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To want my boy to keep his long locks

33 replies

Blarblarblar · 25/03/2015 16:46

My son is 5 has longish shaggy blond hair. I love it, he doesn't.
He's off to the hairdressers I usually just get him a trim but he really wants to cut it all off. Should I let him be responsible for his own wee head or do I push what I want (and be a selfish bitch)?

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MaxPepsi · 25/03/2015 16:49

He's 5, he knows his own mind.

If he hates it short, it will grow back.

I don't understand, genuinely, why you would inflict something your child hates (which is of no benefit) for your own means.

AuntieStella · 25/03/2015 16:50

His head, his choice.

OK, with small children you can ban wildly unsuitable choices. But this isn't one of them.

DuelingFanjo · 25/03/2015 16:53

Yes, let him have it how he wants (Within reason).

Icimoi · 25/03/2015 16:54

If you don't let him do this he will only get one of his friends to cut it for him. And you know that would look a whole lot worse.

Jackieharris · 25/03/2015 16:55

At 5 it's up to you.

Nerf · 25/03/2015 16:55

Aw op. One of mine has beautiful long hair and I love it and so does he. Maybe show him some styles on the Internet before you go? There are some really nice versions of short.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 25/03/2015 16:56

If he wants it cut why on earth (beyond vetoing patterns being shaved into his head etc) wouldn't you let him?

squoosh · 25/03/2015 16:56

Let him have his hair cut. He's old enough to make this decision.

DuelingFanjo · 25/03/2015 16:57

Though of course, when he's 14 and he wants it bleached, dyed pink and shaved you're going to have to tell him no.

liveloveluggage · 25/03/2015 16:57

Long hair is more unusual at school, so if he wants to fit in with the others I think you should let him.

CMOTGilbertBlythe · 25/03/2015 16:58

Yes, let him have it cut.

Original poster
Blarblarblar · 25/03/2015 16:58

Arse, I know, he can choose his cut. He just looking so lovely, but I have called his dad ( he's taken him) and said get what he wants.

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hopingforamiracle · 25/03/2015 17:00

I take it you don't have a daughter?

thefirstmrsrochester · 25/03/2015 17:00

Long shaggy blonde hair is awesome and was my DS trademark when he was a young boy. He did get some stick from classmates when he was around the age of your ds but fortunately for me, he wasn't the type to give a monkeys. Is it possible someone had said something to him about long hair on boys? I'd have been gutted if my ds had cut off his lovely hair.

Mamabear14 · 25/03/2015 17:00

Both my boys have long hair, one lovely and curly, one baby blonde. It will make me cry so much when they decide to cut it off, but ultimately it's their choice.

irretating · 25/03/2015 17:02

I could have written this. I went through this pain with my 5 year old, also with long blond locks. He's currently rocking a skater boy look. It turned out that he wasn't fully ready to have it all chopped off for which I am very relieved.

squoosh · 25/03/2015 17:03

It's only hair, nothing to feel gutted about.

uggmum · 25/03/2015 17:04

My ds had lovely blond hair. Cut in a surfer style. I loved it

He's now 11 and at high school and has just had it cut to a short style. It's a bit 'boy band' ish.
It really suits him though and he looks great.
I'm pleased managed to keep longer hair for 11 years.

Original poster
Blarblarblar · 25/03/2015 17:05

Mrs Rochester one of the other boys has started calling him a girl, he was totally fine about it for a couple months ( cause girls are fab his response) but it seems to have got in to his wee head. All the other boys have skinheads at school Sad
It's done now we shall just have to be really encouraging when he comes in with his new do.

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EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 25/03/2015 17:05

Children should have the right to wear what they like and choose their own style. My DS is stylistically opposite to me, he would love in his Chelsea football kit if he could. But he's not an extension of me, so he chooses his own style.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 25/03/2015 17:07

Look at images of "Denny" on Eastenders.

MuddlePuddle · 25/03/2015 17:07

If it is any consolation my youngest had long hair until he was 5/6 wanted it all off, I let him. He is now 11 and has long hair again. So you never know.

farewellfigure · 25/03/2015 17:08

DS has longish surfer type blonde messy curls. He wants it like DH which is a number 1 all over to hide the bald bit. He desperately needs it cut as he can't see out. Last time he said he wanted it short and the hairdresser did it short-ish but managed to keep the wave and mess. It was a happy medium. Can you suggest something like that?

thefirstmrsrochester · 25/03/2015 17:14

Aw, I bet he is still as cute as anything and y'know, hair grows back Grin

crazykat · 25/03/2015 17:16

Yanbu to want him to keep his hair long. Ywbu to make him keep it if he want it short. My ds has very thick, curly hair and hates when it starts getting longer than a couple of inches long and pesters to get it cut. I'm not a fan of long hair on boys/men but if he really wanted to grow it I'd let him as long as he let me brush it so it's neat.

My dd had hair halfway down her back at about 5 and asked for a shoulder length bob. I wanted her to keep it long but let her get it cut. She loved it but as it's grown longer now want it to stay long.

When they're this age they're old enough to have input on what hairstyle they have as long as it's within reason and not a blue mohican or similar.

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