By telling my DH that he can't get dreadlocks?

[TrixieB123]

I think he's having an early mid life crisis and has declared that he's growing his hair and getting dreadlocks. He doesn't need an excuse to not wash his hair as it is! Grubby sod.

Is he taking up Rastafari too?

I cannot stand dreadlocks, they bloody disgusting!

as long as you don't mid him telling you what you can and can't do with your hair. seems fair.

Yanbu to hate it but yabu to tell him what he can and cannot do with his own hair. Dreadlocks do absolutely stink though.

I always run appearance changes by him first, it's not just me that has to live with it!

I don't think I'd even mind if I knew he'd maintain them properly but I just know that they'd look terrible.

chocolate that is incredibly rude. Dreadlocks are deeply rooted in many cultures - not just a fashion statement to be judged and picked apart by those who obviously don't share that culture.

I had dreads for years when I was younger. You can still wash them, they are not dirty or disgusting.

Making them hurts like hell and if you don't have really curly hair they take a lot of maintenance though. If he is English he has better be prepared to spent a lot of time doing his hair.

Just wondering how you would feel if he said you couldn't cut your hair?

My DS and her husband both have dreadlocks and they really suit them, they're well maintained (not smelly at all) but I know how rubbish my husband can be at self maintenance (I knew it when I married him, reminding him to shower is just a part of my life now.) Plus if DD comes home with nits then it would be horrible.

I dont think you get to tell him what he can do with his hair, anymore than he can tell you what to do with yours. Yabu.

Really curious to know what sort of hair he has?!

Are they easy to wash?

His hair is currently really thick and dead straight so it would be a nightmare for him to take care of. He's got a bad habit of just washing his hair in the sink as it is, I can't imagine him hooking in wispy roots so he'd just look a bit homeless.

YADBU. It's his hair.

YABU because it's his hair

I don't like dreadlocks on anyone though

They just remind me of dirty hair, whether they're clean or not.

"I always run appearance changes by him first"

YABU for that as well as your OP. What you do with your body is not his business and what he does with his is not yours. He's your husband, not your 6 year old son. He doesn't need your permission and definitely doesn't need you deciding if you'll "let" him have dreads or not.

YABU.

Dreads are cool IMO

I have dreads and wash them every couple of days. They dont stink.

Dirty greasy hair wont lock up.

I think some people use wax etc to try and get them to lock up, but that would make them not be able to wash and dry properly, which might cause mould, which would obviously smell.
That isnt all dreads though. Not even most.

My DH has dreadlocks although they are quite common in his culture. He used to think of himself as a Rastafarian but he was never that serious about it so he dropped that but has kept his dreadlocks. He has very thin locks thinner than my little finger and about shoulder length

It is a family thing for us as I help him maintain them and believe me they take a lot of maintenance. For example, he washes them once a week with shampoo and then we wash them in sodium bicarbonate and tea tree oil once a week to eliminate any smell. His hair needs twisting whenever I have time generally in the evening when we are watching telly. At least once a week I crochet some of his locks as the roots grow out fast and need to be bound back in together. Your DH is he decides to go ahead with it should find a professional dreadlock hairdresser to get advice and help maintaining them.

I always run appearance changes by him first

Do you mean you tell him your getting your haircut or whatever? Has he ever outright told you you can't do something? If he has, you have bigger issues than him wanting dreads. If he hasn't then you are being ridiculous to think you can dictate what he does with his own hair.

I run image changes by him for much the same reason as why I don't stop going to the gym and gain 70 lbs instead. I care about his opinion. I want my husband to find me attractive. It's not like I can actively stop him from dreadlocking his hair, but I am allowed to hate it, right?

Of course! But you can't stop him from doing it, which is what you posted about.

A friend of mine runs a dreadlock maintenance service, she hates dreadlocks but the money is so good that she can't afford to give it up.

The lesson here is - dreadlocks are high maintenance and/or expensive to keep.

Huh? Why do people think dreadlocks are dirty??? Also they are not a fashion trend

My DP has waist length dreads, washes his hair once a week (uses head and shoulders 2-in-1 ) and they are relatively low maintenance. I chop about 12" off every few years...His hair is naturally curly.

I often joke you could use his hair like tree ring dating '...ooh, it's a bit blonder there, must have been a hot summer...'