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Original poster

To think kids should not be out at 8am

127 replies

MozzchopsThirty · 21/03/2015 11:17

Screaming and shouting in the street, riding fucking scooters past my bedroom window, not even outside their own house!!!!

Would it kill people to amuse their children until 9am
I don't have my dcs this weekend, and even if I did they wouldn't be out in the street at 8am

AIBU to want a lie in until 9am, I get up for work every bloody day!!

Or am I turning into grumpy old woman?

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squoosh · 21/03/2015 22:37

Horses for courses. More people are awake at 8pm than at 8am so noise at 8pm seems more acceptable to me.

DialsMavis · 21/03/2015 22:39

I have never let mine out into the garden before 9am....
But I am a lazy bitch that likes a lie in, I only work 60 hours a week at the moment.

AtiaoftheJulii · 21/03/2015 22:53

Why do people who are natural 'larks' see it as a moral superiority?

Charlotte3333 · 21/03/2015 23:00

My ridiculous children wake up at the asscrack of dawn every single day. I don't tend to let them outdoors til gone 9am as I think the neighbours don't deserve to be punished because my children are fools. I did make an exception last summer when our bonkers neighbour had a party til 4am with loud blaring music and all manner of shouty-japes that woke up both children several times. When they got up at 6.10 the following day (mardy-arsed because they'd both been up through the night) I put them on the trampoline and told them to have a jousting match with their foam swords. Mad neighbour had behaved fairly well since.

squoosh · 21/03/2015 23:04

I like your style Charlotte, and turn of phrase.

PavlovtheCat · 21/03/2015 23:13

...would then have to run around shutting windows and getting the washing in whilst they sat outside until 11pm laughing and drinking. This is a couple in their late sixties

I am not sure if the fact that they were laughing until 11pm or that they were in their 60s made my face go Shock. You wanted to move because older people had some fun, and not even when the children were there ?

Original poster
MozzchopsThirty · 21/03/2015 23:42

I've closed my windows tonight just in case Hmm

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squoosh · 21/03/2015 23:44

Empty your chamber pot out the bedroom window if you hear the little blighters tomorrow morning. That'll shut them up.

Original poster
MozzchopsThirty · 21/03/2015 23:48

GrinGrinGrinGrin

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AliceMcGee · 22/03/2015 07:39

I think the majority of non-lazy people are awake by 8am if they haven't been out on the piss the night before. quiet times are 11 pm to 7am .the council for exams doesn't send it's bin lorries round before 7 am

Mumbehavingbadly · 22/03/2015 09:00

YANBU. Where ever I have lived in the world, during school holidays and at weekends the whole neighbourhood seems to shift down a gear. It's generally accepted that except for the unavoidable noise is kept to a minimum inthe street between 9pm and 9am and especially at weekends which is why most councils don't do bins or recommend early/late building work Sat/Sun.

I think it's inconsiderate and rude (and lazy parenting) to turn your children onto the streets at 8am.

If more parents taught their children, patience/delayed gratification, self restraint/ personal discipline and respect for others we'd have less anti social behaviour all round.

For all the 'little Jonnie has been up since 5 and needs to let off steam and if i don't let him out on his bike now, regardless of the antisocial hour, he will grow up obese' comments,
I read

'I can't be arsed about anyone else so long as the kids are not screaming in my ear and if anyone complains I will use the fresh air and exercise thing to try to push my guilt onto them'

Parenting is hard sometimes but we all need to put the effort in if we don't want to raise a selfish, me me me, I want, now generation.

pictish · 22/03/2015 09:19

I do agree that the occasional "8 isn't early! Mine have been up since 5 and by 8 they're champing at the bit to get out there!" post has made me Hmm

You'd love me as a neighbour because I wouldn't mind your kids being out at eight o'clock...I'm an early riser and not particularly noise sensitive. However, I do have the capacity to understand that 8am is quite early for the weekend actually...and a long lie is a simple pleasure that many people enjoy. To have that continually disrupted by next door's shrieking kids in the garden/outside your window at 8am week after week would be aggravating as hell.
The "tough shit...we're more important" attitude sensed in one or two posts on this thread, is pretty galling.

Springtulip · 22/03/2015 09:23

Great post Mum

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 22/03/2015 09:24

I think 8am is a bit early at weekend too.

As for "suck it up buttercup'..only response to that phrase is "suck this up"

I am mature.

Littlefish · 22/03/2015 10:09

Alice - I am far from being a lazy person. I get up every week day between 5.30 and 5.45. I work long days and continue to work at home in the evening. However, at weekends, I have the chance to sleep past 8 o'clock to catch up. Dd and DH also sleep in at weekends.

Does that make me lazy. Absolutely bloody not.

I would be extremely unimpressed if any of my neighbours were making unnecessary noise before 9am or after 9pm on a regular basis and they would have every right to feel the same about me.

pictish · 22/03/2015 10:20

Don't feed Alice. She's either winding us up or lacking empathy. Don't let her bother you.

JillyR2015 · 22/03/2015 10:25

We go to bed early and I get up early.
However I hope the children would always be quiet (and it's 10.25am and no sign of my 3 sons yet - teenagers etc. I have been working since before 7am)

Our local council has rules for builders - no work before 8am I think it is except Sundays when no noice/works at all. that seems quite reasonable for me.

However you don't know what their parents have been through. They may have been up all night with the baby and been keeping children quiet from 5am. Boots wax ear plugs are very cheap and obscure all noise. I recommend them.

CharityD · 22/03/2015 10:36

You'd love me as a neighbour because I wouldn't mind your kids being out at eight o'clock...I'm an early riser and not particularly noise sensitive. However, I do have the capacity to understand that 8am is quite early for the weekend actually...and a long lie is a simple pleasure that many people enjoy. To have that continually disrupted by next door's shrieking kids in the garden/outside your window at 8am week after week would be aggravating as hell.
The "tough shit...we're more important" attitude sensed in one or two posts on this thread, is pretty galling.

Same here. It doesn't happen around here, although there are loads of kids in our estate. Totally agree, it's a simple pleasure, and shouldn't be too much to ask to not have kids shrieking at 8 a.m. on the one day that someone who is up early every other day might get a bit of a lie in.

Pyjamasandwine · 22/03/2015 10:37

Yep 9am is ok but earlier a bit selfish.

DakotaFanny · 22/03/2015 10:43

9am in this house too.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 22/03/2015 10:44

Our council also has rule about no building work before 8. But sends bin lorries round at 6.45am on a Sunday Hmm

calmexterior · 22/03/2015 10:51

Agree with going with the council guidelines. Although I was in the 8am is beginning of ok camp, to clarify I'd only let them into the garden at that time in the summer when it has been light for ages. Neighbours have usually started mowing lawns by then... I don't think you can expect a noise free lie in past 8am in the summer you lucky gits who get one

Morelikeguidelines · 22/03/2015 10:54

Tbh noise of children outside doesn't really affect me. Noise of children in my house wanting me to do stuff does! We don't turf our kids out to play at all because of where we live.

I wouldn't mind what time children were out in the street we live on (although they don't really because of traffic) but the houses are old and set back a bit from pavement. So it wouldn't affect us as much as if we live somewhere where houses are more compacted together.

The noise of beaty music or people talking in that drunken way where voices go up and down for no reason would disturb me.

Morelikeguidelines · 22/03/2015 10:55

Ear plugs are your friend though.

Hulababy · 22/03/2015 11:00

I think playing outside noisily at 8am on a weekend isn't on really. You do have to consider other people when you live in a residential area.

I reckon 9am on a Saturday; 10am for a Sunday.
Weekday mornings are different as most people are out and about - would still say not playing outside noisily before 8am though; leaving for work/school is a bit different and not generally prolonged noise.

Likewise at the end of the day you need to consider your neighbours and not be outside making a whole load of noise late on. Friday/Saturday night - a bit later than what is acceptable for Sunday to Thursday.

Its just about common courtesy and thinking of others.