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Not to put DS in a suit for our wedding?

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SneakretSanta · 21/03/2015 18:19

We're getting married in July, he'll be almost 1. DP (and MIL) want him in a little suit as they think he will look 'adorable'. While this is obviously true can you tell he's my pfb? I also think he will look a little bit naff, and more to the point be hot and uncomfortable. I think a smart but comfy romper suit (or two, for when he inevitably ruins the first one) would be much nicer for him? He'll still be such a baby- I think he should be dressed as one? Or AIBU? It is a pretty one-off occasion, and the tiny suits are undeniably cute...

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pamish · 21/03/2015 21:52

I got flamed on FB for criticising a photo that had won prizes - of a one-year-old in a TIE and shirt and long trousers. Even asking the question, why, was not allowed. So I answered on the lines of compulsory gendering. They didn't get it.
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trickyex · 21/03/2015 21:56

Yanbu, suits are not for young babies.
Go with what you are comfortable with and what will be practical for DS.

StrawberryTot · 21/03/2015 21:57

YANBU put him what you want.

My DS wore a Darth Vader outfit, we got married in church too and it didn't burn down, nothing went wrong and people still talk about it today. A success in my book.

Toadsrevisited · 21/03/2015 21:58

How about a beautiful jumper or tank top? This is great farmyarddesign

missusdaly · 21/03/2015 22:44

Yep, totally agree with the tuxedo onesie idea. Unless you also feel that's too dressy and formal. Your DS will undoubtedly look adorable whatever you decide to put him in. Good luck with the big day.

Nanny0gg · 21/03/2015 23:37

The Monsoon linen shorts and smart t-shirt would be lovely, comfortable and smart with matching soft shoes, so either a natural or navy colourway.

As well as suits, I hate, loathe and detest ties of any description on babies.

Charlotte3333 · 21/03/2015 23:44

DS1 was 4 when we got married and wore Monsoon navy linen trousers, a linen shirt and little open-toe sandals. Because it was sweltering and frankly, there's nothing worse than a hot and stuffy pissed-off child. Put him in something he can crawl about in that won't have him hot and bothered. My Mum put DS1 in a tuxedo at her wedding when he was 2, he looked adorable for the first three minutes, threw his suit jacket down the aisle and shouted "no more" as I stood, mortified, at the front of the church while DH chased him about whisper-shouting "look, I've got sweets, bloody come here will you". He ruined his trousers by crawling about on the church floor and doing knee-slides on the grass outside. I still don't think she's forgiven him for destroying his outfit (he chucked his bow tie out of the car window as DH was driving them to the reception).

Small children don't care about that stuff. Nor should they.

tallulahlah · 21/03/2015 23:53

YANBU
My DS was 5 when we got married and I wanted him to look like a little boy, he wore smart trousers with a trendy shirt, waistcoat and matching tie. It was smart without making him look like an old man.
I don't like traditional wedding suits, even DH didn't wear a 'wedding suit'. Sorry if I offend anybody but I think the whole British tradition of all the guys wearing matching suits which they'd never normally be seen dead in is pretty naff and very dated and to drag a baby in to the naff suit brigade is even worse.
A nice smart outfit which he will be comfortable in and maybe even be able to wear again wil be lovely x

CountryMummy1 · 21/03/2015 23:54

Not a suit, please no! I think babies should be babies. However, I took it to the extreme with DS2 and he wore nothing but babygros until he was 12 months Blush It was easy and he was comfy,

squoosh · 21/03/2015 23:56

You'll get 10 extra MN points for that.

PunkAssMoFo · 22/03/2015 07:29

Love the verbaudet outfit p&p posted. Or navy chinos + shirt. You'll get more wear from them than a tux romper (which is a bit naff).
I think at 1 year they are getting a little big for just romper suits. A suit would be ridiculous though.

ThursdayLast · 22/03/2015 07:34

Gosh. Who knew babies in suits were so controversial?

Failedspinster · 22/03/2015 07:37

Yanbu. Suits are naff on babies. I absolutely didn't want one for ds1 at our wedding, who was ten months at the time. Sadly the in laws bought one and rather than cause a row I caved and put him in it. Sigh...

LadyGregory · 22/03/2015 08:01

If that kind of thing bothers you, I would have said that putting a baby/toddler in a suit for a wedding was a class marker.

Madamecastafiore · 22/03/2015 08:06

DS wore navy tailored shorts, a white polo neck and white socks and navy buckle shoes when we got married and he looked adorable and wasn't hot at all.

I hate kids wearing suits and think it looks stupid.

RedButtonhole · 22/03/2015 08:20

DS was 9 months when I took him to my Aunt and Uncle's wedding. I had him in an outfit I got from next- soft, light coloured trousers, matching waistcoat which was loose enough still to be comfy and a little stripey shirt. The waistcoat didn't get worn again but trousers and shirt did.

I agree that a baby wont be comfortable in a full suit and will probably look ridiculous.

TinyTearsFirstLove · 22/03/2015 08:28

For my friend's wedding, we managed to get a really cute romper suit that looked like a dj and a tuxedo. It was from Sainsbury's and they don't sell it any more but you might be able search on the internet for a romper suit that looks like a suit as a compromise?

TinyTearsFirstLove · 22/03/2015 08:31

H and M do clothes that look like a suit but are nice and soft, not stiff and formal.

musicalendorphins2 · 22/03/2015 08:48

I'd put him in a boys Christening outfit, preferably a one piece romper style. Like this or this or this , and here is a pinterest full of variations.
www.pinterest.com/explore/boy-christening-outfit/

paxtecum · 22/03/2015 08:59

I went to a christening , the baby boy was wearing a linen suit, shirt and tie.
He looked like Charlie Drake.

thenextday · 22/03/2015 09:02

Lol @ Charlie Drake.
That's a name you don't hear much anymore, thank God.

AngryBeaver · 22/03/2015 09:06

I don't know who Charlie Drake is. But,can I just offer up, a smart top and pants from monsoon...or m&s!
Just NOT a blimmin' suit...cos, yuk.
And congratulations, have a wonderful day Grin

Booboostoo · 22/03/2015 09:19

I got this for DS who will be 9mo for a wedding in July. It's soft and comfortable material, a onesie so easy for diapers and looks very cute.

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00PUJWCDY?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00

OhisHOME · 22/03/2015 10:01

My friend had her ds in dungarees for there wedding he was gorgeous.