to want a new engagement ring?

[mooboos]

My husband proposed to me (without a ring) 4 years ago today whilst on holiday and let me choose one myself when we got back. We didn't have that much disposable income at the time and I ended up picking a cheap one for £80 from H Samuel (no problem with the price - I loved the ring and was very happy with it).

Fast forward to January this year and the stone fell out . I took it to two jewellers who both told me that as it was such a cheap ring it would not be worth repairing it and that the actual repair process may actually break it even more and that it was probably better to just replace it. Husband knows all of this and knows how sad I was when it broke.

So now I have no engagement ring .

We are now in a financially much better position than we were when we got engaged and my husband has decided that he wants to buy £2,300 worth of graphics cards for his PC.

So, AIBU to wish that he would spend some of that money on buying me a new ring instead? I'm not even after an expensive one...just something to love and wear as much as I loved the old one.

Flavia they are already married! RTT.

Oh, sorry, I read engagement ring and focused on that.

In that case, go for marriage counselling and cross your fingers.
It sounds a exhausting way to live.

Sounds to me like you are married to a selfish man-child

And as for people who say you are no longer engaged so don't need a ring, well since when did women discard an engagement ring once they were married?

I'm not saying that! I'm saying you're no longer engaged so it makes no difference if you want to change it for some reason or who buys it. The point at which it's manners to accept what you get with gratitude is over, the engagement part is done, so do what you want yourself.

In a purely logical sense it doesn't, no, but many couples like to retain an element of romance long after the wedding, and it would be just nice if a DH offered to buy a ring rather than kind of shrugging and say 'Yeah, pop out and get one for yourself love.'

Well possibly. But from a purely pragmatic point of view, doing it yourself ends up with a ring that you really want. I suppose it's a question of what matters more - the romantic gesture or the actual ring. I favour the actual ring, personally, so clearly that colours my opinion. But I am a bit of a diamond jewellery fan and I like what I like so the freedom to get it without interference or hurt feelings is a massive deal to me.

Stop,lecturing the OP on how to use/not use credit cards! She only asked if she should have a ring or not!

FWIW I would just buy one myself.

I don't think anyone is lecturing her on how to use a credit card- have you actually read the whole thread and understood the deeper issues around money in their marriage?

I'm normally the last person who has any sympathy with "wanting a perfect engagement ring" type issues - but if you had one that meant a lot to you that's damaged, I think replacing or repairing that treasured possession is a reasonable wish! Is there really no way of repairing it (even if the repair cost is more than the original ring price)? Or could you do something like incorporate the stones from the old one into a new ring, so you get to half-retain the actual item that you're attached to? That'd be my first choice. (I imagine, although we never bothered with engagement rings!)

I also think that it's a reasonable expectation for you DH to understand why your engagement ring you've had for years is important and might warrant replacing. And I have some thoughts on his general attitude and money management, but you're not posting about those, so I'll keep my nose out!