal, menopause etc.

It needn't turn people into monsters.

Teenagers need loving guidance, empathy, understanding. Like all individuals.

Teenagers need loving guidance, empathy, understanding.

Why do you think that the posters on this thread don't treat their teenagers like that?

Oh dear what was a bit of a moany bit of a laugh supportive thread has got far to serious

Who what makes our teenagers here act the way they do? I'm sure my parents and GPS didn't act like many do these days. I don't remember me or my friends being that bad either. My parents really really annoyed me but don't rmember throwing massive tantrums. I left school at 16 and had two jobs though, same as my siblings.

I left school at 16 had 2 jobs and still did stupid teenager stuff like dropping powder on my carpet or eye rolling and sighing at my mums nagging